I’ve been covering my coworker’s work for months because he’s going through a divorce by Alison Green on August 19, 2024 A reader writes: I am looking for some advice when it comes to a teammate at work, Paul, who is currently going through a divorce. We have been working together for the last two years. Earlier this year, Paul called me to say that his wife had asked for a divorce out of nowhere. I […] Read the full article →
you can’t escape the office diet police by Alison Green on August 19, 2024 We all know the office diet police: the people who say, “Don’t you know that’s terrible for you?” as if you’d chosen Flamin’ Hot Cheetos for their nutritional value … “Oh, I see we’re being naughty today!” as you eat a slice of cake … and, if you choose something heathy, “Ugh, another salad—you need […] Read the full article →
my coworker is telling people I spat in her coffee (I didn’t) by Alison Green on August 19, 2024 A reader writes: I’m early in my career and in my late twenties. I’ve been with the same company for around four years now and have been working hybrid since early 2022. Tempest works in the same small office that I do. There are maybe 10 of us who come in regularly, but she works […] Read the full article →
my coworkers are engaged but one of them is cheating … with my boss by Alison Green on August 7, 2024 A reader writes: My question is regarding a rather sticky situation I am unwillingly involved in. In short, I think I am reliving an episode of The Office. I have two colleagues who are about to get married to each other, let us call them Joe and Kate. Unfortunately, I know for a fact that […] Read the full article →
my coworker keeps messaging me about my face during meetings by Alison Green on August 5, 2024 A reader writes: I am a full-time, mid-level female manager at a large consultancy, and I sometimes work with a senior strategist (a contractor). He has an off-putting habit of utilizing Zoom DMs to make comments that make it clear he is scrutinizing me instead of paying attention to the meeting. Things like, “Something must […] Read the full article →
the person who’s supposed to train me belittles me when I have questions by Alison Green on July 24, 2024 A reader writes: I’m learning the ropes in a new job, and there are lots of things that are very difficult to figure out by yourself. That’s expected though, and I am supposed to ask Lawrence for help. Lawrence has been with the company for several years now, but we hold the same job title […] Read the full article →
how to tell coworkers, “that’s not my job” by Alison Green on July 22, 2024 A reader writes: I have been employed with my agency for five years. Six months ago, I was promoted, but no one was hired to take over my old job. Some duties have remained with me and others were transferred to other people, primarily a great support person named Robin. We has communicated with the […] Read the full article →
I’m attending a conference with a dude who won’t talk to me by Alison Green on July 17, 2024 A reader writes: I work in a niche role in a slightly less niche industry. At the beginning of the year, my boss (Jules) informed us that a new role was opening up on the team — team coordinator. The new role would be responsible for managing the day-to-day workload for the team, freeing Jules […] Read the full article →
I took a job with less responsibility — and my coworkers treat me like I have no experience by Alison Green on July 16, 2024 A reader writes: I was a stay-at-home-mom for a good 10 years, and have recently started working for other people again. I have been taking entry-level positions, because I’ve been out of the workforce for a decade and also because my kids are still kind of young and I can’t handle the additional responsibility. I’m […] Read the full article →
my coworker with OCD wants to control how I do everything by Alison Green on July 16, 2024 A reader writes: I have a coworker — let’s call him Sergeant Duke — who is a pretty nice guy. We’re in the military, are the same rank, and have a similar level of experience. Aside from a personality clash with one other coworker, Sergeant Duke gets along with everyone, is good at his job, […] Read the full article →