the Ask a Manager book is coming by Alison Green on June 21, 2017 Y’all, I wrote a book. ASK A MANAGER: Ask a Manager: How to Navigate Clueless Colleagues, Lunch-Stealing Bosses, and the Rest of Your Life at Work will be published by Random House/Ballantine next spring. The book — which is nearly all new content that you haven’t read here — takes on more than 200 difficult conversations you might need to have during your career (with your boss, your coworkers, your employees, or your job interviewer) and gives you the wording to do it … focusing especially on the awkward and cringey conversations that people dread most. In a decade of running this site, the theme I’ve seen over and over is that people shy away from having difficult conversations because they don’t know what to say. Often they worry it’ll feel aggressive or adversarial, and they’re looking for wording that won’t kill the relationship. And understandably so! Your quality of life at work can depend on having decent relationships with your coworkers and your boss, so the stakes are high. But the stakes are high if you don’t speak up too. As I wrote in the intro to the book: “When the issue is serious – for example, if you’re not getting paid on time – not speaking up could mean not paying your bills. But even when the issue isn’t so crucial – when it’s, say, asking your coworker to turn his music down or to stop calling you ‘m’lady’ – not speaking up means not having perfectly reasonable conversations, all in the name of avoiding pretty minor awkwardness. If you speak up – not adversarially, not aggressively, just calmly and matter-of-factly – you’ll build a reputation as someone who’s able to navigate tough situations with relative grace. You’ll also significantly improve your quality of life at work, because when you speak up appropriately, you improve your working conditions and your relationships.” I’m super excited for this to come out and believe me, I will tell you when it’s ready for pre-ordering. You may also like:my friend wrote a novel at work - should I tell our employer?my coworker self-published an X-rated book and won't stop promoting it at worka decade of Ask a Manager { 317 comments }
Ask a Manager* Post authorJune 21, 2017 at 1:25 pm I’m so excited to finally be able to talk about this! It’s been 10 long months of keeping quiet about it (it was sold at auction last summer but just announced today). I spent all last fall and the early part of this year writing it (if you noticed me seeming grumpier than usual, that was why), and finally it’s public!
Ask a Manager* Post authorJune 21, 2017 at 1:31 pm Oh, and it’s mainly new content — not an anthology or anything like that, although there are a few “greatest hits” in there.
Turtlewings* June 21, 2017 at 1:39 pm I was already delighted and I didn’t even figure it would be new content! This is so exciting!
Hazelnut* June 21, 2017 at 1:50 pm I think they will make great gifts to anyone at any stage in their career!
Vicki* June 21, 2017 at 7:44 pm This ^^^. Some things really need to be preserved in print. (If not, put them in the second edition!)
ArtsNerd* June 21, 2017 at 10:44 pm What needs to happen is that they make an appearance in the ‘endorsement quotes’ every book gets: “Holy Hannukah balls! This is the book everyone who has ever had to earn a living really must read. The most insightful, engaging, and thoughtful scripts for the most awkward workplace conversations.” – Jack Donaghy, NBC Executive
Emmie* June 21, 2017 at 11:51 pm Her blog, and now her book improves my work performance. I’ve grown my interpersonal relationships from her wise advice. It’s been painful, but fruitful. – Waukeen, Chocolate Teapot Maker
LBK* June 21, 2017 at 4:15 pm Awesome! Was worried I’d exhausted all the content already after hours of trawling through the archives back when I first started reading the site.
Editrix* June 21, 2017 at 4:33 pm A friend at your publisher knows I’m a fan and mentioned this to me–I am OVER THE MOON for you (and a tiny bit jealous of your editor, but I work on completely different types of books so it’s fine, I guess). Congrats!
motherofdragons* June 21, 2017 at 1:34 pm Gosh, book AND house stuff…that’s a lot! What a busy year you’ve been having! Super happy for you and can’t wait to read it!
Antilles* June 21, 2017 at 1:36 pm Congrats! I know approximately zero about the world of publishing, so forgive me for being an idiot – is there a specific release date? Or is “next spring” about as specific as they tell you until shortly before release? Also, is this dead-tree only or is there a purchaseable version from iBooks/Kindle/equivalent?
Ask a Manager* Post authorJune 21, 2017 at 1:44 pm It should be May/June of next year. And it will be in print and ebook format as well.
Liz Lemon* June 21, 2017 at 1:54 pm Just in time for new grads in my life entering the workforce! Congrats Alison! I’m very excited to buy & read your book.
Optimistic Prime* June 22, 2017 at 1:17 am best graduation gift ever, the kind they don’t realize the value of until later!!
Elizabeth West* June 21, 2017 at 1:57 pm Oh good for print version–I can recommend it to people who don’t internet. :)
Kimmy* June 21, 2017 at 3:51 pm Yay! I buy for a public library system and I’ll be ordering lots of copies in print and ebook for our patrons! Do an audiobook too!
Paige Turner* June 21, 2017 at 3:59 pm That will be so great to recommend to people! I should buy a copy for my alma mater’s career center :)
S-Mart* June 21, 2017 at 4:26 pm From the various comments I’ve seen on them, I think most of our alma mater’s could use us buying them copies of Alison’s book. I know mine certainly could.
