I have to train an aggressive man when I have a trauma history by Alison Green on July 10, 2023 A reader writes: I’m part of a project team creating and launching a new online system, which will mean significant changes in the way employees do their job. There’s some resistance to this change within the organization and one department in particular that is deeply opposed to the new system. We have been on a […] Read the full article →
my coworker quit as soon as I became his boss by Alison Green on July 10, 2023 A reader writes: Soon after I started in my current job, “Bob” joined our team in a similar role as me. He was noticeably very anxious and insecure, and he struggled with getting the basics down. The job includes giving feedback on others’ work, and I noticed that I kept having to ask him to […] Read the full article →
a “thought experiment” is causing a cold war in my office by Alison Green on July 10, 2023 A reader writes: I work in an office of ~20 people. The majority of us have lunch together in the conference room most days. It’s not organized or mandatory, just a preference for most of us. People drift in and out and sometimes skip if they have errands or out-of-office meetings that day. The only […] Read the full article →
can I ask for a raise because I stopped getting high at work, how to talk about a firing socially, and more by Alison Green on July 10, 2023 It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. Can I ask for a raise since I’m not getting high at work anymore? I am a customer service manager. Recently, I quit getting high at work. My marijuana use here was no secret, and sometimes even encouraged by ownership. I recently took a long […] Read the full article →
weekend open thread – July 8-9, 2023 by Alison Green on July 7, 2023 This comment section is open for any non-work-related discussion you’d like to have with other readers, by popular demand. Here are the rules for the weekend posts. Book recommendation of the week: My Last Innocent Year, by Daisy Alpert Florin. A college student in the 90s has an affair with her professor, as the Clinton impeachment […] Read the full article →
it’s your Friday good news by Alison Green on July 7, 2023 It’s your Friday good news! 1. “I was previously published in AAM Friday Good News with the news that I had gone from a really toxic job to essentially my dream job with a 35% pay increase. Since then I’ve continued to enjoy my job a ton, my boss is wonderful, my team is super […] Read the full article →
open thread – July 7-8, 2023 by Alison Green on July 7, 2023 It’s the Friday open thread! The comment section on this post is open for discussion with other readers on any work-related questions that you want to talk about (that includes school). If you want an answer from me, emailing me is still your best bet*, but this is a chance to take your questions to […] Read the full article →
requiring a doctor’s release after medical leave, vaping on video calls, and more by Alison Green on July 7, 2023 It’s four answers to four questions. Here we go… 1. Should we require a doctor’s release to return from a medical leave? I am a director at a manufacturing company, and our positions have different physical requirements (sedentary to heavy lifting to outdoor work). When employees request time off for medical reasons, I’ll use my […] Read the full article →
how can I avoid getting my hopes up for a job I’ve applied for? by Alison Green on July 6, 2023 A reader writes: I’ve been feeling stuck at my job for some time now, and especially trapped because I’m unhappy in my field and am considering changing careers in my mid-30s (which I know isn’t particularly late, but still daunting). I haven’t done much job-searching yet since I figure I’ll have to do some retraining. […] Read the full article →
update: my coworker sent a classist, racist email company-wide after a janitor won our Christmas contest by Alison Green on July 6, 2023 Remember the letter-writer whose coworker sent a classist, racist email company-wide after a janitor won their Christmas contest? The first update is here, and here’s the latest. I’ll start with the good news: my spouse passed the bar and has a job. We started receiving Health Insurance through his job, so I started seriously looking […] Read the full article →