August 2023

can I ask my employee not to put papers on my desk?

A reader writes: My desk is (shamefully) extremely messy, both with crumbs and stray papers. I clean it once a week, but I’m not a naturally neat person. However, my direct report, Lauren, is very neat and loves physical media. If I send her a Slack message, she’ll show up at my desk with a […]

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updates: the private movie screening, the group chat, and more

Here are four updates from past letter-writers. 1. Can I invite only women and LGBTQ+ coworkers to a private movie screening? I’m the letter writer who wrote to you about organizing a private screening of a movie. I ended up not inviting any colleagues. I’m relatively senior in our office, so I decided to avoid […]

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let’s talk about unusual office traditions

One of the most interesting things about offices is how they develop their own subcultures, complete with rituals and traditions. Here are some interesting office traditions that have been shared here in the past: •. For close to 15 years now, dressing up as one of your coworkers has been a Halloween tradition where I […]

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our anti-bullying consultant accused me of bullying him

A reader writes: The research department at my workplace has a bully and I was recently asked to look into workshops to address it. Emma, my coworker and friend, is also aware of the issues, which have been going on for years without action from management. Emma was frustrated as she had brought the issues […]

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my coworkers interrupt me no matter what I’m doing

A reader writes: I work in a small organization of about 25 people. I was promoted a few years ago. Now that I am the official conduit to the owner, the staff come to me to ask questions, throw around ideas, and chat about their lives. In most respects, this works fine. The owner and […]

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