miscellaneous

update: my coworker is upset that I’m pregnant

It’s “where are you now?” month at Ask a Manager, and all December I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. Remember the letter-writer who shared an office with someone who’d been struggling with infertility and started treating the letter-writer coldly when she suspected she was pregnant? (#2 at […]

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vote for the worst boss of 2020: round 2

It’s round 2 of the Worst Boss of 2020 voting. Yesterday you narrowed the pool from 12 nominees to four. The four winners from yesterday (see results here) are paired off in two match-ups below, as we move closer to declaring a winner. Voting is now closed. The results in this round were: 1. A […]

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vote for the worst boss of 2020

It’s time to vote on the worst boss of the year — and we have so many terrible nominees that this year we’re voting in brackets. Today we’ll for the worst in each of four match-ups … tomorrow the winners from today will go head-to-head … on Wednesday we’ll vote on the final two … […]

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“I will confront you by Wednesday of this week”

Several years ago, a reader shared with us this epic email that was sent by their company’s boss after a holiday party gone terribly awry, and as we enter the holiday season we remember its glory. “This happened about ten years ago, but the email I received from our boss was so epic I preserved […]

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send in your updates!

This is a reminder to send in your updates if you haven’t already! Every December, I publish a slew of “where are they now” updates from people whose questions I answered here in the past. If you’ve had your question answered here in the past, please email me an update and let us know how […]

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your reminder that there is much good in the world

In case you need these posts today: update: my boss wants to give me his kidney (original post here, and second update here) update: my company wants to sponsor me for a service dog, but I’m not sure I should accept (original post here and later update here) update: I don’t want my coworkers to […]

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where are you now? (a call for updates)

At the end of each year, I publish a slew of “where are they now” updates from people whose questions I answered here in the past. In past years we’ve had several hundred each December and it was amazing (and has let me take most of the month off, so thank you). If you’ve had your […]

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planned maintenance later today

Just a heads-up that comments will be be closed for a few hours later today, starting around 4:30 or 5 pm ET. You’ll be able to read the whole site but not leave comments. It’s possible the site itself might have a little downtime tonight as well. It’s nothing alarming — just upgrading the server […]

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a tech update

If you’ve had trouble accessing this site in the last few days: On Wednesday, my web hosting company had a major outage that affected numerous sites and lasted over four hours. This site was completely inaccessible during that time. On Thursday night, the site was attacked by … something. It was inaccessible to some people […]

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