I’ve been breaking into my company’s computer network

A reader writes:

I’ve been working as an accountant in a corporate environment (1000~1500 employees) for more than 4 years. Although I am an accountant, I have a strong IT background, somehow exceptional compared to accountants, but not enough to make me an IT specialist.

The story is..

Soon after I started 4 years ago, I discovered a weak point in the security of the local network’s portal. A really simple one, to sum it up, I add a simple minor adjustment to the URL of the portal to let me access “some” forms as a different person. This would allow me to access almost all data related to internal surveys, contest questions and answers, and, well, the most vital one, attendance data, on behalf of any registered employee. To be honest, I didn’t tell anyone about it. Even later when I built a somehow trusted network of friends, the few ones who knew I could access this data didn’t know how to do it.

I must admit I’ve used this weakness many times. Normally to get the job done faster, such as when I wanted to get an executive to sign a document and wanted to check if he was there quickly. And, well, sometimes to know things such as who voted for who in the periodic contests. But that’s about it. I’ve never tried to change anything, I am not even sure if that’s possible, and I’ve never given anyone any idea on how to do it.

The question: What is the right thing to do now? And if I get caught by the IT or anyone, will they be able to send me a warning or is it really their fault?! To me, it looks like an unlocked “door” that no one knows about and I use as a shortcut. I know, it is possibly unethical not to tell about it, but in my defense I don’t believe that the IT security department is so lousy that it doesn’t know about it!

Well, come on. The right thing to do is to stop, immediately, and to resist the temptation to look again. I think you probably know that.

The right thing to do is also probably to alert someone to this loophole, although I don’t know if there’s a way for you to do that without making it clear that went looking for it (if indeed you did) or that you used it.

The right thing to do is also to stop blaming IT for making it possible for you to do this, and to take responsibility for doing something that you knew you weren’t supposed to be doing. After all, If I leave my house unlocked and you help yourself to its contents, you don’t get off the hook because I made it possible for you to do that.

This isn’t that different than snooping on your boss’s computer because she didn’t log out when she went to lunch. (Actually, it might be worse, because it required deliberate fraud; you’re logging in as someone else.) Would you expect “she should have logged out” to be a defense against that?

So yes, you could not only be formally disciplined for doing this, but you could also be fired for it if your company wanted to. It probably wouldn’t come to that if you were really only able to access attendance data and contest entries, but it wouldn’t be unreasonable of them if it did, because this is about integrity and how you operate when no one is looking — and that has bigger ramifications behind the specific data you were looking at.

At a minimum, you’d likely lose all trust; there are consequences for compromising your integrity if people learn about it. That’s on you, not on your IT department (and trying to blame them adds to that perception, rather than lessening it).

I hate to berate people who are willing to confess things to me, but I think you’ve got to up your level of personal responsibility on this one.

open thread

IMG_0131It’s the Friday open thread!

The comment section on this post is open for discussion with other readers on anything you want to talk about. If you want an answer from me, emailing me is still your best bet, but this is a chance to talk to other readers.

the office temp is making more than me, I made a mess of asking for a raise, and more

It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go…

1. The office temp is making more than me

I’m a recent college graduate and just started working for a small company about four months ago. The pay is not that great (a few dollars over minimum wage) but I don’t have issue with it because I know I don’t have much work experience and my boss has been great at training me in everything I need to learn for my job. With all the experience I’m receiving, I can deal with the pay. We recently hired a temp two months ago, who I supervise, to help with the sorting of some documents. I’ve spoken candidly with the temp regarding staffing agencies and the temp has mentioned that the agency takes 10% from their paycheck.

I open and sort the mail at my job and today I happen to see the bill from the temps staffing agency. I was a little shocked to see how much the temp has been getting paid by the hour and with the agency’s cut it’s still more than what I earn, almost $10 more. I stared at the paper for sometime just to make sure I was reading it correctly.