Lunchy* June 22, 2017 at 8:01 am OMG, imagine if she could contact the LW or have some of us read the letters!
Fushi* June 21, 2017 at 8:08 pm Yay for ebook option! \(^^)/ I will most definitely purchase the bajeebus out of it.
DArcy* June 21, 2017 at 10:06 pm Oh I am *so* buying the e-book. AAM makes me smile so much on top of being a useful resource for learning professional norms.
Lady Alys* June 22, 2017 at 8:03 pm P E R F E C T just in time for my daughter’s college graduation! Congratulations!!!
Kyrielle* June 21, 2017 at 1:38 pm Eeee congratulations and yay! So excited for you and for this book!
Ask a Manager* Post authorJune 21, 2017 at 1:40 pm OMG yes. The auction was the most exciting week of my life. I am not kidding.
K-Stew* June 21, 2017 at 1:46 pm I’d love to know more about the auction if you’re willing to share. Congratulations!
Ask a Manager* Post authorJune 21, 2017 at 1:50 pm I just talked about this below so I’m going to copy/paste it here, but am happy to answer any questions about it! It was a really fascinating and fun process. The way it works is that your agent sends out your proposal to editors at publishing houses who they think might be interested. If multiple editors want to buy it, then it goes to auction, which is a several-day period where different publishers bid on it. It can go in rounds where they put in their first bids, and then the second round is, for example, the three highest bidders, who are all told what the highest bid is that they have to beat from the last round. And so on. It doesn’t necessarily just go to the highest bidder — you then consider all the offers that are made and pick the one you want to accept. (You might care about things beyond price, like what kind of rights they’re asking for, the editor you most want to work with, etc.)
Ask a Manager* Post authorJune 21, 2017 at 1:52 pm Also, non-fiction is generally sold on spec (meaning a proposal and maybe a sample chapter), so you don’t write the whole thing until after it’s purchased. (Whereas fiction is generally sold fully written.)
hermit crab* June 21, 2017 at 2:28 pm Wow, that is all so interesting! I bet it must feel really weird (but also validating) to have people trying to out-bid each other for your work. Congratulations!
Olive Hornby* June 21, 2017 at 9:23 pm Not to nitpick, but very few auctions are “several days” long–only very hotly contested ones! Not surprised this was one. Congratulations!!!
Detective Amy Santiago* June 21, 2017 at 1:53 pm Is THIS what has been keeping you so busy lately?!?!
Detective Amy Santiago* June 21, 2017 at 2:02 pm Yay! I figured it had to be something big!! Congrats :)
Ask a Manager* Post authorJune 21, 2017 at 2:55 pm Ha, no, there is indeed an actual new house as well.
Princess Consuela Banana Hammock* June 21, 2017 at 1:59 pm This is super exciting—congratulations, Alison! I’m really looking forward to reading it, too!
Lore* June 21, 2017 at 2:01 pm Not nearly *as* exciting, but I am thrilled that the book sold to my employer and I’m actually going to be working on it. PS: you have a lot of (other) in-house fans.
Ask a Manager* Post authorJune 21, 2017 at 2:30 pm That’s amazing that you’re going to be working on it! Be nice to it.
zora* June 21, 2017 at 6:30 pm THIS IS AMAZING!!!! I am so excited to read the book, Congrats Alison!
Fiennes* June 21, 2017 at 2:21 pm Congrats on the huge accomplishment! I’d love to see many of your philosophies become standard professional best practices, honestly – a wider audience is all to the good.
Ask a Manager* Post authorJune 21, 2017 at 2:44 pm I did! It’s above! Let me know if you want more — I can talk about this endlessly.
TKA* June 21, 2017 at 7:09 pm It would be interesting if you could write a post about it – only if you are up for it. :-) But it does sound thoroughly fascinating! I imagine rapid-fire audition paddles in an elegant ballroom with a flamboyant auctioneer shouting “Going once, going twice, sold to the lovely publishing house on the left!”
Liane* June 21, 2017 at 2:49 pm Having to keep quiet is so crazy-making. I have to do that when I playtest and it must be a zillion times worse with your own book. And I will be getting this! Can’t wait!
Enya* June 21, 2017 at 3:46 pm Pardon my ignorance, but what does “it was sold at auction” mean in the publishing world?
Astor* June 21, 2017 at 3:47 pm What great news! And I’m hopeful that you’re going to be able to enjoy some extra rest for the next little while from at least some of the time you’ve been putting in. Congratulations!
Southern Ladybug* June 21, 2017 at 4:03 pm And I’ll have my own copy, and one for every graduation gift for the students in my life for a long, long time!
Emmie* June 21, 2017 at 4:26 pm Many congratulations! I can’t wait to buy it! You are one strong woman… buying and selling a house; auctioning, writing, and promoting a book; and maintaining a top notch blog. Well done!
