update: I talked to my colleague’s husband and now she’s making false complaints about me by Alison Green on October 14, 2013 Remember the letter-writer who had talked with her coworker’s husband at an office party, which seemed to lead to the coworker making constant false noise complaints against her? Here’s the update. All was quiet after I spoke to my boss……until Friday! She sent another email, copying my boss and his boss. This time she memorized […] Read the full article →
update: after I resigned, my boss asked me to drive 1,000 miles at my own expense by Alison Green on October 14, 2013 Remember the reader who resigned only to have her boss insist that she drive 1,000 miles — at her own expense — to return company files and other property, even though there was a local office much closer to her? Here’s the update. After shipping some things (with a detailed inventory list) and dropping the […] Read the full article →
how long should it take a new hire to get up to speed? by Alison Green on October 14, 2013 This post was originally published on July 13, 2010. A reader writes: I’m a former academic mathematician who left academia, because…well…suffice it to say that I didn’t go to college for nine years to become a glorified babysitter. After a job offer from a Very Large Government Agency fell through, I found myself severely underemployed. […] Read the full article →
update: how do I warn new hires about a toxic colleague? by Alison Green on October 13, 2013 Remember the reader who asked how to warn new hires about an especially toxic coworker? Here’s the update. I used essentially the wording you suggested with both of my new colleagues, separately. Person 1 (my replacement in my old job) very obviously knew immediately what I was getting at; I know from continued correspondence with […] Read the full article →
update: how can I get away from work on the weekend and in the evenings? by Alison Green on October 12, 2013 Remember the reader who asked how to get away from work on the weekends and the evenings, because her managers never stopped emailing? Here’s the update. I have a happy update to this. First off, I changed the email settings on my phone so that mail needs to be manually checked on the weekends. I […] Read the full article →
update: my boss leads a clique that gossips about other staff and now wants to have a drunk sleepover by Alison Green on October 11, 2013 Remember the reader whose boss led a gossipy clique and wanted to have a drunk sleepover? Here’s the update. At first, I tried to keep to myself and remain professional, but interactions with my coworkers kept getting worse: I would work an event while they would smoke outside or bring their children and entertain them, […] Read the full article →
update: the new assistant who missed work her third day on the job by Alison Green on October 11, 2013 Remember the manager whose new assistant called in on her third day on the job because she needed to help her mother with something? Here’s the update. The situation actually worked itself out. When she came back the next day, I sat her down, made sure her mother was ok, and then explained to her […] Read the full article →
update: my stalkerish ex-boyfriend is applying for a job at my company by Alison Green on October 11, 2013 Remember the reader whose stalkerish ex-boyfriend was applying for a job at her small company, after she’d repeatedly told him to stop contacting her? Here’s her update. Things went REALLY well and went really great! Thank you SO MUCH for your help. What I was so nervous about coming forward about — what I had […] Read the full article →
open thread by Alison Green on October 11, 2013 It’s our biweekly open thread! The comment section on this post is open for discussion with other readers on anything you want to talk about. If you want an answer from me, emailing me is still your best bet, but this is a chance to talk to other readers. Read the full article →
5 more reader updates by Alison Green on October 10, 2013 Five more reader updates: 1. The reader whose paychecks were bouncing I went to the labor board about the whole thing (you should’ve seen the look on the labor commissioner’s face when he figured out the company tried to pay their bounced check with a bounced checks – it was quite pained) – the gears ground […] Read the full article →