how do I network now that I can’t take people for coffee? by Alison Green on September 15, 2020 A reader writes: When approaching someone for an informational interview, it’s the done thing where I live to offer to take them out for a coffee (or bring them a hot drink if you’re coming to them). Whether or not they take you up on the offer isn’t really the point. It’s just a small […] Read the full article →
my mentor has become a QAnon conspiracist by Alison Green on September 9, 2020 A reader writes: I need some career-adjacent advice that intersects with the current political climate. I’ve been a wreck for about two weeks, since discovering that a mentor of mine seems to have gotten sucked in by QAnon. Any other acquaintance would be written off unsentimentally. But this feels different, partly because I am CRUSHED […] Read the full article →
how to handle requests to “pick your brain” from new grads by Alison Green on July 14, 2020 A reader writes: A few years ago, I appeared in a series of videos about “how I got my job.” My job is pretty niche and there really isn’t a ton of institutional information about it yet, so it got a lot of attention. Since then, I’ve consistently gotten two to three LinkedIn messages per […] Read the full article →
networking as a woman, when men keep angling for dates by Alison Green on July 2, 2020 It’s the Thursday “ask the readers” question. A reader writes: I am a young(ish) Black woman in a white male-dominated field. I have found it virtually impossible to network with male colleagues. Each time I try, the guy is just angling for a date. I source folks from in-person networking events, LinkedIn, and apps like […] Read the full article →
the problem with “can I pick your brain?” by Alison Green on October 30, 2019 I was on Marketplace Morning this week talking about the problems with asking someone if you can “pick their brain.” (The short version: It’s vague and doesn’t explain what you’re really looking for, and the people you want to ask are often inundated with similar requests.) We talked why people ask this, better ways to […] Read the full article →
are these men hitting on me via LinkedIn or are they legit business contacts? by Alison Green on June 18, 2019 A reader writes: I’ve noticed in the past year or two there are quite a few people (typically middle-aged men) who are reaching out to me via LinkedIn (I am a 20-something woman) trying to recruit me. While I do have a lot of experience, I’m wondering if it’s odd that some of these professionals […] Read the full article →
I don’t want to help horrible networkers by Alison Green on June 3, 2019 A reader writes: I’ve been in my industry for eight years now. From the outside, it’s a very cool area to work in (and mostly it is…) and it’s definitely more on the map as a career path than it was when I started. Lots of grads are very interested in a job like mine, […] Read the full article →
what conversation starters can I use at industry events? by Alison Green on May 2, 2019 It’s the Thursday “ask the readers” question. A reader writes: My industry requires me to go to a lot of events, especially when travelling. I work in sales so it is expected that I’ll use my time to mingle with people and build relationships. The trouble is that I have NO IDEA TO WHAT TO […] Read the full article →
do I have to help someone I can’t stand? by Alison Green on March 14, 2019 A reader writes: “Monica” is a few years younger than me and is a friend of my parents through a church community. Smply put, she irks the heck out of me. There are a number of little things that she does that get under my skin, so I just try to avoid her in my […] Read the full article →
should I pay a fee for a networking meeting? by Alison Green on February 21, 2019 A reader writes: Is it normal for someone to charge a client for a networking meeting? I’m in the process of looking for a new job and setting up informational interviews with professionals in my field. I emailed back and forth with one woman trying to set a time to meet, but kept getting responses […] Read the full article →