Partly Cloudy* June 21, 2017 at 1:49 pm A workplace is a workplace is a workplace, right? Even though your odds of dealing with a fish microwaver are probably lower than those of us with office jobs. ;) Congrats, Alison!
Jennifer Needs a Job Making Thneeds* June 21, 2017 at 3:59 pm Yeah, but she’ll have lots of “stinky coworkers and clients” issues to make up for it.
Optimistic Prime* June 22, 2017 at 1:19 am I actually remember at least two past letter writers being yoga teachers!
HMM* June 21, 2017 at 1:30 pm This is fantastic! I may try to pitch to my HR director getting a copy for every intern as a parting gift. Your work has truly been invaluable and I’m so glad you have another venue in which to preach the gospel!
MechanicalPencil* June 21, 2017 at 1:49 pm “Hi, welcome to Company. No, this book shouldn’t give you a sense of pending doom…”
Optimistic Prime* June 22, 2017 at 1:20 am Ooh, that’s a good idea. I participate in our intern mentoring program here and I think it would be a great intern gift.
Ask a Manager* Post authorJune 21, 2017 at 1:35 pm I’m pretty sure the deal with book tours is that they don’t sell books like they used to, and so they’re not as much of a go-to strategy anymore unless you’re a celebrity. But I don’t actually know that for sure.
Paige Turner* June 21, 2017 at 4:05 pm I’d love to get a signed copy at Politics & Prose made out to my user name haha!
ArtsNerd* June 21, 2017 at 10:41 pm YES I’m excited to see you at P&P (or Kramers, or Busboys, but preferably Politics & Prose!) You’d also be an excellent addition to Keppler’s or Hook’s Books speaker roster if you want to go that route…
Detective Amy Santiago* June 21, 2017 at 1:55 pm A friend of mine recently published a book and he’s far from a celebrity, but he’s been on tour promoting it, so… it’s possible :)
Lore* June 21, 2017 at 4:36 pm It really depends. An author has to be willing to jump in and be available and enthusiastic but for the right combination of author and audience, events are definitely a thing that happens. Maybe less a book “tour” than a series of carefully planned and located book “events”–but we’ve been doing more and more stuff that lets readers meet and interact with authors, with a decent amount of success.
Lore* June 21, 2017 at 1:58 pm Ask your publicist! It’s true, they won’t do tours for everything, but for books where an audience is likely to actually turn up for events, it’s not off the table.
Bibliovore* June 21, 2017 at 8:30 pm Oh, I can see the letter now. One of our employees has been posting publicity and marketing recommendations on our author’s blog. These matters are usually contract considerations. I appreciate her enthusiasm but now I’m juggling expectations where there wasn’t even an issue. Please come to Minneapolis. I will pre sell the books. Perhaps we can run a contest for where to launch?
hayling* June 21, 2017 at 2:13 pm Pleeeeasssee do a book tour! And come to San Francisco! Tell them how your loyal readers are begging to meet you in person!
Hibiscus* June 21, 2017 at 2:23 pm If you have the following, which you do, a tour might pay off. Anne Helen Petersen’s 2nd book came out yesterday, and she’s doing 5-6 dates. She used to write for The Hairpin, writes for Buzzfeed now, writes pop culture analysis.
Ask a Manager* Post authorJune 21, 2017 at 2:36 pm I pre-ordered her book months ago! I’m excited to read it.
firebolt* June 21, 2017 at 3:06 pm I definitely consider you a celebrity and would 100% show up if you did a tour in Boston.
Rachel 2: Electric Boogaloo* June 21, 2017 at 3:41 pm I would totally come to a book tour event in the Chicago area.
Mallory Janis Ian* June 21, 2017 at 3:56 pm OMG if you did a tour, I’d be right there! It would be super-awesome to meet you, AND it would bring other local AAM readers out where I could find them.
Mallory Janis Ian* June 21, 2017 at 3:58 pm Plus I really, really want a copy inscribed “To Mallory Janis Ian”!
Chinook* June 22, 2017 at 3:26 pm Ooohhh…now there is something I would love to have. Not only the book (which I will buy copies of for everyone kid I know graduating) but one inscribed to commentator name. Do you think we will have to pay extra for that? Or buy 5 and get the 6th one inscribed?
Detective Amy Santiago* June 21, 2017 at 4:48 pm Oh, man, yes! It would be great to network with local AAMers.
Mallory Janis Ian* June 21, 2017 at 6:00 pm I’ve got my t-shirt all ready for if/when the tour happens (spoiler alert: it’s my Gravatar and user name on a t-shirt). https://www.customink.com/lab?cid=rcc0-00b2-6tze
Mimmy* June 21, 2017 at 8:32 pm I too would love to meet other AAM readers, though I don’t think there’s very many regulars in my neck of the woods :( (New Jersey) By the way, I love your t-shirt design! (in reference to your later reply)
SL #2* June 22, 2017 at 12:10 am YES. I would totally show up and Alison would have to sign a tea pot for me. But you’re right, it’d give all of us a chance to meet other local AAM readers.