I’m in no way going to complain to my boss or anything like that. I was just shocked and I can’t help but to feel a little hurt that someone who is here temporary is making more an hour than I do. Is it common for a temp to earn more an hour than the employees who already work there? Could there be another reason why the pay for the temp is higher than mine if all they are doing is just sorting documents?

Yes, sometimes — because they’re being paid to be temporary, to be cut loose at any time without warning or feedback. Temps also don’t get benefits, so they often cost your company less overall once you factor in benefits and other overhead.

2. I made a mess of asking for a raise

Can I salvage my raise negotiation? A couple of months ago, I went to my department head to ask for a raise because my supervisor had left and his responsibilities became mine. My supervisor left a year and a half ago, and since then I have assumed some major responsibilities that used to be part of his supervisory job. I have done a good job in my new role and implemented some new programs, as well as completed lots of unfinished projects from the previous supervisor. The problem is when I met with the department head, I turned the meeting into a manual on “How NOT to ask for a raise”! I used every wrong technique and phrase in the book. All the stuff you warn people not to do. I focused on my years of experience and not on my ability to do the job, I whined about much money my supervisor used to make compared to my salary, I threatened to leave, I threatened to do less work, etc. etc. Oh, it was bad! Then last week I got mad because the department head had not done anything so I called him in to HR for a meeting. Again I did a pretty bad job of asking for a raise at that meeting.

Now, I am wondering if there is anything I can do to salvage the situation? I don’t feel that my employer is completely resistant to giving raises but I am fairly sure that they are not interested in giving ME a raise because of the way I handled the negotiations. Help!

Oooooh. Yeah, this isn’t good. If I were your manager, I would be pretty damn hesitant to give you a raise at this point because I’d be concerned it would signal that your approach paid off (thus potentially reinforcing it). If I were in your shoes, I’d go back to your manager, say you mishandled it, apologize, and say something like, “I hope you’ll let me make a more business-based case for a raise down the road” … but I do think it needs to be down the road (like six months or more), and you need to establish an impeccable track record of professionalism between now and then to mitigate some of this.

Read an update to this letter here.

3. One of my drivers is accepting gift cards from a customer

We are a small company, and employ delivery drivers to bring our product to our customers. They are paid a fair hourly rate, full benefits, etc., and are non-exempt. They do not receive tips, but I recently found out that one of our drivers has accepted gift cards in small amounts (less than $20) from a particular customer as a tip. For some reason, this is not sitting right with me, but I can’t put my finger on why. What are your thoughts on this? Are we missing some big issue that could be caused by this?

Well, your drivers don’t typically accept tips, so this driver isn’t acting in alignment with that policy. If you intend to offer free delivery to your customers, he’s undermining that by taking tips (even in the form of something other than cash). Your customer is being kind in offering the gift cards, but your driver should handle it the way you’d want him to handle the offer of a cash tip — which presumably would be to politely refuse it and say something like, “No tip necessary.”

4. Can I be fired for not coming to work during a state of emergency?

Can I get fired for calling off of work when my state has been declared to be in a state of emergency and I can’t even get my car out to go to work? One of my coworkers went in and it took him 3 hours as opposed to his normal 30-minute commute. Most businesses are closed and people aren’t even supposed to be driving unless its an emergency.

Legally? Yes. In practice, that would be pretty unusual, unless you already had a serious absenteeism issue. But employers can legally require employees to come to work, even in extreme weather conditions.

Generally a state of emergency doesn’t forbid businesses from being open or require residents to take any particular action; rather, it simply empowers the state to more quickly reassign resources to to provide immediate assistance to areas affected by the storm. As one example that’s pretty typical, see the North Carolina labor department on this issue: “It does not matter if state officials have declared a state of emergency and are advising people to stay off of the roads. The decision to stay open or to close, for its employees to remain at work or leave early, or for its employees to report to work or not during adverse weather conditions, is entirely up to each individual employer to make on its own.”

