open thread – December 12, 2014 by Alison Green on December 12, 2014 It’s the Friday open thread! The comment section on this post is open for discussion with other readers on anything work-related that you want to talk about. If you want an answer from me, emailing me is still your best bet*, but this is a chance to talk to other readers. * If you submitted […] Read the full article →
my phone number used to belong to a sex worker, how can I get access to my work email at night, and more by Alison Green on December 12, 2014 It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. My phone number used to belong to a sex worker I recently got a new phone number when I switched cell phone companies. My resume has been updated with the new phone number and sent out to a few different openings. I googled my phone […] Read the full article →
update: my coworker kissed me and now his wife is emailing me by Alison Green on December 11, 2014 Remember the letter-writer whose married coworker kissed her and who then received an angry email from the coworker’s wife? Here’s the update. Thank you for posting my letter in the first place, Alison. I felt really supported by the readers and read each and every comment. The advice I received was so insightful and on […] Read the full article →
update: my coworker constantly asks us to loan him money by Alison Green on December 11, 2014 Remember the letter-writer with a coworker who was constantly hitting up everyone in the office for money? Here’s the update. I had loaned the man $150 before Christmas last year. He would always have the money “next week.” But he always had money for cigarettes. I told him in the spirit of Christmas I would […] Read the full article →
Christmas tantrums, Hanukkah balls, and other workplace holiday disasters by Alison Green on December 11, 2014 I recently asked readers to share their weirdest or funniest stories related to holidays at the office, and from an annual Christmas tantrum-thrower to Hanukkah balls, you delivered. I’ve compiled my 10 favorites. 1. Christmas tantrum “A woman who had worked at our office for more than twenty years pouted and threw tantrums like a child if […] Read the full article →
I don’t want to give 360 feedback to my coworker by Alison Green on December 11, 2014 A reader writes: I am in the same title and report to the same manager as another person, with whom I sometimes work tangentially on projects (we work together maybe 2-5% of my time). That’s great, since working with him generates 80% of all the agita in my current role. He’s wound really tight, is […] Read the full article →
does salary reflect the type of candidate an employer is seeking, my former coworkers aren’t allowed to talk to me, and more by Alison Green on December 11, 2014 It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. Does salary reflect the type of candidate an employer is looking for? I’ve seen a job for which I seem to tick all the boxes, but the salary is high — a lot higher than what I am currently making. I am now doubting whether […] Read the full article →
update: my coworker went through my trash can to get me in trouble by Alison Green on December 10, 2014 Remember the recent letter-writer whose coworker went through her trash can to try to get her in trouble? Here’s the update. The following week I arrived at work on Monday, and was promptly let go by my director (I know! We’d built such a great rapport!) for the following reason: “it’s just not working out.” While I […] Read the full article →
update: I called the police on an angry driver, who turned out to be a coworker by Alison Green on December 10, 2014 Remember the letter-writer who was berated by an angry driver, who then turned out to be a coworker? Here’s the update. Two business days after the first incident, I pulled into my deck to find the same car parked in my reserved spot, and the man standing alongside his car. I was freaked out and […] Read the full article →
how to coach an irritated manager to stop yelling by Alison Green on December 10, 2014 A reader writes: I supervise four managers. One (who is brilliant and extremely receptive to feedback) is a younger manager who supervises someone 20+ years her senior who is argumentative and disagreeable. I can give the manager guidance about handling the argumentativeness from this employee (who is on a PIP for other issues), but – […] Read the full article →