Me2* June 22, 2017 at 1:00 am Come to Portland, Oregon! I’ll be first in line, wearing a “My name is Wakeen” name tag, and asking you to sign many copies, many, many copies.
RKB* June 21, 2017 at 1:32 pm I was about to ask when we would see your expertise in brick and mortar stores! Congratulations!
motherofdragons* June 21, 2017 at 1:33 pm How exciting!!! Congratulations!! I will be watching for pre-order info!
NoCalHR* June 21, 2017 at 1:34 pm Congratulations! Can’t wait to order it, and, following CH and RKB, think a book tour would be wonderful!!
The Mighty Thor* June 21, 2017 at 1:35 pm If I could comment with a meme, it would be Shut Up and Take My Money!
AnotherAlison* June 21, 2017 at 3:26 pm My meme reply would be “Are you kitten me right meow?” Because, yay, an exciting surprise, and AAM cat stuff obviously.
Mona Lisa* June 21, 2017 at 1:36 pm Congratulations on this major accomplishment!! I can’t wait to read it!
offonaLARK* June 21, 2017 at 1:37 pm Congrats! Super exciting news. I’ve been telling my friends about the blog for ages so I will pass this on too!
Mimmy* June 21, 2017 at 1:37 pm Congratulations Alison!! I will definitely be purchasing this! By chance, do you know if it’ll be available in ebook format, e.g. for Kindle?
Lynne879* June 21, 2017 at 1:37 pm I’m happy to say that I will definitely be one of the first ones to pre-order it :)
Liane* June 21, 2017 at 2:53 pm For your sake, I don’t know whether to hope it does or doesn’t mention the horrifyingly infamous Hannukah balls.
Wendy Darling* June 21, 2017 at 1:41 pm omg. Did the m’lady thing actually happen? Please tell me that happened.
Ask a Manager* Post authorJune 21, 2017 at 1:45 pm Well, I’m sure it’s happened somewhere. But I’ve never had a letter about it, if that’s what you mean!
Astor* June 21, 2017 at 3:46 pm There is a local breakfast place near where I live that I had to stop going because someone somehow trained all of their servers to call women “m’lady”. I thought it was one single terrible dude, but multiple (male and female) servers called me m’lady over a period of a few months, and I just had to stop going. (I am 100% baffled by it.)
Wendy Darling* June 21, 2017 at 5:11 pm I dated a guy in high school who called people m’lady. He also wore a black trenchcoat and a fedora with graphic tees, dad jeans, and white Reebok sneakers every day. I had, like, legendarily poor taste in high school.
Clever Name* June 21, 2017 at 5:15 pm The only place where m’lady is an acceptable salutation is a renaissance festival.
PB* June 21, 2017 at 1:43 pm Congratulations, Alison! This is fantastic news! Will there be a print release, and if so, will there be opportunities to get it signed?
Ask a Manager* Post authorJune 21, 2017 at 1:45 pm It will be in print, yes, and I’m not sure about signing opportunities but I will definitely keep you posted here as plans roll out.
The Other Katie* June 21, 2017 at 1:58 pm Oh my gosh, yes to the signings!!!! Can we start a petition to your publisher? Just kidding…unless it really would help!
KTM* June 21, 2017 at 1:44 pm How exciting! Congratulations Alison!!! I am very curious about the auction comment – I’m completely unfamiliar with publishing. Are there book auctions where publishers bid on work??
Ask a Manager* Post authorJune 21, 2017 at 1:48 pm Yes! So the way it works is that your agent sends out your proposal to editors at publishing houses who they think might be interested. If multiple editors want to buy it, then it goes to auction, which is a several-day period where different publishers bid on it. It can go in rounds where they put in their first bids, and then the second round is, for example, the three highest bidders, who are all told what the highest bid is that they have to beat from the last round. And so on. It doesn’t necessarily just go to the highest bidder — you then consider all the offers that are made and pick the one you want to accept. (You might care about things beyond price, like what kind of rights they’re asking for, the editor you most want to work with, etc.)
KTM* June 21, 2017 at 2:05 pm I’ve never heard of that – so cool! And how validating to have people jockeying for your book :)
Catalyst* June 21, 2017 at 1:45 pm Squuueeeeeeeeee!!!!! I’m so excited for this. Congratulations Alison, that is so amazing!
LG* June 21, 2017 at 1:45 pm This is SO exciting, Alison! Congratulations! I can’t wait to read it, and am so happy for you.
Lucille B.* June 21, 2017 at 1:48 pm I look forward to clearing all of my HR reference books out of my bookcase like Kramer (http://imgur.com/gtZqotr) and replacing them with your book. :)
Jessica* June 21, 2017 at 1:51 pm Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!!!! Congratulations!!! Looking forward to it. :-)
Jimbo* June 21, 2017 at 1:52 pm Yay! This is great news! Congratulations — I will definitely buy it (I have a well-worn copy of your last book Managing to Change the World)
BRR* June 21, 2017 at 1:54 pm This is incredibly exciting! Congratulations! Exactly what you just said, this site has taught me to speak up in a way that’s polite but assertive and my quality of life has gone way up. I’m amazed how I used to let something that could be solved in a few seconds by talking directly with someone bother me for hours.
