my wife’s complaints about work are overwhelming me by Alison Green on February 24, 2022 It’s the Thursday “ask the readers” question. A reader writes: My wife and I have a generally happy household, except for after work times: I think of this as the Airing of Grievances hour. And let me be clear in saying that it is my wife who does the complaining. She is pleasant with her […] Read the full article →
I took a promotion without knowing the salary, coworker uses Comic Sans, and more by Alison Green on February 24, 2022 It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. I took a promotion and then found out the salary is too low I was recently part of a reorganization that ultimately led to my promotion as a manager (Hooray!) with a large (for my org) team and leading a very prestigious company-wide initiative. I […] Read the full article →
I can’t get my boss to give me feedback or solve problems by Alison Green on February 23, 2022 A reader writes: I have been with my current company for about four years, as a software developer. A year ago, a new manager was hired for my team. He seemed pretty good at first, but lately I’ve been disappointed. We have a bi-weekly one-on-one, and if I bring up an issue, he’ll just nod […] Read the full article →
my team keeps coming to work hungover by Alison Green on February 23, 2022 A reader writes: What’s your take on being hungover at work? I’m asking specifically about in an office situation where nothing truly bad will happen if someone has reduced concentration. I manage a team of six employees and over any given month, one or two of them will have a hangover each week. In our […] Read the full article →
how do I get my chatty coworkers to stop saying wildly inappropriate things? by Alison Green on February 23, 2022 A reader writes: After several years working in a position I absolutely loathed, and with the help of your excellent advice on AAM, I have finally switched careers! I began working in a new field at a relatively well-known company in December, doing work that is actually interesting to me and working with a great […] Read the full article →
stopping comments on weight loss before they start, angry rejected candidate, and more by Alison Green on February 23, 2022 It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. Can I stop comments on my weight loss before they start? I work for a nonprofit with about 100 staff, I am a slightly obese woman, and I’m taking a multi-week hiking trip this summer. Our latest anti-harassment training did include a “don’t talk about […] Read the full article →
changing pronouns at work: a success story by Alison Green on February 22, 2022 A reader writes: Several years ago, I decided I was ready to tell people my pronouns are they/them. I wanted to do this at work, too, so I decided to tell my manager first and asked for her support in telling my coworkers “these are Sally’s pronouns now.” She told me that I’m welcome to […] Read the full article →
was I wrong to quit my job? by Alison Green on February 22, 2022 A reader writes: I’m wondering if what I’m feeling about my resignation is normal, and how I can best position myself to still start my new role with confidence despite my fears. I gave notice at my job last week. My company is extremely small for our industry compared to the one I am going […] Read the full article →
my new boss is changing the team culture I loved by Alison Green on February 22, 2022 A reader writes: I took a new job about a year ago at a major tech company with a strong culture promoting employee well-being via work/life balance, reducing meeting loads, encouraging asynchronous collaboration across flexible schedules and time zones, etc. My manager came from the military and has been at our company less than two […] Read the full article →
should I let my neighbor hire me, should I remove my mask in an interview, and more by Alison Green on February 22, 2022 It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. Should I take a job working for my next door neighbor? My boyfriend and I are the newest tenants in a very small and close-knit apartment complex. It had been a little difficult becoming “a part” of the community but we are finally adjusting. My […] Read the full article →