update: 2 temps accused me of bullying December 21, 2023 It’s “where are you now?” month at Ask a Manager, and all December I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. There will be more posts than usual this week, so keep checking back throughout the day. Remember the letter-writer who was accused of bullying by two temps (#2 […]
our anti-bullying consultant accused me of bullying him August 2, 2023 A reader writes: The research department at my workplace has a bully and I was recently asked to look into workshops to address it. Emma, my coworker and friend, is also aware of the issues, which have been going on for years without action from management. Emma was frustrated as she had brought the issues […]
how can I intervene with a bullying coworker, HR told me I’m going overboard with a charity event, and more December 20, 2022 I’m on vacation. Here are some past letters that I’m making new again, rather than leaving them to wilt in the archives. 1. How can I intervene with a bullying coworker? I work in a small organization where everyone knows each other. Just down the hall from me is a shy, somewhat awkward colleague who […]
dog rampage in the office, temps accused me of bullying, and more November 30, 2022 It’s four answers to four questions. Here we go… 1. Misbehaving dog rampages around the office About four months ago, we were asked to return to the office after two amazing years working from home, first two days a week, then Monday through Thursday. We are a five-person design studio with three associates who own […]
my unvaccinated coworker may have exposed me to Covid, is my boss bullying me, and more August 26, 2021 It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. My unvaccinated coworker may have exposed me to Covid Today, I was informed that my unvaccinated coworker (who had Covid last year and is convinced that she has the antibodies so doesn’t need to get vaccinated) was exposed to Covid when her son-in-law tested positive. […]
updates: the counteroffer, the bullying, and more May 25, 2020 It’s a special “where are you now?” season at Ask a Manager, when I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. Here are three updates from past letter-writers. 1. I accepted a counteroffer four months ago but now want to quit (#2 at the link) I wrote to you […]
intervening with a bullying coworker, my colleague runs a snack shop from her desk, and more April 5, 2018 It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. How can I intervene with a bullying coworker? I work in a small organization where everyone knows each other. Just down the hall from me is a shy, somewhat awkward colleague who works in a different area from me. He is very sweet and does […]
job candidates who earn too much, leaving a job due to bullying, and more July 27, 2013 It’s seven short answers to seven short questions. Here we go… 1. Is it worth talking to a job candidate who’s currently making far more than I can pay? I am the hiring manager for a manager-level position at a large association. The online system my organization uses to collect applications for our openings asks […]
I’m scared my bullying ex-boss will give me a bad reference July 28, 2011 First, here’s my kitchen, day four. It’s feeling very … white. Maybe too white. I’m freaking out a little. In any case … A reader writes: I am looking for a job right now. I left my last job for a number of reasons. I was burned out, and recovering from some health issues. I was […]
my coworker is physically bullying me November 23, 2010 A reader writes: I support a team of professionals and one of them has what I call “personal space issues.” He stands uncomfortably close to me, causing me to move away and when we pass each other in the hallway or common areas, he walks right towards me, forcing me to maneuver around him or […]