weekend open thread – September 16-17, 2023 by Alison Green on September 15, 2023 This comment section is open for any non-work-related discussion you’d like to have with other readers, by popular demand. Here are the rules for the weekend posts. Book recommendation of the week: You Can’t Stay Here Forever, by Katherine Lin. Days after losing her husband in a car crash, a lawyer discovers he had been having […] Read the full article →
it’s your Friday good news by Alison Green on September 15, 2023 It’s your Friday good news! Thanks to your posts about how women tend to pass on opportunities that men would pursue, last year I decided to apply for a position that would have been a bit of a stretch. I knew I didn’t have 100% of the experience they were looking for, but I used your cover letter […] Read the full article →
open thread – September 15-16, 2023 by Alison Green on September 15, 2023 It’s the Friday open thread! The comment section on this post is open for discussion with other readers on any work-related questions that you want to talk about (that includes school). If you want an answer from me, emailing me is still your best bet*, but this is a chance to take your questions to […] Read the full article →
coworker wants me to lock up my dogs so he can come to parties at my house, explaining a medical accommodation, and more by Alison Green on September 15, 2023 It’s four answers to four questions. Here we go… 1. My coworker wants me to lock up my dogs so he can come to parties at my house I’m a university professor, and I have a problem with a member of my department, Paul. I realized that a lot of my friends with young children […] Read the full article →
can you negotiate a raise if your boss knows you won’t leave if you don’t get it? by Alison Green on September 14, 2023 A reader writes: Is it possible to negotiate a raise at the one-year mark if your manager knows you won’t leave the company over not getting it? I started at Company 1 in 2019, my first job in my new field, and was promoted in 2021. In 2022, a recruiter I know personally contacted me […] Read the full article →
Ask a Manager in the media by Alison Green on September 14, 2023 Here’s some coverage of Ask a Manager in the media recently: I talked to Eater about lunch etiquette at work. I talked to CBS News about the downsides of unlimited vacation time. I talked to The Kit about how to talk about your divorce at work. I talked to American Banker about a horrifically invasive […] Read the full article →
how can we equitably handle time off for religious holidays? by Alison Green on September 14, 2023 It’s the Thursday “ask the readers” question. A reader writes: With the Jewish High Holidays coming up, I’ve been thinking about how workplaces can promote equity around PTO and religious holidays. My workplace has an extremely generous amount of PTO, but I still have to use vacation time for Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur (and […] Read the full article →
husband’s coworker is horrible to me, how do I tell my boss I can’t afford to live in our town, and more by Alison Green on September 14, 2023 It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. My husband’s coworker is a jerk to me At my husband’s company party, a colleague of his got quite drunk and started asking me really demeaning questions. I shut it down politely and quickly, and chalked it up to a one-off irritation. Yet every time […] Read the full article →
my boss wants me to check in every day while I’m on vacation by Alison Green on September 13, 2023 A reader writes: I (a 27-year-old woman) am on vacation for a week using PTO. My work phone has been off since Saturday and my boss has access to my work computer and email. He just called my personal phone at 4:58 pm to tell me I need to check my work phone at least […] Read the full article →
my employee demands to know where I am at all times by Alison Green on September 13, 2023 A reader writes: I started a new management role three months ago and am managing a small team. One of my staff was under-performing when I started, and one of my directives was to get them on a coaching plan, which I have. As a result, they have made complaints that I’m out to get […] Read the full article →