I’m frustrated that my company won’t hire my husband by Alison Green on December 9, 2019 A reader writes: My company encourages candidate referrals with hire-on bonuses. So far, I’ve referred three candidates to my job function, the most recent one being my husband. We are a huge, international company with a few other partner couples working here, so that’s not frowned upon. Also, we have several teams of people like […] Read the full article →
how to discuss moving for a job with your partner, when your partner might not want to move by Alison Green on November 21, 2019 It’s the Thursday “ask the readers” question. A reader writes: I’m in my last year of a PhD program and am currently on the job hunt. This graduate program has been a really long process — I was meant to graduate earlier, but some family and health issues came up that pushed the graduation back […] Read the full article →
my new coworker is the woman my husband had an affair with by Alison Green on November 5, 2019 A reader writes: I’ve been with my husband for 25 years. For the last six years we have worked for the same company, in the same division and even on the same floor. It’s actually worked out really well, except for one thing. Five years ago, he came home with a hickey on his neck. […] Read the full article →
my mother is tracking my comings and goings at work by Alison Green on October 30, 2019 A reader writes: I work for a large and diverse organization, and I’ve been in my current role for a couple of years now. Recently, my mother (who lives hundreds of miles away) got a job with her local branch. Our work doesn’t intersect at all, no conflicts of interest (my role is senior to […] Read the full article →
my partner’s career means we move all the time and it’s destroying my resume by Alison Green on October 23, 2019 A reader writes: While my partner has a prestigious career, it often requires we move to places I have no control over. Every time we move, I struggle to find work. My resume is choppy, I don’t speak the local language, my degrees are not equivalent, etc. I want so desperately to have a strong […] Read the full article →
is it a bad idea to work with my boyfriend? by Alison Green on October 8, 2019 A reader writes: I am starting a new job in a month’s time … in the same advertising agency as my boyfriend. Everyone in my new office (including the bosses) is aware of our relationship status so there’s nothing to hide, but I feel like mixing my personal and professional life together is not an ideal […] Read the full article →
I’m really uncomfortable with my husband’s work set-up — and how it could affect us both by Alison Green on August 6, 2019 A reader writes: For many years, my husband has been working at a job where his direct boss is his childhood best friend. This is dysfunctional in the extreme for a lot of reasons, including but not limited to screaming matches, work calls at all hours, and the expectation my husband does work-work but also […] Read the full article →
how can I help a job-searching friend who can’t catch a break? by Alison Green on July 11, 2019 It’s the Thursday “ask the readers” question. A reader writes: My small, very tight-knit group of friends and I are all suddenly finding ourselves in an exciting season of job transitions and moves … except for one (let’s call him Ross). Over the last several years, Ross worked in a really challenging field/environment while finishing […] Read the full article →
our boss’s wife camps out in our office for hours at a time by Alison Green on June 24, 2019 A reader writes: I work for an accounting firm with about 40 employees. I’ve been there for about nine months now and generally enjoy it. However, the culture has been a bit difficult for me to adjust to. We sometimes have clients visit for meetings and because there is limited space at the office and […] Read the full article →
can I ask my coworkers why they didn’t hire my daughter? by Alison Green on June 17, 2019 A reader writes: My daughter applied for a job at the university where I’m currently employed, in a department supervised by three very good friends of mine. I’ve known them all for over 20 years. I consider them great coworkers and friends. My neighbor also applied for the job. My neighbor has been out of […] Read the full article →