update: I’m training my replacement — and she’s condescending, rude, and won’t listen by Alison Green on December 11, 2019 It’s “where are you now?” month at Ask a Manager, and all December I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. Here are five updates from past letter-writers. Remember the letter-writer who was training her replacement, and the replacement was condescending, rude, and wouldn’t listen? The letter-writer was switching […] Read the full article →
my employee gave me a hideously awful gift … and more holiday gift questions by Alison Green on December 11, 2019 Over at New York Magazine today, I answered a bunch of questions from readers about holiday gift-giving at work, including: My boss wants an expensive gift! How can I discourage employees from giving me gifts? What about giving gifts to coworkers? Should I send a gift to a potential employer? Is it appropriate to give […] Read the full article →
update: my coworkers complained that the look of my breasts post-mastectomy is making them uncomfortable by Alison Green on December 11, 2019 It’s “where are you now?” month at Ask a Manager, and all December I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. Remember the letter-writer whose coworkers complained that the look of her breasts after her mastectomy was making them uncomfortable? Here’s the update. First, as many people guessed, I […] Read the full article →
my boss says no one is allowed to get pregnant, asking job candidates if they’ve ever disparaged an employer, and more by Alison Green on December 11, 2019 It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. My boss says no one is allowed to get pregnant I work in a very tight-knit office of about 15 people, and most of us are women in our 20’s and 30’s. We all work hard and have duties split up fairly, though none of […] Read the full article →
update: do I need to work with the woman my father had an affair with? by Alison Green on December 10, 2019 It’s “where are you now?” month at Ask a Manager, and all December I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. Remember the letter-writer whose office was considering hiring the woman her father had recently cheated on her mom with (while the woman was the letter-writer’s roommate, no less)? […] Read the full article →
update: my boss’s angry husband calls multiple times a day for her by Alison Green on December 10, 2019 It’s “where are you now?” month at Ask a Manager, and all December I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. Remember the letter-writer who was being barraged by angry phone calls from her boss’s husband? Here’s the update. I spoke to Jane and outlined my concerns in full […] Read the full article →
how much detail do you have to give when you call in sick? by Alison Green on December 10, 2019 A reader writes: My friends and I (all 25ish, fairly new to the working world) are divided on how to call in sick. Mainly, how much detail are you supposed to go into about what is wrong with you? (“I’m not feeling well”? “I have a cold”? “I was up all night with terrible diarrhea”?) […] Read the full article →
update: my office has a burn book we all have to read and sign by Alison Green on December 10, 2019 It’s “where are you now?” month at Ask a Manager, and all December I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. Remember the letter-writer whose manager wrote down everyone’s minor mistakes in a notebook and made everyone else read and sign it? Here’s the update. On the evening you […] Read the full article →
coworker is wearing BDSM jewelry, employers wants to post photos of my kids, and more by Alison Green on December 10, 2019 It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. My coworker is wearing jewelry that signifies a dominant/submissive relationship I recently realized that one of my coworkers wears D/s jewelry every day. (Funny enough, I wouldn’t have recognized it had I not been a devout reader of your blog and read the letter from […] Read the full article →
update: my boss is my new next-door neighbor by Alison Green on December 9, 2019 It’s “where are you now?” month at Ask a Manager, and all December I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. Remember the letter-writer whose department head was moving in next door? Here’s the update. My update is (thankfully!) pretty boring. My firm’s partner and I hardly interact outside […] Read the full article →