updates: the bombed interview, the cheating coworker, and more by Alison Green on June 5, 2020 Here are three updates from past letter-writers. 1. I bombed in an interview I asked for Thanks for publishing my letter. I appreciate your advice and all of the input from commenters. It helped me get a better understanding of how I had (and hadn’t) affected my goals, as well as the crisis of confidence […] Read the full article →
it’s your Friday good news by Alison Green on June 5, 2020 It’s your Friday good news, with more accounts of success even in this weird time. 1. I have been at my job for a year and it is just okay. The work isn’t exciting, but I make more money than at my last job and my coworkers are nice. Well, that was until Covid-19 and […] Read the full article →
open thread – June 5-6, 2020 by Alison Green on June 5, 2020 It’s the Friday open thread! The comment section on this post is open for discussion with other readers on anything work-related that you want to talk about. If you want an answer from me, emailing me is still your best bet*, but this is a chance to talk to other readers. * If you submitted […] Read the full article →
my coworker throws tantrums and women have to soothe him, questions to ask an external recruiter, and more by Alison Green on June 5, 2020 It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. Telling friends at work I don’t want to talk about dieting Personally, I think diets belong in the list of things you shouldn’t discuss at work. I have a history of disordered eating and, while my relationship with food and exercise is mostly healthy now, […] Read the full article →
my husband is my boss — and we’re getting divorced by Alison Green on June 4, 2020 A reader writes: I am asking for advice about how to handle my impending divorce at work. I work at a large nonprofit in a specialist capacity that is a recognized priority for the company, but organizationally belongs to one of five departments. I’ve worked here for 10 years. I was headhunted by the executive […] Read the full article →
I’m the only black person on my team and it seems to be “business as usual” this week by Alison Green on June 4, 2020 A reader writes: This has been a very difficult week for me. Right now, thankfully, we’re still being allowed to work from home if we choose. I’m the only black person on my team and the only non-white person on my team, and in every meeting this week I’ve just felt as if there’s this […] Read the full article →
update: my boss wants to bring me back into the religious fold by Alison Green on June 4, 2020 Remember the letter-writer whose boss was trying to bring her back into the religion he shared with her family? The first update was here, and here’s the latest: So, right before my letter was published I had one extremely uncomfortable interaction at an off-site office event with (former) Big Boss which crossed entirely new lines. I […] Read the full article →
how can I become more self-aware and not be a jerk at work? by Alison Green on June 4, 2020 In response to the letter earlier this week from someone who had behaved badly at work and seemed to be avoiding responsibility, a reader asked this: What advice do you have from preventing this kind of personality from developing in the first place? I’m a year out from college (2019 grad) and have been working for […] Read the full article →
I brought up a painful subject for my interviewer, will my yelling boss reflect badly on me, and more by Alison Green on June 4, 2020 It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. I accidentally brought up a painful subject for my interviewer I brought up a subject I definitely shouldn’t have in an interview I just had, and I am not sure how to apologize/recover. During the interview I had today, I was asked to talk about […] Read the full article →
my boss keeps interrupting our phone calls, and I feel disrespected by Alison Green on June 3, 2020 A reader writes: I’m writing in to ask about a communication issue I’m having with my direct manager. We’re a two-person team and in separate locations, so we’re often on the phone together at least once, if not multiple times, a day. She’s an executive (not C-suite) and I’m her coordinator. Recently, on the majority […] Read the full article →