December 2020

update: can I talk about my boyfriend’s other girlfriend at work?

It’s “where are you now?” month at Ask a Manager, and all December I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. Remember the letter-writer who was wondering if she could talk about her boyfriend’s other girlfriend at work? Jennifer from Captain Awkward and I answered it together. Here’s the […]

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update: grad student sends me rude emails

It’s “where are you now?” month at Ask a Manager, and all December I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. Remember the letter-writer whose grad student sent her rude emails? Here’s the update. I hope it’s okay, but in the letter I changed the gender of the grad […]

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updates: the boundary-violating boss, the scars, and more

It’s “where are you now?” month at Ask a Manager, and all December I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. Here are four updates from past letter-writers. 1. I don’t want to tell my boundary-violating boss I’m pregnant Sending that letter and reading not only your response but […]

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updates: the Disney vacation, the long hours, and more

It’s “where are you now?” month at Ask a Manager, and all December I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. Here are four updates from past letter-writers. 1. My coworker wants to come back to work … after an extended Disney vacation (#2 at the link) I wrote […]

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update: can you fire someone solely for being racist?

It’s “where are you now?” month at Ask a Manager, and all December I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. Remember the letter-writer whose company fired a new employee for racism? Her friend, who worked in HR at another company, told her that he couldn’t be fired simply […]

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it’s your Friday good news

It’s your Friday good news, with more accounts of success even in this weird time. 1. I’ve worked for my organization for about 15 years, and have moved up from a part-time nights-and-weekends role into a fairly senior staff position. A few months ago, my boss retired and his position became available. I thought I probably […]

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