I ghosted my ex, and she’s about to be my new boss by Alison Green on August 22, 2017 A reader writes: I was hoping you would be able to help me with a conundrum I got myself into. I have been an expat since graduating and have been moving a lot. More than a decade ago, when I was still young, I was in a relationship with a woman, Sylvia, in a country […] Read the full article →
I think an employee is sending nude Snapchats to his coworkers … with animal filters by Alison Green on July 17, 2017 A reader writes: I have a bizarre question that I’m honestly not sure how to handle. I am the lone HR representative for a small company with a very liberal/laid-back culture — sometimes too laid-back. A lot of the employees are friends outside of work or follow each other on social media. A team of […] Read the full article →
I was fired after disabling my coworker’s caps-lock key, leaving on time to pick up my dog, and more by Alison Green on July 17, 2017 It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. I was fired after disabling my coworker’s caps-lock key I just finished my sophomore year of college. For the summer, I got a three-month internship at a company that does work in the field I am getting my degree in and want to work in […] Read the full article →
I bit my coworker by Alison Green on July 12, 2017 A reader writes: So I bit a coworker yesterday. Obviously, I’m mortified. I work in an incredibly dysfunctional office. The tone is set by our office manager. He’s in his fifties, has always worked in an office setting, and is difficult. Things are right if it’s in his favor and wrong if anyone else does […] Read the full article →
I’m in a dominant/submissive relationship — can I wear a collar to work? by Alison Green on May 16, 2017 A reader writes: My fiancé and I are involved in a 24/7 dominant/submissive relationship. Along with the traditional wedding, we are planning a collaring ceremony. This is really important to both of us, and we take it very seriously — we think of the collar as akin to a wedding ring, representing our mutual trust, […] Read the full article →
my employee set up a false fraud investigation … because she was being abused and wanted the police by Alison Green on May 10, 2017 A reader writes: I work in a management position at an investment firm. A few months ago the firm, and Mary, one of the people who reports to me, were investigated by the authorities for fraud. The investigation revealed no fraud had been committed, and Jane, another employee who reports to me, admitted to altering […] Read the full article →
drunk boss got angry I couldn’t drive him, emailing thank-you’s for routine office stuff, and more by Alison Green on April 21, 2017 It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. My boss got drunk and was angry that I couldn’t drive him back to the office I have been working at my job (a Fortune 500 company) for nine months, after I graduated college last year. My boss and I went to a business lunch […] Read the full article →
I accidentally insulted my boss’s daughter by Alison Green on April 19, 2017 A reader writes: I am a female employee in my late 20s working for a large Fortune 500 U.S. company. My boss is in his early 40s and is a father of two. His oldest is a 15 year old girl. My boss often tells me, totally unsolicited, that his daughter is “very attractive,” a […] Read the full article →
employee won’t come back unless her coworker is fired by Alison Green on April 5, 2017 This letter was originally part of a five-short-answers column, but it’s getting enough interest that I’m making it its own post. The other four letters that were originally bundled with it are now here. (Keep in mind that that’s also why my answer here is short and not as comprehensive as it might otherwise be.) […] Read the full article →
our coworker lied about having a sick child and a rich fiance by Alison Green on March 14, 2017 A reader writes: I’m really curious about what you would have done in this situation. I’ve worked for a company for a little over 10 years and there is a person, who we will call Lysa, who started soon after me. We worked in a semi-small and close department (20 people or so) and about […] Read the full article →