Ask a Manager* Post authorJune 21, 2017 at 2:01 pm Good! When I thought about what I might write a book on, I really thought this is the thing that people seem to want most — the language suggestions and scripts and explanations of why you say this but you don’t say that, and so forth.
hermit crab* June 21, 2017 at 2:25 pm I second BRR’s comment 100%! Actually, yesterday a junior staff person in my office came to me for advice on how to have a difficult conversation with his manager — and I was really excited to put some AAM-inspired advice into action.
Optimistic Prime* June 22, 2017 at 1:31 am Me too! And taught me that it is normal to simply ask for the things that you need or want.
Statler von Waldorf* June 22, 2017 at 11:50 am It’s funny, because her scripts are just as useful for someone coming from the opposite side. I tend to be ridiculously blunt and straight forward, and I still find a lot of her scrips very useful. A little tact and sensitivity can go a long way in the workplace.
Chinook* June 22, 2017 at 3:29 pm Exactly. I never know if I am being too blunt or too wishy-washy. Your scripts really help me to see where the line is.
Brogrammer* June 21, 2017 at 1:54 pm Aaaaaaaaaaaah this is awesome! Also: I can never remember, are the “You may also like” linked posts at the bottom auto-generated? Because one is about the coworker who self-published an X-rated book, and I actually laughed out loud at my desk.
Ask a Manager* Post authorJune 21, 2017 at 2:28 pm Sometimes I select them (if I don’t, the site chooses them automatically). I picked these :)
Ask a Manager* Post authorJune 21, 2017 at 1:55 pm And, it is the Deal of the Day at Publishers Marketplace, which is the big site for publishers and agents: https://twitter.com/jennybent/status/877572805751123969 (Forgive my unseemly excitement. I won’t do this often!)
A Beth* June 21, 2017 at 2:11 pm Congrats! There is nothing unseemly about being excited about such a big accomplishment!
Princess Consuela Banana Hammock* June 21, 2017 at 2:14 pm OMG, don’t apologize—this is totally worthy of excitement, and it’s ok to share it! I suspect many of us feel that excitement for you, too, and enjoy these updates. :)
2 Cents* June 21, 2017 at 2:19 pm Congratulations! You totally deserve to be every bit as excited as you are! Can’t wait to read it! :)
CM* June 21, 2017 at 2:29 pm That is awesome! And congratulations on getting a second book published! Can’t wait to read it in the spaces between endlessly refreshing this website.
Djuna* June 21, 2017 at 3:03 pm You have every right to be super-excited – this is so awesome. Dang right there was an auction, your publisher is lucky to have you. Can’t wait to read it, and recommend it! You’re also with an amazing literary agency, so double congrats!
Emmylou* June 21, 2017 at 5:50 pm I love love love this and your excitement! If you tour to TOronto I’ll be there ;-)
Anlyn* June 21, 2017 at 1:59 pm Oh, nice. I can see this being helpful in non-work situations too. I look forward to reading it. Congratulations!
Mananana* June 21, 2017 at 2:02 pm Let me add to the congratulatory chorale! A new house and a book? And you’ve managed to stay on top of AAM? You are amazing.
Ask a Manager* Post authorJune 21, 2017 at 2:27 pm I’ve been dying to move for so long and knew I couldn’t even think about it while I was writing the book. But the minute I was done, I was on redfin, etc. looking at houses.
Corky's wife Bonnie* June 21, 2017 at 2:03 pm YAY!! Congratulations, what an accomplishment! I can’t wait to read it, cheers to you!
Librarygirl* June 21, 2017 at 2:03 pm Congrats Alison! I’ve just added it to my Fall book buying list for my library. I’m sure students will find it useful you know once it makes it out of cataloguing. ;)
SaraV* June 21, 2017 at 2:04 pm *Kermit flails all the way down the hall* YYYYYAAAAAAAAYYYYYYY!!!!!!! *ahem* Glad I’m at home. Congrats, Alison!
Grumpy* June 21, 2017 at 2:14 pm Please make it into a movie? Maybe even an HBO series? That Reese person can dye her hair and play you. Oh I would love this and binge watch.
Southern Ladybug* June 21, 2017 at 4:11 pm Movie rights can’t be far behind :) Though I was picturing Amy Adams as Alison….
Optimistic Prime* June 22, 2017 at 1:33 am Ohmygoodness how awesome and funny would a workplace hijinks movie be based upon Alison’s letters/books (or the spirit of them)? And the lesson can be to speak up for yourself and be assertive!
Peep* June 21, 2017 at 2:21 pm YAY!!! Congratulations! I really want to put this on our graduation table next summer. I tell all my work friends (bookstore work and museum work, applicable to both so hard!!!) about AAM and now I can shove this book at them too. Please do a book tour with a dramatic reading of letters! Hahah. :) But seriously, congrats and hooray for the writing being done!
Kathy* June 21, 2017 at 2:56 pm OMG I would absolutely love to attend a dramatic reading of some letters from this site!
