a coworker is harassing my neighbor (who is having chemo) by Alison Green on February 12, 2024 A reader writes: I live in a high-rise condo complex and work for a prominent and large (10,000+ employee) healthcare system. My condo complex has a listserv that gets sent to the 1,000 or so residents — unfortunately with very little moderation. Over the past few months, but particularly today, somebody who works at my […] Read the full article →
my assistant keeps arguing with me by Alison Green on February 12, 2024 A reader writes: I’m a new manager. My assistant was close with the previous manager who I took over from, and it’s been a bit of a challenge creating a good relationship with her. Any time I make a decision for our team, she constantly asks why and she quite often says, “That’s not how […] Read the full article →
my boss and my employee won’t stop asking me to spend the night at their houses by Alison Green on February 12, 2024 A reader writes: I am a mid-level manager at a medium-sized company. I have worked here for four years now, and this problem has been happening since I started. About six months after I started, my boss invited me to a Halloween party at her house. I felt like I should go because she is […] Read the full article →
I’m trying to leave a board but can’t escape, asking a coworker not to bring her baby in, and more by Alison Green on February 12, 2024 It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. I’m trying to leave a board but can’t escape About 10 years ago, I agreed to serve on the board of a small nonprofit organization. The executive director, Sarah, is friendly and gregarious, and because we work in similar industries, we have developed a genuine […] Read the full article →
weekend open thread – February 10-11, 2024 by Alison Green on February 9, 2024 This comment section is open for any non-work-related discussion you’d like to have with other readers, by popular demand. Here are the rules for the weekend posts. Book recommendation of the week: We Were Once a Family: A Story of Love, Death, and Child Removal in America, by Roxanna Asgarian. An infuriating, heartbreaking look at how […] Read the full article →
open thread – February 9-10, 2024 by Alison Green on February 9, 2024 It’s the Friday open thread! The comment section on this post is open for discussion with other readers on any work-related questions that you want to talk about (that includes school). If you want an answer from me, emailing me is still your best bet*, but this is a chance to take your questions to […] Read the full article →
boss is obsessed with the dress code, managing a know-it-all, and more by Alison Green on February 9, 2024 It’s four answers to four questions. Here we go… 1. Our boss is obsessed with the dress code — but all of us follow it I work for a nonprofit and our office rarely receives outside visitors. Staff dress business casual and when we do work with the public (especially with elected officials or for […] Read the full article →
what are the ethics around asking an employee not to talk about her raise? by Alison Green on February 8, 2024 A reader writes: I have an employee, we’ll call her Mariah, who worked at our company in a different department for over a year before she applied for an opening in my department. She was stellar in her original role, so I was thrilled to take her. When the transfer was final and she showed […] Read the full article →
update: I reported my boss’s boss for racism and now feel guilty by Alison Green on February 8, 2024 Remember the letter-writer who felt guilty about reporting their boss’s boss for racism? Here’s the update. I’ve switched careers from nonprofit program manager to home caregiver and haven’t looked back. The nonprofit I left is still alive and kicking. But they killed the program I used to manage, which actually made me feel less crazy […] Read the full article →
ask the readers: when workplace romance goes horribly wrong by Alison Green on February 8, 2024 In honor of Valentine’s Day next week, let’s talk about workplace romance! To kick us off, here are some office romance stories that have been shared in past years. ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ “I once worked at a bank in a department dealing with loans for […] Read the full article →