May 2021

my office is doing “circle work” with “offerings to the ancestors” and lots of talk about feelings

A reader writes: My nonprofit workplace has started doing “circle work” with staff and the people we serve. This is apparently a version of restorative justice circles. I say apparently, because I’m really not convinced that this is a work-appropriate activity. The idea is that you sit in a circle, an item is passed around […]

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weekend open thread – May 15-16, 2021

This comment section is open for any non-work-related discussion you’d like to have with other readers, by popular demand. Here are the rules for the weekend posts. Book recommendation of the week: The Fortunate Ones, by Ed Tarkington. A coming-of-age story in which a young man’s friendship with a son of a wealthy family pulls him into a different […]

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it’s your Friday good news

It’s your Friday good news, with more accounts of success even in this weird time. 1. I read your recent “you need to ask for a raise” post and decided that you were absolutely right. I’ve been in my current position for 10 years and I’ve never asked for a raise. I’m a government contractor, […]

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open thread – May 14-15, 2021

It’s the Friday open thread! The comment section on this post is open for discussion with other readers on anything work-related that you want to talk about (that includes school). If you want an answer from me, emailing me is still your best bet*, but this is a chance to talk to other readers. * […]

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my employee barely speaks to me

A reader writes: I manage two wonderful employees who share an office next to mine. One of my employees (we’ll call him Neal) is very outgoing and friendly. We have some similar views on life (politics, child-rearing, etc) and talk easily and often. My other employee (we’ll call her Beth) is wonderful at her job […]

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how can I stop coming across as quiet and timid?

It’s the Thursday “ask the readers” question. A reader writes: I’m a few years into my career and am an introvert in an industry full of extroverts (advertising). Every time I have a performance review or am up for promotion, I get the same feedback — I’m too quiet, I need to contribute more in […]

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