ask the readers

Looking for crowdsourced wisdom? Here are reader discussions about life at work.

would you quit over your employer’s work-from-home policy?

Would you leave your job over its work-from-home policies? If you’ve been remote, would you consider leaving if your office required you to return? Or the opposite — if you’ve disliked working from home, would you consider leaving if that became permanent? There’s a narrative building in the media that we’re in a moment of […]

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asking to use the boss’s limo and other unprofessional mishaps

Ever look back at your career and realize that you weren’t always the consummate professional that you (of course) are today? A while back, I asked readers to confess their unprofessional deeds from the past. Over at Inc. today, I’ve got 10 of my favorites — including a temp who asked to borrow their boss’s […]

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how can we get older members of our field to stop complimenting women on their appearances?

It’s the Thursday “ask the readers” question. A reader writes: I am a member of a prestigious society for my field, several thousand members strong. We include student practitioners, new practitioners, experienced practitioners, and people retired from our industry. So we have a very large age range — 20s to 90s. As you can imagine, […]

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I feel mediocre compared to our new hires

It’s the Thursday “ask the readers” question. A reader writes: I’m nearing two years in my first post college job and in the throes of a quarter life crisis. This job isn’t my passion, but it is a good paycheck while I figure things out. For context, I’ve struggled with mental health for most of […]

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when out-of-office messages go wrong

A reader writes: The question last week about “thanks in advance” had me wondering about your thoughts on this person’s manager’s out-of-office reply in this video. I found it to be super condescending and way too much. What do you think? Would be interested in readers’ out-of-office messages. First, here’s the out-of-message for people who […]

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will office dress codes relax permanently after Covid?

It’s the Thursday “ask the readers” question. A reader writes: Could you talk about how the change to work-from-home has changed dress code (formal or informal) in the short-term, and if you think that some of that will continue on after offices reopen? For example, I notice that even when people are on Zoom calls […]

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how can I come out as queer mid-career?

It’s the Thursday “ask the readers” question. A reader writes: I’ve been with my employer for over 10 years and in that time my personal identity has shifted significantly from the professional identity I projected at my hiring. I allowed my colleagues to assume I was a straight, cisgender woman in a monogamous relationship. That […]

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