Princess Consuela Banana Hammock* June 21, 2017 at 3:21 pm You know what this reminds me of? Those “read aloud” skits that Jimmy Fallon does with celebrities, where they’ll read someone’s Facebook rant or Yelp review out loud. It would be amazing if someone made a few videos with actors reading some of the letters as a teaser/promo for the book. Or if the audiobook were read aloud dramatically by a rotating cast of readers (kind of like The Love Book).
Lore* June 21, 2017 at 4:33 pm Oh, that would be so fantastic. Alison, pitch all of this to your publicist/marketing team!
Peep* June 21, 2017 at 7:05 pm Yes!!! omg. Can you imagine like Parks & Rec people or the Office people reading them? Squee! Hahah. Even just regular old actors or voice over people would make a cool promo!
Peep* June 21, 2017 at 7:07 pm (Also please please please come to Los Angeles, we have actors. And indie bookstores. And lots of crazy bosses!)
SometimesALurker* June 21, 2017 at 2:26 pm Woohoo! Looking forward to reading it, looking forward to gifting it to people. I’m working on a book proposal myself in a totally different field, and it’s both intimidating and inspiring to see people I admire get through the process.
The Crusher* June 21, 2017 at 2:30 pm I’m so glad to hear this, and extra pleased it will be new content!
Ally in Wanderland* June 21, 2017 at 2:34 pm I’m uber excited for you. Your blog is my go to resource for anything work related. Although I’m a lurker, I read your blog everyday as if it was my morning paper. Your “How To Get A Job” ebook is my number resource since I’m looking for jobs. I’m sure this book will be a page turn and I can’t wait to read it.
Brian* June 21, 2017 at 2:35 pm Yessss! I’ve said it before – you’re a #%&@ing national treasure. Now in book form!!
The Strand* June 21, 2017 at 2:43 pm Congratulations!! I’m sure it will be a best-seller. I know that’s what lots of people say when someone writes a book, but legitimately, I think this book will help so many people… Congrats!
Macedon* June 21, 2017 at 2:45 pm Congrats on the book! A friend’s had her novel auctioned and the official announcement took 8 months, the wait killed her.
Bekx* June 21, 2017 at 2:52 pm Just adding to the congratulations! Alison, I’ve been reading this site daily since 2012 and I am so happy for you!!
firebolt* June 21, 2017 at 2:53 pm This is amazing news! Also thank you for providing me with an easy gift for holidays and birthdays for the next several years, because I will definitely be giving this to any and everyone I know who has a job!
ZSD* June 21, 2017 at 3:06 pm Congratulations, and thanks for picking out all my nieces’ and nephews’ graduation gift!
Jane Gloriana Villanueva* June 21, 2017 at 3:07 pm This is amazing; congratulations!! I would buy greatest hits, but for it to have new content is beyond my wildest! So happy for you in this accomplishment and I hope it is a great success. You have at least 300 ready-made pre-orders here, so yay!! :)
Green Tea Lover* June 21, 2017 at 3:09 pm I will definitely be ordering one! I have been a long time reader and got a fantastic new job using the tips that you have given :) Can’t wait for pre-order!
OrangeYouGlad* June 21, 2017 at 3:10 pm I am so excited for this!!! Yay!!! I want copies for everyone I work with- I reference your conversation examples all the time.
Steph B* June 21, 2017 at 3:15 pm I audibly gasped when I read this post. Count me in as another that will pre-order this book! Congrats!!
starsaphire* June 21, 2017 at 3:22 pm Oh wow oh wow oh wow!!! Congrats!!! May this be the great “life changing book deal” that we writers all dream of. So happy for you!!!
Key to the West* June 21, 2017 at 3:23 pm I hope it’ll be available to buy in the UK (or that it can be shipped out here!)
Ask a Manager* Post authorJune 22, 2017 at 4:55 pm We just sold the Chinese rights. Hopefully more foreign rights are to come!
EL* June 21, 2017 at 3:25 pm Congratulations! I first found Ask A Manager two years ago when I was having to decide whether or not to tell my boss I was job-hunting. Now it’s daily reading for me.
Ask a Manager* Post authorJune 21, 2017 at 3:26 pm Also, y’all, I had to do a full-on professional photo shoot to get an author photo. That was just as weird as any photo-shy among you are thinking it would be.
ThatOneRedhead* June 21, 2017 at 4:15 pm I’m so curious about how this went! Did you do your own hair and makeup? Provide your own clothing? Did you have an idea of how you wanted your photo to look?
Ask a Manager* Post authorJune 21, 2017 at 4:46 pm I had someone do my hair and makeup. I wore my normal clothes though. Although now you’re making me regret not renting, like, a ball gown. I looked at a bunch of author photos beforehand. It seems like 90% of female authors are next to a tree in their book photos, while far fewer men are. So I decided I definitely didn’t want to be under a tree. I ended up sitting on some stairs. You can actually see it on the About page now: https://www.askamanager.org/about
Merci Dee* June 21, 2017 at 5:15 pm I agree — the picture is lovely! That shade of blue does wonderful things for you.
