update: I’m a finalist for a job where it sounds like people work a ton of hours by Alison Green on December 26, 2017 Remember the letter-writer who was a finalist for a job where it sounded like people worked a ton of hours? Here’s the update. As I described in my letter, I was really uneasy about the situation. Shortly before you published my letter, the employer and I had a scheduled follow-up conversation where I was up-front […] Read the full article →
updates: the work note left on a grave and more by Alison Green on December 26, 2017 Here are updates from five people whose letters were answered here this year. 1. My coworker keeps asking his wife for input on our projects I think my coworker figured out based on our ignoring his wife’s input that we weren’t going to listen to it, because he hasn’t since tried to do that again! I […] Read the full article →
how long should you wait to move on when you haven’t heard back from an employer? by Alison Green on December 26, 2017 I’m on vacation this week, so here’s a reprint of a post from 2012 on a topic that comes up all the time. A reader writes: I’ve read your thoughts on candidate time versus employer time, and have found it to be 100% accurate (and understandable — the massive priority that my application is to me […] Read the full article →
debriefing a project without personal attacks, letting people know I’ll be their reference, and more by Alison Green on December 26, 2017 It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. Making sure a project debrief doesn’t become a personal attack on a coworker We’re a small company of five (three full, two part-time) that sells, let’s say, teapots. The holidays are always a crazy time for us with everyone working full-steam. Going into this holiday, we knew […] Read the full article →
updates: the tonsils tyrant, the old job gossip, and more by Alison Green on December 25, 2017 Here are updates from four people whose letters were answered here in the past. 1. My boss is insisting I get my tonsils out My situation has change dramatically. I visited my doctor again and told her about my manager’s demands. My doctor told me she’d support me in taking a few mental health days off […] Read the full article →
Christmas open thread – December 25, 2017 by Alison Green on December 25, 2017 It’s the Christmas open thread! The comment section on this post is open for discussion with other readers on anything that you want to talk about — work-related, not work-related, doesn’t matter. * If you submitted a question to me recently, please don’t repost it here, as it may be in the to-be-answered queue :) Read the full article →
I’m being assigned “make up” work before maternity leave, coworker is pushing prescription pills, and more by Alison Green on December 25, 2017 It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. I’m being assigned “make up” work before my maternity leave I work in an academic library in a tenure-track position. All of the librarians are expected to work some evening and weekend shifts, which are divided up equally according to a schedule created by a […] Read the full article →
updates: the acne, the client apology, and more by Alison Green on December 24, 2017 Here are updates from four people who had their letters answered here in the past. 1. Could my acne be keeping me from getting a job? (first update here) I can’t say much without giving too many potentially identifying details, but I learned that our turnover is absolutely insane. We have lost several people already […] Read the full article →
weekend free-for-all – December 23-24, 2017 by Alison Green on December 23, 2017 This comment section is open for any non-work-related discussion you’d like to have with other readers, by popular demand. (This one is truly no work and no school.) Book recommendation of the week: Pachinko, by Min Jin Lee. It’s a four-generation saga of a Korean family living in Japan. Someone recommended this last week and it’s fantastic. […] Read the full article →
updates: the pregnancy paranoia, the helicopter aunt and uncle, and more by Alison Green on December 23, 2017 Here are updates from five people whose letters were answered here this year. 1. My boss is paranoid I’m going to get pregnant and leave Before I had a chance to approach my boss about this, she actually announced she was leaving to take a new job. I happened to be in an interview process for […] Read the full article →