I feel unsafe in the neighborhood I work in by Alison Green on February 14, 2019 It’s the Thursday “ask the readers” question. A reader writes: I am a woman in my late 20s, and work for a nonprofit in a mid-sized city. I grew up in a bigger city than this one, and went to college in a city with a higher crime rate than where I am now, but […] Read the full article →
I can’t keep helping friends with their writing, office butter bonanza, and more by Alison Green on February 14, 2019 It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. How do I tell friends and family I can’t keep helping with their writing? I’m an English teacher and over the years many of my friends and family have asked me for feedback on their writing. Now that I have a family, the demands on […] Read the full article →
how do I not lose hope in a highly competitive field? by Alison Green on February 13, 2019 A reader writes: I’m in a very competitive, very niche academic field. I’m writing because I wonder if you and your readers can tell me how to keep going when I’m losing hope as this roller coaster of a search keeps on rolling. I have been applying for jobs since last year, and I have […] Read the full article →
my coworker is unbearably negative by Alison Green on February 13, 2019 A reader writes: I have to sit with a coworker twice a month shut in an office by ourselves for several hours — and all she does is complain and groan about life and process all of her problems. I’d especially love your advice on ways to say “Hey, you’re so negative that I actually […] Read the full article →
new manager keeps telling us we’re frustrated and defensive by Alison Green on February 13, 2019 A reader writes: A few months ago, we gained a new departmental manager (Kelly). Some background: Kelly is about 10 years younger than the two most senior people in our department, of which I am one, and comes from another industry so there’s a steep learning curve. My colleague (Alex) and I are finding conversations […] Read the full article →
someone is stinking up the bathroom by my office, I’m forced to use a nickname, and more by Alison Green on February 13, 2019 It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. Someone is stinking up the bathroom next to my office I am writing this partially to check myself. Please feel free to tell me to grow up and that this shouldn’t bother me! I have a senior level position at a non-profit organization. Our offices […] Read the full article →
our firm asks job candidates, “what salary do you need to turn up happy every day?” by Alison Green on February 12, 2019 A reader writes: I have a question about the way my employer works out salaries for new employees. Some background – I work for a law firm. About 20 lawyers and 30 support staff. I started as a very junior lawyer and have advanced to the point where I have significant input in hiring (including […] Read the full article →
how do you hide your job hunt when you’re working full-time? by Alison Green on February 12, 2019 A reader writes: Can you tell me how to interview for new jobs while I’m still employed? I’ve been in my first professional job for three years since graduating from college and am beginning to think about looking for another job and moving on … except that I can’t figure out how to interview without […] Read the full article →
how should employers respond to employees being doxxed? by Alison Green on February 12, 2019 A reader writes: How should employers respond to employees being doxxed? Background: I was in a popular online fitness forum last night when several posters complained about being doxxed by a popular Instagram fitness/weight-loss account. The influencer (or someone on her behalf) was looking up accounts that she felt had trolled her, trying to find […] Read the full article →
employee says he has a problem with authority, coworker is praying for me to have a baby, and more by Alison Green on February 12, 2019 It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. My employee warned me he has a problem with authority Six years ago, I took a job in a new department. At the time, I only had two years of managing experience and I was eager to not step on the toes of my new […] Read the full article →