May 2019

my boss drinks and expects me to drive with him

A reader writes: I work for a tiny company — the two owners/managers are a married couple and then there’s me and one other employee who are admin. About once every six weeks, the owners take us out for a fancy lunch downtown. This is considered a perk and a treat but it is definitely […]

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the destructive myth of the “dream job”

When you write a work advice column, you hear from a lot of people who think they’ve found their “dream job” – often based on little more than an ad. They write to me wanting to know how to get hired at the dream job, or how to get over not being hired, or excited […]

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my coworker wants us to call her boyfriend her “master”

I’m taking today off, so this is a reprint of one of my favorite letters. I originally published this at New York Magazine in September 2016. A reader writes: An employee, “Sally,” started at our workplace about a year and a half ago. She’s not my subordinate, but is the subordinate to a peer of mine, […]

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weekend free-for-all – May 11-12, 2019

This comment section is open for any non-work-related discussion you’d like to have with other readers, by popular demand. (This one is truly no work and no school.) Book recommendation of the week: The Farm, by Joanne Ramos. This is one of my favorite books of the year so far! It’s about a luxury baby surrogate business and […]

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a happy ending

A reader writes: I’ve been reading your blog for many years, starting when I was miserable and stuck in a role with an awful manager, and your advice has made a big impact on how I approach work and applying for jobs. Most recently, I was laid off last fall from my job at a […]

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open thread – May 10-11, 2019

It’s the Friday open thread! The comment section on this post is open for discussion with other readers on anything work-related that you want to talk about. If you want an answer from me, emailing me is still your best bet*, but this is a chance to talk to other readers. * If you submitted […]

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