5. What’s the difference between a manager and a supervisor?

Is there a difference between the job title of supervisor vs manager, or is more semantics? I have been in my position with the title of supervisor a little over 2 years. As the company has grown and my position along with it, I feel that I have more responsibilities than a typical supervisor. My thinking is that a supervisor does just that, supervises employees in accordance with set policies and procedures and monitors their performance but doesn’t set the policies/procedures and must get that from their manager. On the other hand, I think of a manager as someone who sets those policies and has the authority to make necessary changes and basically has full responsibility for the activities and outcomes of their employees.

I report directly to my director, who in turn reports to administration; there is no one in between. For the most part, I have the capability to make any changes that I feel need to be made in order for my department to maintain productivity. The main reason I am wanting to clarify is that I am considering asking for my position to be reevaluated; the position has grown and developed as the company has grown, and I no longer feel I am doing the job I was initially hired to do (along with of course asking for compensation to match). Am I being too picky with the title or is this relevant to the overall issue of wanting to have a title that matches what my responsibilites are?

People sometimes use “manager” and “supervisor” interchangeably, but generally “manager” connotes more responsibility than “supervisor”; supervisors are often more concerned with process and day-to-day activities, while managers often have more involvement in things like setting goals and strategy, assessing performance, and giving feedback and are more likely to be responsible for the overall success of their team. Neither, though, has a set scope of authority that’s universally applied. In particular, some managers and supervisors have hiring and firing authority, and some don’t. It really comes down to the particular role and how the terms are used at your company.

Regardless, though, if you feel that your position is substantially different than it used to be, it’s reasonable to propose that your title (and pay) reflect that.

what’s wrong with “do what you love,” how employers can get your salary history, and more

A few miscellaneous things —

1. Advice for employers who want job candidates’ salary history

I love this article from Suzanne Lucas (of evilhrlady.org). Her editor sent her my article on how job seekers can avoid giving out their salary history, and suggested that Suzanne write an article telling hiring managers how to get candidates to give up their salary histories. Suzanne’s response is awesome.

2. Another problem with “do what you love” as a career mantra

I’ve written before about why “follow your passion” is (often) bad career advice. Here’s a great article about why it’s also incredibly classist, privileged advice. The author, Miya Tokumitsu, writes: “‘Do what you love’ disguises the fact that being able to choose a career primarily for personal reward is an unmerited privilege, a sign of that person’s socioeconomic class. Even if a self-employed graphic designer had parents who could pay for art school and cosign a lease for a slick Brooklyn apartment, she can self-righteously bestow ‘do what you love’ as career advice to those covetous of her success.”

She also point out that “do what you love” advice causes work to be divided into two classes: “that which is lovable (creative, intellectual, socially prestigious) and that which is not (repetitive, unintellectual, undistinguished). Those in the lovable work camp are vastly more privileged in terms of wealth, social status, education, society’s racial biases, and political clout, while comprising a small minority of the workforce. For those forced into unlovable work, it’s a different story. Under the ‘do what you love’ credo, labor that is done out of motives or needs other than love (which is, in fact, most labor) is not only demeaned but erased.”

3. Me, talking about snow days

I was a guest on WHYY radio in Philadelphia earlier this week, talking about how employers handle snow days — including taking questions from callers, which is always enormously fun. You can listen to it here (the segment with me starts at 15:00).

4. More on how much money people make

More about our huge crowdsourced list of what salaries people are earning in what jobs: Reader Khushnood Viccaji created this shared, editable spreadsheet of this data here, so that anyone who wants to help clean it up can access it and edit the shared version. Please edit only the entries which are clearly inaccurate (and if anyone has suggestions on how to better control the editing process, I’m all ears).

how to manage a difficult employee who does good work

A reader writes:

I manage a four-person team. One of my staff members is incredibly hard to work with. She’s negative, combative, and resistant to feedback and direction and doesn’t get along with the rest of the team. But her work is good, and so I don’t have grounds for letting her go. What’s the best way to approach managing a high performer who’s bad on “soft skills”?

