new manager keeps pushing hard for me to be his friend by Alison Green on March 22, 2023 A reader writes: I have a situation that is annoying me with a new manager at our sister company, George. He was hired with no notice into the role that I had been promised would be my career progression within the company. I have spent the last five months training him on the basics and […] Read the full article →
my coworker thinks I need to calm down when I don’t, can’t give two weeks notice, and more by Alison Green on March 22, 2023 It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. My coworker misreads me and tries to calm me when I’m fine I am emotional, expressive, and passionate. Think a “movie-typical Italian” telling a story. Nothing wild, just a loud voice, expressive face, etc. In my 9-5 job, this is required. I over-emote all day […] Read the full article →
my company cut our pay after we met our goals and says we shouldn’t be upset by Alison Green on March 21, 2023 A reader writes: I work in a position that is the butt of a sales organization. I don’t mind it, but I don’t make a ton and deal with a lot of nonsense. On Thursday, they called a meeting for me and the six other people or so in my position and spent 30 minutes […] Read the full article →
when should I tell an interviewer I need disability accommodations? by Alison Green on March 21, 2023 A reader writes: I have a question regarding asking for disability accommodations when getting a new job. I have a circadian rhythm disorder that basically makes me a clinically diagnosed night owl and causes me great pain when getting up at what would be a normal time for most people. When I’m able to sleep […] Read the full article →
my mentor falsely accused someone of sexism on my behalf without my knowledge by Alison Green on March 21, 2023 A reader writes: I recently moved into a senior leadership role at my organization, which was a big jump for me. To help me get acclimated to the role, our CEO assigned me a mentor, Jane. She’s someone I’ve known and respected for a few years, although sometimes she strikes me as kind of a […] Read the full article →
friend doesn’t believe in different dress codes for different situations, applying for a job where my landlord works, and more by Alison Green on March 21, 2023 It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. My friend doesn’t believe there are different dress codes for different situations I have a younger friend who works for a well-known leisure apparel company at their headquarters. Many of the employees still work from home the majority of the time and when they are […] Read the full article →
can I bring a blender to work? by Alison Green on March 20, 2023 A reader writes: I have recently started an in-person job after searching for months. I really want to keep it, but I’m so used to working remotely that my in-person skills are rusty. It doesn’t help that I might be autistic and have a difficult time reading the room/taking social cues. Any advice you can […] Read the full article →
office kitchen wars are back by Alison Green on March 20, 2023 With many companies bringing people back to the office at least part-time, office kitchens wars are back! Today at Slate, I wrote about workplace kitchen aggravations — the take-out food from months ago left rotting in the fridge, the politics of who gets stuck cleaning up after others (and who doesn’t), the brazen thefts of […] Read the full article →
my younger coworker keeps making ageist comments to me by Alison Green on March 20, 2023 A reader writes: I am an older worker doing very well in my executive position in a small think tank. Apart from the director and myself, the other staff are in their 20s and 30s. One staff member in particular continually makes both oblique and direct references to age. For example, she said one day […] Read the full article →
we’re being unknowingly videotaped at meetings, should you always be job-searching, and more by Alison Green on March 20, 2023 It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. We’re being unknowingly videotaped at town hall meetings I’m a full-time remote employee who works for a large company. We regularly have “town halls” at multiple levels — full company, full department, full “section,” etc. These town halls are through Microsoft Teams and to simplify […] Read the full article →