Optimistic Prime* June 22, 2017 at 1:36 am I love that author photo, it looks great. Nonetheless, my head picture of you will always be you sipping a teacup, presumably with a cat on your lap just outside the frame.
Ask a Manager* Post authorJune 21, 2017 at 4:47 pm Ha, see above. Female authors and foliage is a thing.
The Other Dawn* June 21, 2017 at 3:27 pm This really is not a good reason for not posting adorable pictures of your cats on the weekend open thread. (Just kidding–congratulations!!!)
LS* June 21, 2017 at 3:31 pm Wonderful and amazing news! Mazel tov :) I’m definitely planning to buy a copy, not only because it will be awesome, but also as a way of showing my appreciation for everything I’ve learnt from you, without ever once having written in myself. I find myself giving advice which I know comes from AAM… can’t wait to see it in real.
Lizzy* June 21, 2017 at 3:34 pm Y’all, my life is complete. Or rather, it will be next spring when I buy this book. :)
Quinalla* June 21, 2017 at 3:35 pm Congratulations! Can’t wait to read it and so excited it is mostly new content :)
Rookie Manager* June 21, 2017 at 3:37 pm Congratulations! This must be so exciting for you. Make sure that book tour cones to the UK too, we definitelyneed a hand with awkward conversations!
Venus Supreme* June 21, 2017 at 3:43 pm I can’t wait to pre-order. Will you have a book tour/can you sign my book?! You’ll be able to meet us without our creative usernames!
AFRC* June 21, 2017 at 3:46 pm CONGRATULATIONS!!! So happy for you. I’m buying this for all of my coworkers!!
ThursdaysGeek* June 21, 2017 at 3:51 pm Oooh, I’m imagining a Miss Manners guide to Co-workers type book. That would be delightful. I expect it will be fun even if it isn’t as I imagine.
rageismycaffeine* June 21, 2017 at 3:56 pm Oh congratulations Alison!! I cannot wait to pre-order. And then get it in my grubby little hands.
Elizabeth H.* June 21, 2017 at 4:04 pm Congratulations Alison! That is such awesome news! I’m so excited. I will recommend it to everyone and give it as a gift.
Intern Sun* June 21, 2017 at 4:05 pm I am super excited for this! This definitely beats manually printing out my favourite AAM posts and stapling them together to put in my binder!
Mrs. Fenris* June 21, 2017 at 4:10 pm Congratulations, Alison! That is an amazing achievement. I know it’s going to be terrific. I look forward to pre-ordering it.
Lady Ariel Ponyweather* June 21, 2017 at 4:15 pm Congratulations! You must have worked so hard on it. Looking forward to reading it.
Anon for this thread* June 21, 2017 at 4:26 pm If this were a Facebook post, I would like it. (or love it, actually) If it were on Twitter, I’d retweet it. But since it’s your website, I will just say, “hallelujah!” and “I hope it sells 20 million copies and goes into multiple reprints.” The minute this one hits the Barnes and Noble website, I’m ordering it.
KTZee* June 21, 2017 at 4:33 pm Wow, this is so exciting! My employer has been investing heavily in training about how to have difficult/awkward/stressful conversations this past year. Your book sounds like a perfect complement/supplement to the training program we have brought in. Can’t wait for it to be published so I can check it out and potentially recommend it to the powers that be!
Brittany* June 21, 2017 at 4:35 pm I AM SO EXCITED FOR YOU/THIS/EVERYTHING. Just so incredibly excited. You deserve every single ounce of this!
someone101* June 21, 2017 at 4:44 pm Excellent! Congratulations, such an amazing achievement! Ask a Manager has helped me so much in my own awful work situation, even though I’m now free (there’s a story here if you want it ) I read everyday! Well done again!
LeRainDrop* June 21, 2017 at 4:51 pm OMG, I cannot wait to get this book in my hands! Congratulations, Alison!
Jenn* June 21, 2017 at 4:55 pm This is a great resource — I wish I had had the site and it earlier in my career. Congratulations and well done! You inspire me to be better quite often.
Miso* June 21, 2017 at 4:59 pm Congratulations! I wish someone who really knows what he/she’s doing would translate it to German… So you know, I can just steal the phrases verbatim and don’t have to use my own awkward translation. And then I’d totally buy it for our library – I swear, sometimes I’m so sad we don’t have English books…
esemes* June 21, 2017 at 5:20 pm By just being your (very awesome) self, you’ve created a revolution of people who are becoming comfortable with speaking up. Thanks for being you! This is incredible news! :)
Merci Dee* June 21, 2017 at 5:24 pm I’m so excited for you! I can only imagine how much blood, sweat, and tears you’ve put into this book, and it’s just wonderful that it’s coming to fruition for you. I can’t wait to pre-order my copy! Every time that I get frustrated with the way things are going at work, I hop onto the website and easily find a situation that’s much worse than mine. Then I can sit back and say, “at least my boss isn’t threatening to fire me if I don’t donate my liver to his brother!”, or “at least my boss didn’t fire me because I wore pajamas to pick him up from the airport at 3 a.m.!” So, thanks for that, Alison — you’ve done a great job of maintaining a website where we can commiserate, bolster each other up, and realize that we all really are in this together. It’s been invaluable! And it’s so wonderful that we get to return the favor now, and let you know (in a very tangible, monetary way =) ), that we’re all right there with you, too!
