let’s talk about your mortifying moments at work by Alison Green on July 13, 2023 It’s almost time for Mortification Week 2023, and in preparation we need to hear your stories of mortifying experiences at work — yours or other people’s. Maybe you mistakenly emailed erotica to your team …or flashed your entire team during a video call … or gave a person two noses in an interview Photoshop test. […] Read the full article →
my finances don’t make sense now that I’m single, rude comments because I work in oil and gas, and more by Alison Green on July 13, 2023 It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. My finances made sense in a relationship, but now I’m single My finances made sense when I was in a relationship, but now I’m single and am struggling on my salary. Otherwise I want to stay at my current job. How do I talk to […] Read the full article →
the magic mushrooms, the underwear scavenger hunt, and other awful workplace ice-breakers by Alison Green on July 12, 2023 Recently I asked about terrible ice-breakers you’ve been subjected to at work. Here are 10 of the most horrifying you shared. 1. The underwear Many years ago, at a large law firm, the ice-breaker at our company retreat was to find all the other people wearing the same color underwear as you (no, I’m not […] Read the full article →
are any office social events truly inclusive for everyone? by Alison Green on July 12, 2023 A reader writes: I understand that teams who connect with each other beyond the basics of their role tend to be higher-performing. And yet, it seems that almost every type of event or activity that provides an opportunity for employees to connect on a more casual basis is fraught with issues. Golfing — gender discriminatory. […] Read the full article →
my company won’t allow any name changes, ever, for anyone by Alison Green on July 12, 2023 Two letters, one theme: 1. My company won’t let me use the name I go by in our directory I just started a new job. When I applied, I filled in my legal name and my preferred name. I go by a shortened version of my middle name — let’s say “Beth.” I have never […] Read the full article →
boss uses therapy to analyze our interactions, former coworker listed me as her manager, and more by Alison Green on July 12, 2023 It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. My boss uses therapy to analyze all our interactions I’m a new therapist two months into the job, and I have noticed that my clinical supervisor has a tendency to analyze me to my face when I have a question she wasn’t anticipating, when we […] Read the full article →
how do I deal with a painfully slow talker? by Alison Green on July 11, 2023 A reader writes: I have a situation which I think I would know how to handle as a manager but no idea how to handle as a client. My son has developmental delays that qualify him for certain therapies. After months of searching, we have finally found a therapy provider that fits our needs. This […] Read the full article →
I just found out I’m seriously underpaid — now what? by Alison Green on July 11, 2023 A reader writes: I think I need a reality check because I just don’t know how I should be feeling about this. I work for a very large company (100,000+ employees). I started nine years ago as an intern and have been promoted twice since then. I’ve been considered a top performer, earned a stellar […] Read the full article →
my employee pressures coworkers for rides everywhere by Alison Green on July 11, 2023 A reader writes: Your recent post about an intern who wanted rides to work made me think perhaps you might have some insight into my present situation. Unlike similar posts I’ve seen, it’s not the chauffeurs who are asking about the situation, but the manager (me) who sees someone taking horrible advantage of coworkers. I […] Read the full article →
my assistant won’t stop talking about my cane, recovering after a serious mistake, and more by Alison Green on July 11, 2023 It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. My assistant won’t stop being “concerned” about my cane I am a GM at a construction company office. I have a part-time assistant I cannot do without and five field technicians I see once a week or so. Within the past 18 months, I have […] Read the full article →