November 2023

how do I interrupt my boss in person when I need something?

A reader writes: I’ve found myself in several situations now where I periodically need to show up at my bosses’ office to ask them something. These are high level people at the top of the organization. Sometimes I can email or text them and get a response (but not consistently), but their offices are near […]

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how to tell an overstepping employee to stay in their lane

A reader writes: I manage a large team. Their job descriptions and roles are pretty clear and specific, but one of our subject matter expects, “Jane,” is constantly questioning the work of other team members on projects she doesn’t have a stake in (and by default, my support for that work and the decisions being […]

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passing along dress code feedback I disagree with, I want my employee to say “we” not “I,” and more

It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. I want my employee to say “we” not “I” We have a very productive employee who is enthusiastic about her position and enjoys working with the public. I appreciate her and most everything she brings to the table. However, when speaking with patients, she refers […]

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weekend open thread – November 4-5, 2023

This comment section is open for any non-work-related discussion you’d like to have with other readers, by popular demand. Here are the rules for the weekend posts. Book recommendation of the week: Mrs. Caliban, by Rachel Ingalls. A woman in an unsatisfying marriage develops a much more satisfying relationship with a seven-foot-tall sea monster. * I […]

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it’s your Friday good news

It’s your Friday good news! 1.  “An email I thought I’d never get to send! I’ve been reading your site for years now, ever since I was a struggling recent grad trying to navigate my first “once in a lifetime” recession. That was a sticky, underemployed wicket, but I credit both your posts and the […]

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open thread – November 3-4, 2023

It’s the Friday open thread! The comment section on this post is open for discussion with other readers on any work-related questions that you want to talk about (that includes school). If you want an answer from me, emailing me is still your best bet*, but this is a chance to take your questions to […]

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I was fired for what I think are trivial reasons

A reader writes: A while ago I lost a position after just a few weeks of working there. I got really good feedback on my interview, and even got great feedback during the first days for going above and beyond what was expected of new teammembers. After a while my grandboss asked me how I […]

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how to tell an employee there’s no room to move up

A reader writes: I supervise my firm’s receptionist, who has been here for just over two years. In her most recent annual self-evaluation, under the section which asks about career goals and training opportunities, she wrote that she “curious as to where I can go from a receptionist position.” This is the first time she […]

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