should I tell someone about my coworkers’ exclusionary behavior at a conference? by Alison Green on August 15, 2023 A reader writes: I work at a Fortune 500 company, working specifically on one category that gets quite a lot of attention. I’ve been in the industry for 16 years and with this company for about half that. I have advanced degrees and am regarded as an expert in my field, internally and externally. Recently […] Read the full article →
do I need to disclose my past fling with a coworker, boss asked how I afforded an expensive vacation, and more by Alison Green on August 15, 2023 It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. Do I need to disclose a past fling with a new coworker? I’m starting an entry-level program where my coworker is someone I hooked up with a few times last year. Our involvement was before he joined the company, and I didn’t know he was […] Read the full article →
update: my boss from before my gender transition is now my colleague by Alison Green on August 14, 2023 Remember the letter-writer whose new coworker was their boss from before their gender transition? Here’s the update. Thanks again for running the letter. While I had to eventually nope out of the comments (I found the assumptions some commenters made that I was utterly panicking about the situation a little strange), I gained a lot […] Read the full article →
an entry-level candidate with no experience wants an above-market salary by Alison Green on August 14, 2023 A reader writes: I am hiring someone for an entry-level position. It is meant for someone straight out of college and new to the field who is interested in learning a lot, meeting loads of highly connected people, and launching a potentially awesome career. I’ve set the salary to be a little above what other […] Read the full article →
my coworker showed us an explicit slideshow of her baby’s birth by Alison Green on August 14, 2023 A reader writes: This happened years ago, but I still wonder what (if anything) I should’ve done. I was teaching at a small independent school. I had a colleague, Maria, who was in her mid-twenties; she was enthusiastic, upbeat, and a fine teacher, really good with the kids, and I liked her personally, as well […] Read the full article →
our top two execs are secretly mother and daughter, salary offer was lower than recruiter said, and more by Alison Green on August 14, 2023 It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. Our top two execs are secretly mother and daughter I work for a small marketing agency (about 14 people). Leadership consists of two people: the founder/CEO and a chief innovation officer (CIO). Every decision about the business is made jointly by the two of them. […] Read the full article →
weekend open thread – August 12-13, 2023 by Alison Green on August 12, 2023 This comment section is open for any non-work-related discussion you’d like to have with other readers, by popular demand. Here are the rules for the weekend posts. Book recommendation of the week: Sunshine Nails, by Mai Nguyen. A Vietnamese Canadian family tries to save their nail salon after a more glamorous salon opens across the street […] Read the full article →
it’s your Friday good news by Alison Green on August 11, 2023 It’s your Friday good news! I’m writing to tell you about my good news and to restate that your site was extremely helpful from soup-to-nuts: recognizing a bad job, seeking out good opportunities, interviewing, and landing an offer. Up ’til early 2022 I’d see AAM posts come up when I’d google certain career-related questions, but […] Read the full article →
open thread – August 11-12, 2023 by Alison Green on August 11, 2023 It’s the Friday open thread! The comment section on this post is open for discussion with other readers on any work-related questions that you want to talk about (that includes school). If you want an answer from me, emailing me is still your best bet*, but this is a chance to take your questions to […] Read the full article →
my husband’s boss keeps texting me, employers that keep interviewing after someone accepted their offer, and more by Alison Green on August 11, 2023 It’s four answers to four questions. Here we go… 1. My husband’s boss keeps texting me My husband and I work for the same company, in roles that have absolutely nothing to do with each other. We’re both very long-term employees (he’s got 20+ years of seniority and I have 18+). On two separate occasions, […] Read the full article →