I have to train an aggressive man when I have a trauma history by Alison Green on July 10, 2023 A reader writes: I’m part of a project team creating and launching a new online system, which will mean significant changes in the way employees do their job. There’s some resistance to this change within the organization and one department in particular that is deeply opposed to the new system. We have been on a […] Read the full article →
a “thought experiment” is causing a cold war in my office by Alison Green on July 10, 2023 A reader writes: I work in an office of ~20 people. The majority of us have lunch together in the conference room most days. It’s not organized or mandatory, just a preference for most of us. People drift in and out and sometimes skip if they have errands or out-of-office meetings that day. The only […] Read the full article →
my coworker has started faking a British accent by Alison Green on July 3, 2023 I’m off today, so here’s an older post from the archives. This was originally published in 2018. A reader writes: So this question is … more just truly bizarre than anything. But recently, a coworker of mine has decided she is now British and has been regularly slipping into a thick British accent — very […] Read the full article →
an acquaintance I recommended proselytized to all my clients (with singing) by Alison Green on June 28, 2023 A reader writes: I would appreciate some feedback on a somewhat sensitive religion/workplace conflict that happened a few years ago, and how to respond to the occasional inquiry from colleagues and clients about it. While returning to the states for the summer, I recommended an acquaintance of mine, Jade, to fly in and take over […] Read the full article →
my coworker keeps asking me for personal favors by Alison Green on June 21, 2023 A reader writes: I need some advice regarding a colleague who is becoming very needy and dependent on me, and is making me uncomfortable. She constantly asks me for personal favors, while I have never asked her for anything. Let me list out the things she’s asked of me, and the stuff I have done […] Read the full article →
my boss won’t do anything about my slacker coworker by Alison Green on June 13, 2023 A reader writes: My colleague “Andrew” and I work in a specialized department for a mid-sized company (about 150 employees), each of us covering one half of the company with no overlap. We both work remotely while the teams we support are on-site in offices across our region, so we rely heavily on Microsoft Teams […] Read the full article →
what subjects are off-limits for work chat? by Alison Green on June 12, 2023 A reader writes: I was recently part of a conversation about things that should never ever be discussed at work. People listed politics, religion, personal lives, alternate health, and money/health troubles. I don’t know if I can fully agree all of these must be fully checked at the door. Making sure one is mindful of […] Read the full article →
my new coworker is the guy who naked-manned me on a Zoom date by Alison Green on June 6, 2023 A reader writes: Life has given me a cruel and hilarious plot twist and I’m at a loss of what to do or how to address it. Back in 2020, peak pandemic times, I was doing what many singles did and went on virtual dates with people through apps. One particularly memorable Zoom date was […] Read the full article →
my coworker is bringing his kid to work and on Zoom calls … but the rest of us are paying for child care by Alison Green on June 6, 2023 A reader writes: Even posing this question, I am asking myself: AITA? A colleague of mine had his first child during the pandemic. Obviously, like parents worldwide (myself included), he was at a loss for childcare. During that time we all worked from home, and children, pets, and partners appeared in and out of Zoom […] Read the full article →
my “hybrid” team is using me as their way to not go to the office at all by Alison Green on June 5, 2023 A reader writes: When the pandemic began, I was the member of my team who volunteered to go to the office to check the mail and do tasks that could not be done at home since I live alone, live closest to the office, tend to have the most tasks that cannot be done remotely, […] Read the full article →