Product person* June 21, 2017 at 5:35 pm Excellent idea for a book, Alison! Shows you listened to what your readers struggle with more often I’ll finally be able to retire the Evernote file I have with “how to say anything” that I copy from your blog because it sure makes my life easy to figure out how to say things diplomatically but also assertively :-). I’m sure it’s going to be a big hit.
Alex* June 21, 2017 at 6:47 pm Congratulations! I don’t have anything to add except I’m so excited to read it!
Vancouver Reader* June 21, 2017 at 6:57 pm Congratulations Alison! I find your advice translates to all areas of life, and I can’t wait to read this.
Caitlin* June 21, 2017 at 7:24 pm Congratulations! (I was just wishing for a book like this a few hours ago — a wish that prompted me to come back and catch up with the site — and am so excited that it will be coming out! Consider my pre-order locked. :) )
GlamNonprofitSquirrel* June 21, 2017 at 7:43 pm What awesome news! Joining the chorus of congratulations and I have to tell you … I think I send a dozen people here a week. I’m an active member of a large FB community group for nonprofit professionals (I’m a moderator) and we get so many questions about cover letters, resumes, ways to resign, how to talk to challenging employees and I pretty much cut/paste my referral to your blog. Also, I’ve done some tongue in cheek pretend responses for a few folks in the group (mostly for my entertainment) and my fictional colleagues are Murgatroyd and Percival. :) P.S. Best Fiends? OBSESSED. Darn you!
Jane Dough* June 21, 2017 at 9:02 pm Not to be a brown noser, but how have you managed to buy a house, write a book, and run a popular website all at once? I haven’t finished unpacking from moving in 2008.
AngelicGamer* June 21, 2017 at 9:48 pm YAY! I love your column, even though I don’t have anything to write in about, and this is awesome. Congrats!
No Name Yet* June 21, 2017 at 10:40 pm Just wanted to add a giant mazel tov to all of the congratulations here. I’m so looking forward to reading your book!
MommyMD* June 21, 2017 at 11:51 pm A book is a great accomplishment. The Harry Potter books were rejected by publisher after publisher until Scholastic picked them up. To be published is an extraordinary achievement.
Junior Dev* June 22, 2017 at 1:07 am Congratulations! On the radio and in print! I’m excited to read it!
Wrench Turner* June 22, 2017 at 6:05 am Mazel tov! That’s super cool. With watching AAM grow over the years, I’m… *snif … just… so proud.
Discordia Angel Jones* June 22, 2017 at 6:11 am YES!!! COUNT ME IN! This made my Thursday morning, awesome news Alison! :D
Zathras* June 22, 2017 at 8:15 am Awesome, congrats! And that’s next year’s Christmas gifts all sorted. ;-)
Golden Lioness* June 22, 2017 at 10:59 am Coming out of lurking to join the chorus of congratulations! This is such a great achievement and very well deserved! I can’t wait to buy your book!
BeenThere* June 22, 2017 at 11:03 am Congratulations :) I am so excited about this I’ve been waiting for a book!!! Please have a signed edition with a chocolate teapot t-shirt!
Statler von Waldorf* June 22, 2017 at 11:45 am I’m thinking of a word that starts with “C” and ends with “ongratulations.” Way to go Allison!
JuniperGreen* June 22, 2017 at 2:27 pm Congrats!!!! This is incredible – I was just thinking to myself the other day about how maintaining AAM must basically be a full time job and how incredible it is you do so many other things… little did I know a BOOK was in the works! Can’t wait to read it. Do keep us posted when it’s available for pre-order.
WildLandLover* June 22, 2017 at 5:00 pm Congratulations, Alison! I look forward to reading it and will be sure to recommend it to my colleagues, friends, and family! And where do you get the energy to do the things you do? What’s your secret? I could use an energy-booster at this late stage of my career . . . 3 years to retirement . . . :-)
beanie beans* June 22, 2017 at 8:00 pm How exciting! Congratulations! A book will be a fantastic resource for so many people!
Rebecca* June 25, 2017 at 6:37 am Congratulations! That’s so exciting! Looking forward to seeing the pre-order announcement!
KerstenFromNJ* June 26, 2017 at 10:53 pm Yaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyyy!!! I am forever telling people about your blog but I think they’re all more comfortable with a book because they don’t understand the internet I guess. How thrilling, though, I very much look forward to reading it! Congratulations!
Anne (with an "e")* June 28, 2017 at 10:58 pm I am sooooo excited about this book. I will be buying a copy. Congratulations.
LaurenL* June 30, 2017 at 2:11 pm This is amazing news! Congratulations! I tell everyone about you and often refer coworkers and friends to your posts for a myriad of issues. I can’t wait to read your book!