our employee lied about having a sick child by Alison Green on June 17, 2021 A reader writes: I’ve worked for a company for a little over 10 years. “Lysa” started soon after me. We work in a semi-small and close department, and about a year after she started she ran into a streak of bad luck. Her husband asked for a divorce and she found out her young daughter […] Read the full article →
how can we get older members of our field to stop complimenting women on their appearances? by Alison Green on June 17, 2021 It’s the Thursday “ask the readers” question. A reader writes: I am a member of a prestigious society for my field, several thousand members strong. We include student practitioners, new practitioners, experienced practitioners, and people retired from our industry. So we have a very large age range — 20s to 90s. As you can imagine, […] Read the full article →
I’m earning less than someone who lied on their resume, difficult client will only deal with one of my employees, and more by Alison Green on June 17, 2021 It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. I’m earning less than someone who lied on their resume I am perturbed by the fact I have worked my butt off for the last 15 years to get to what my salary is, and someone I know lies on their resume (who just started […] Read the full article →
updates: my coworker told everyone we’re married (we’re not) and more by Alison Green on June 16, 2021 It’s a special “where are you now?” season at Ask a Manager, where all month I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. Here are four updates from past letter-writers. 1. My coworker told everyone we’re married … we’re not even dating I didn’t expect my question would even […] Read the full article →
updates: I work with my awful boss’s sister, afraid to give feedback, and more by Alison Green on June 16, 2021 It’s a special “where are you now?” season at Ask a Manager, where all month I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. Here are four updates from past letter-writers. 1. My awful former boss is my new coworker’s sister I wrote to you a while ago regarding my […] Read the full article →
are all jobs bad? by Alison Green on June 16, 2021 A reader writes: Are all jobs… bad? Because right now I’m looking around and feeling very hopeless about the idea of having a job that checks all the boxes: 1) pays well (or just a living wage), 2) isn’t totally toxic and/or managed by total clowns, 3) allows you to have decent work-life balance, and […] Read the full article →
my ex-boss is using my firing as content for her company social media pages by Alison Green on June 16, 2021 A reader writes: My former boss is using my firing as content for her social media pages, including recording herself singing songs about it. The background: I worked for my boss for five years and now see the MOUNTAIN of red flags I ignored because I was desperate to break into the field — behavior […] Read the full article →
manager keeps talking about astrology, recording video calls, and more by Alison Green on June 16, 2021 It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. Manager keeps talking about everyone’s astrological signs I work for a large, regionally significant nonprofit. My manager-twice-removed has been with our office for about three months. I have not interacted with them much, but every time we’ve met one-on-one they’ve asked me my zodiac sign […] Read the full article →
update: I accidentally threw a sandwich and it caused a work crisis by Alison Green on June 15, 2021 It’s a special “where are you now?” season at Ask a Manager, where all month I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. Remember the letter-writer whose coworker accidentally threw a sandwich, which hit their elegant, frosty grandboss, leaving an oily splotch on her suit? The grandboss mistakenly thought a […] Read the full article →
remember the manager who wouldn’t let her best employee attend her own graduation? by Alison Green on June 15, 2021 Remember the letter-writer whose best employee quit on the spot because she wouldn’t let her go to her college graduation? The employee — who had grown up in foster care and worked full-time while taking night classes to earn her degree — had worked late/come in early/worked overtime for years to cover for other coworkers, […] Read the full article →