HR won’t do anything about a coworker who’s angry about my weight loss by Alison Green on February 8, 2023 A reader writes: I just came back to work after a month-long emergency medical leave. The tl:dr is that after a decade of medical gaslighting, a new doctor ordered an emergency MRI during a routine visit and discovered a mass in my abdomen. I was rushed into surgery within 24 hours. I ended up having […] Read the full article →
why does my coworker hate me? by Alison Green on February 7, 2023 A reader writes: I am a brand new graduate who started at a consulting firm last January. I’ve been there for about a year, and I have positive relationships with my coworkers. I am fairly quiet at work because I’m new, I am still learning from my colleagues and assessing the work environment. My coworkers […] Read the full article →
a higher-up is pushing an unwanted volunteer on us by Alison Green on February 1, 2023 A reader writes: This descriptor is helpful and accurate, so I’m going to borrow it: “I work in a cultural/academic/nonprofit institution, and am part of a professional community small enough that I don’t wish to identify it, lest one of my colleagues identify me.” There’s a hierarchy within my institution, and someone (Martha) higher up […] Read the full article →
my coworker has a crush on our boss and is mad that I asked her to stop talking about him by Alison Green on January 30, 2023 A reader writes: I work for a small company. We are an office of about 10 people and most of my colleagues have worked with each other for several years. My position was newly created to take some of the clerical burden off the others, and I’m definitely the new kid on the block, so […] Read the full article →
I’m sick of having to do my incompetent colleague’s work by Alison Green on January 24, 2023 A reader writes: A few months ago I left a senior-level job in a prestigious but dysfunctional industry for a job at a nonprofit. It was a lateral move salary-wise, but a huge upgrade in benefits and work-life balance; my workload is a fraction of what it was at my last job, and I have […] Read the full article →
can bad employees and bad managers change? by Alison Green on January 16, 2023 I’m off for the holiday, so here’s an older post from the archives. This was originally published in 2015. A reader writes: I am a passionate fan of AAM and often try to guess what you would advise for my own dysfunctional job. Boiled down, my boss needs to stop avoiding confrontation and rein in […] Read the full article →
my coworker and I attend the same sex club by Alison Green on January 3, 2023 A reader writes: In the context of talking about sex positivity in some of the advising we do, it came out that my coworker and I go to the same sex club. She has not been since pre-Covid but is planning to return soon with her partner. I meanwhile go almost every weekend. We are […] Read the full article →
my boss and coworkers are constantly at my house by Alison Green on January 3, 2023 A reader writes: I need your help in reclaiming my home. I am an employee at a small consulting company (my boss plus three employees). We all live in the same small town and I often see my boss and coworkers at social functions around town. We each work from our homes and there is […] Read the full article →
my coworker wants me to do all the work he sends me ASAP, even when I have higher priorities by Alison Green on November 21, 2022 A reader writes: I’m a project manager at a nonprofit. We’re desperately understaffed, so I am wearing many hats right now, including in the general operations area. Most of the things I work on have deadlines and are necessary for us to function as a healthy organization and to support our mission. “Ned” heads a […] Read the full article →
should I tell my tantrum-throwing coworker that she’s sabotaging herself? by Alison Green on November 17, 2022 A reader writes: I work in a small team of half a dozen. Recently our lead left and another coworker stepped in to fill that lead position, which left her role open. We have one coworker, I’ll call her Jane, whose work is tangentially related to ours but she’s not in the same role but […] Read the full article →