August 2024

weekend open thread — August 31-September 1, 2024

This comment section is open for any non-work-related discussion you’d like to have with other readers, by popular demand. Here are the rules for the weekend posts. Book recommendation of the week: Then She Found Me, by Elinor Lipman. A quiet teacher finds her life changed when her birth mother — a flamboyant and somewhat narcissistic […]

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open thread – August 30, 2024

It’s the Friday open thread! The comment section on this post is open for discussion with other readers on any work-related questions that you want to talk about (that includes school). If you want an answer from me, emailing me is still your best bet*, but this is a chance to take your questions to […]

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updates: the racist comment, the late-paying client, and more

Here are three updates from past letter-writers. 1. Employee made a racist comment to her office-mate Thank you for answering my question! I already have an update. Apparently when Anne and Leah’s manager took the issue to HR, they discussed a plan to address it instead of just not doing anything until the following week. […]

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how can I get my email inbox under control?

It’s the Thursday “ask the readers” question. A reader writes: I’m writing for any reader advice on managing high volume email. I am in my first year as middle management in a job that swings around a peak season and an off-peak season. I am pretty good at what I do, happy to have my […]

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Ask a Manager speed round

It’s the annual Ask a Manager speed round! Until 3:30 pm ET today, I’ll be answering questions live. How to ask questions: Submit a question using the form here. (Don’t leave your question in the comment section; I won’t see it there.) If you submitted a question yesterday, there’s no need to submit it again; I’ve got it […]

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can I tell my intern she laughs too much?

A reader writes: I manage an intern who tends to respond with short bursts of laughter at incongruous times, like when I am explaining something to her or when I am giving her directions (and I’m not trying to be funny!). It can be pretty jarring. I noticed it during her interview, but chalked it […]

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when your teenager dates your boss’s son and it goes bad

A reader writes: I know that you’ve repeatedly discussed how romantic relationships at work can be problematic, but how do you navigate it when it’s your child? I was catching up with a friend (Sara) who told me that her teenage daughter had started dating Sara’s boss’s teenage son. Sara didn’t want to forbid the […]

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