a coworker at my new job is someone I slept with four years ago, changing the way we do raises, and more by Alison Green on December 6, 2016 It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. A coworker at my new job is someone I slept with four years ago I’m in my 20s and have just started a three-month internship with a large company. Today was my first day where I met a variety of business leaders, as well as the […] Read the full article →
update: I’m in trouble for what I wore when when my boss made me pick him up for the airport in the middle of the night by Alison Green on December 5, 2016 ‘Tis the season of updates from letter-writers! Between now and the end of the year, I’ll be posting at least one update every day (including weekends!) from someone who had their letter answered here this year. I received a lot of updates this year, which I’m very excited about. Today’s update is from last week’s […] Read the full article →
the rules you need for office gift-giving (which your coworkers are probably violating) by Alison Green on December 5, 2016 Every December my mail fills up with letters from people wondering how to navigate office holiday gift-giving customs. Do you have to give a gift to your boss? How do you deal with that coworker pressuring you to give more than you can afford to a holiday gift collection? What gifts are appropriate for colleagues […] Read the full article →
my boss says I shouldn’t expect people to tell me when they’re too busy to talk by Alison Green on December 5, 2016 A reader writes: I recently received my six-month probationary performance review from my supervisor. I am a new attorney, but spent three years before law school and most of my legal internships working in office settings. While I anticipated some of the concerns about my performance, I felt blindsided by much of the feedback, especially […] Read the full article →
is it unprofessional to write notes on your hands, should you take severance or a PIP, and more by Alison Green on December 5, 2016 It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. Is it unprofessional to write notes on my hands? I work in a fast-paced environment that’s semi-open to the public, and am frequently running around the office and public area juggling urgent tasks and sudden requests. To keep track of things-I-must-not-forget-but-can’t-do-right-this-very-second, I write on my […] Read the full article →
update: how can I keep my star performer, without being able to pay or promote him (while his less competent coworker earns double)? by Alison Green on December 4, 2016 Remember the letter-writer in August who was trying to figure out how to keep his young star performer without being able to promote him or give him much more money … while his slower, less skilled coworker earned almost double? Here’s the update. To clarify some things, my company has a two-tier partnership structure. There […] Read the full article →
weekend free-for-all – December 3-4, 2016 by Alison Green on December 3, 2016 This comment section is open for any non-work-related discussion you’d like to have with other readers, by popular demand. (This one is truly no work and no school. If you have a work question, you can email it to me or post it in the work-related open thread on Fridays.) Book recommendation of the week: Domestic […] Read the full article →
5 more updates from letter-writers by Alison Green on December 3, 2016 Here are five more updates from people who had their letters answered here this year. (I’ll be printing updates daily or close-to-daily through the end of the month. We’ve got a lot this year!) 1. Advising a great applicant to run far, far away from my troubled workplace (#2 at the link) I really appreciated your […] Read the full article →
4 updates from letter-writers by Alison Green on December 2, 2016 Here are four updates from people who had their letters answered here this year. 1. My coworker is threatening to lie to get our manager in trouble Just wanted to thank you for posting my letter and your answer. It really helped, as well as did the wonderful and helpful comments. I did meet with […] Read the full article →
how can I get my coworker to stop talking to me all the time? by Alison Green on December 2, 2016 A reader writes: I recently joined a new company and got to know a colleague of mine, who happened to come on board on the same day as me. According to her, it’s for this reason that she confides a lot of her personal and professional matters to me during office hours. I even got […] Read the full article →