my coworker keeps asking me for personal favors by Alison Green on June 21, 2023 A reader writes: I need some advice regarding a colleague who is becoming very needy and dependent on me, and is making me uncomfortable. She constantly asks me for personal favors, while I have never asked her for anything. Let me list out the things she’s asked of me, and the stuff I have done […] Read the full article →
update: how do I avoid “mom energy” with my younger employees? by Alison Green on June 21, 2023 It’s a special “where are you now?” season at Ask a Manager and I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. Remember the letter-writer asking how to avoid “mom energy” with her younger employees after one called her “mom”? Here’s the update. I have an update. Buckle up. After […] Read the full article →
managing an employee who lies, I was the only one carded at a business lunch, and more by Alison Green on June 21, 2023 It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. Can I use an improvement plan for an employee who lies? At the start of the year, I discovered that one of my direct reports had gone out of their way to disguise a behavior that has been their ongoing performance development need. Say, for […] Read the full article →
updates: telling recruiters I wouldn’t move to a state that discriminates, new boss says everything is “fun,” and more by Alison Green on June 20, 2023 It’s a special “where are you now?” season at Ask a Manager and I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. Here are three updates from past letter-writers. 1. Telling recruiters I wouldn’t move to a state that discriminates I was able to use language very similar to what […] Read the full article →
update: my boss thinks I’m a stoner because I called out on 4/20 by Alison Green on June 20, 2023 It’s a special “where are you now?” season at Ask a Manager and I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. There will be more posts than usual this week, so keep checking back throughout the day. Remember the letter-writer whose boss thought he was a stoner because he […] Read the full article →
update: how do we fire someone who refuses to talk to us? by Alison Green on June 20, 2023 It’s a special “where are you now?” season at Ask a Manager and I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. Remember the church that needed to fire someone who refused to talk to any members of their personnel committee and kept calling their attempts to meet “non-consensual” (#2 at […] Read the full article →
update: I resent my employee for being richer and more qualified than me by Alison Green on June 20, 2023 It’s a special “where are you now?” season at Ask a Manager and I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. There will be more posts than usual this week, so keep checking back throughout the day. Remember the letter-writer who resented her employee for being richer and more […] Read the full article →
can I say I can’t come to the office because of my dog, our “unlimited” vacation is really just three weeks, and more by Alison Green on June 20, 2023 It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. Can I say I can’t come into the office because I have to look after my dog? I’ve been in a new job about three months now. It’s a huge improvement on where I was before (a very toxic workplace with ridiculous expectations and no work/life balance). […] Read the full article →
update: do I need to give up an impressive business contact who’s hitting on me? by Alison Green on June 19, 2023 It’s a special “where are you now?” season at Ask a Manager and I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. Remember the letter-writer wondering if she needed to give up an impressive business contact who was hitting on her? Here’s the update. I can’t believe that it’s been […] Read the full article →
updates: the monthly hikes, the coworker with the criminal record, and more by Alison Green on June 19, 2023 It’s a special “where are you now?” season at Ask a Manager and I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. Here are four updates from past letter-writers. There will be more posts than usual this week, so keep checking back– there’s more to come today! 1. I’m missing out on […] Read the full article →