can I ask my boss to deny my vacation request so I don’t have to go home for Christmas? by Alison Green on October 23, 2017 A reader writes: I recently graduated from college and moved out of a fairly precarious home situation into an awesome apartment in a neighboring state and a perfect first job. The holidays are approaching and I have Monday and Tuesday of Christmas week off but not the rest of the week. I’ll go home for […] Read the full article →
I don’t want to refer my ex-girlfriend to a previous employer … but I feel guilty about it by Alison Green on October 19, 2017 A reader writes: I’m trying to decide whether to refer my ex-girlfriend to my previous employer. They are looking for someone with her background and she really needs the job, but I am worried about a few things. I dated Jane for two years, and we broke up last year. There was a lot of […] Read the full article →
what’s the best way to handle friends who apply for jobs where they’d be working with me? by Alison Green on October 3, 2017 A reader writes: What’s the best way to handle a friend who applies for a job not just at your company, but working with you? As I’ve moved up in my company, this has come up a couple of times. In both cases, the friend in question would work with me, so I was involved […] Read the full article →
my husband doesn’t want me to go on a business trip to Vegas by Alison Green on September 27, 2017 A reader writes: My company sent managers to Las Vegas last February for a corporate business trip for three days. My husband was very upset. While I was away, he made me upset the whole time with his anxiety of what-ifs and what-nots. Just recently I have found out I will be sent out again. […] Read the full article →
I received a networking email from a stranger who’s job searching for her husband by Alison Green on August 29, 2017 A reader writes: I received an odd email from an alum of my university (“Jane,” a stranger to me), asking for help finding her husband “Bob” a job in my state, where they were planning on moving. The email was bcc’ed, so I assume she searched for “wide job field” and “state” and sent an […] Read the full article →
I ghosted my ex, and she’s about to be my new boss by Alison Green on August 22, 2017 A reader writes: I was hoping you would be able to help me with a conundrum I got myself into. I have been an expat since graduating and have been moving a lot. More than a decade ago, when I was still young, I was in a relationship with a woman, Sylvia, in a country […] Read the full article →
how do I tell my friend that I’m about to become his boss? by Alison Green on August 17, 2017 A reader writes: About a year ago, I quit my job after I had a major health crisis and then had an unrelated death in my immediate family. My employer had been great through those challenges, but I needed some time away from working to heal body and mind. Recently I decided I was ready […] Read the full article →
ask the readers: how can I balance kids, marriage, and a job, when I sometimes have to work in the evening? by Alison Green on August 17, 2017 I’m throwing this one out to readers to weigh in on. Here’s the letter: My wife and I are both very ambitious in our careers. She works in higher-ed and I work in the nonprofit sector. While her job allows for a more flexible schedule, it requires her to bring a lot of her work […] Read the full article →
ask the readers: when and how do you involve a partner in your career decisions? by Alison Green on August 1, 2017 I’m throwing this out to readers to weigh in on. A reader writes: Something interesting came up today regarding careers and relationships that I’d be interested in hearing people’s opinions on. My younger brother (YB) is in a fairly serious relationship with a woman of his age. She has expressed a desire to join the […] Read the full article →
my family thinks my daughter is too picky about the jobs she applies for by Alison Green on July 20, 2017 A reader writes: My daughter, a university student, recently was hired for a summer job that matches her field of study. My question, now that she has a job for the summer, is not urgent, but I am sure will come up again next year, and when she graduates. She is an introvert, and quite […] Read the full article →