Well, first, let’s revisit that definition of “high performer.” While the product your staff member produces might be good, she not performing in the way that you need — far from it. She’s not a high performer if she’s chronically alienating her coworkers and making it hard for you to give her guidance about her work.

“Soft skills” like getting along with team members and being generally pleasant and professional aren’t an optional add-on. They’re as much a core part of what you need from a staff member as, say, strong writing or expertise with a particular software, and it’s just as reasonable — and, in fact, necessary — to make them part of the bar for the role. After all, an employee who is abrasive, unable to get along with others or otherwise difficult to work with can be as disruptive as one who falling short on “hard skills,” like missing deadlines or turning in shoddy work. And so it’s perfectly reasonable to treat these issues just like you would any other performance issue.

So it’s time for a serious conversation with your staff member — one in which you lay out your expectations not just for her work product but for how she approaches her work. Sit down for a talk. Be specific about where she’s falling short and what needs to change. For instance, you might explain that maintaining good relationships with other team members, a willingness to explore new ideas and being open to feedback are key requirements for performing in the role successfully. And you should also be direct about the possible consequences of not meeting your expectations in these areas — including that her behavior is jeopardizing her job — because it’s only fair that she understand how serious the problems are.

From there, continue to treat these issues the same way you would any other behavior that you asked a staff member to change. That means that you should offer positive feedback if you see an improvement (“I really appreciate how open you were to hearing my thoughts on this”) or address it in a progressively more serious manner if you don’t see the improvement you need (“We talked a few weeks ago about how I need you to be open to hearing feedback about your work, but you’ve continued to seem adversarial”).

However this plays out, the key is to lay out a clear and specific bar for the behavior you expect to see — both in your own mind and for your staff member.

This post originally appeared at DailyWorth.

when a married client brings his mistress to dinner

A reader writes:

My company recently hosted an event for our top clients. It was billed as a social event, but there was a lot of business talk going on as well.

One of our clients showed up with his mistress…yep, his mistress. He did not ask us ahead of time if he could bring a guest – in fact, other clients asked to bring spouses but we said no because of space issues with the venue.

Needless to say, it made several of us very uncomfortable. This client is married with several children. He has referenced his wife several times in meetings. And yes – I was able to confirm that he is still married. I should also mention that my company paid for this client’s travel expenses to attend this event.

Judgements aside (which I’m really trying not to do), do you have any advice for being around this person in the future? Personally, I don’t want to do business with someone who is dishonest in their personal life but I’m not in any sort of position to cut this client loose. My philosophy is that if your spouse can’t trust you, I probably can’t either.

I wrote back and asked, “Are you sure that this was a mistress and not someone else (business associate, sister, etc.)?” The response:

He referred to the woman as his “special friend” a few times during the event. They were also pretty “friendly” with each other (linking arms, rubbing each other’s backs, making googly eyes at each other). She also said something about sharing his hotel room with him. Very weird stuff!

Yeah, that doesn’t sound like a sister.

I suppose it’s possible that he has an open marriage and his wife is just fine with this arrangement. (Hell, if this gets her out of going to his business functions, maybe that’s why she’s okay with it.) But if that’s the case, you’d expect him to still realize that it’s going to make bystanders who aren’t in the know awfully uncomfortable. So regardless, there’s a serious lapse in judgment going on here at a minimum.

And actually, his judgment here is the bigger issue to me. His marriage is his own business, but putting business associates in a position where they have to witness what looks like adultery — something that most people are uncomfortable being a party to — is gross. It says he’s either utterly oblivious to social norms, or doesn’t care about his impact on people around him, or worse.

But if you’re going to continue working with this guy, all you can really do is accept that he comes with some pretty questionable personal behavior, some of which might be on display in front of you. It could help to remember that he’s not the first client to come in an eccentric package, and these clients are at least good sources of amazing stories that you can regale people with in the future.

Beyond that, though, I don’t think there’s really a satisfying answer. This guy is perfectly comfortable behaving like an ass in front of business contacts.

Read updates to this letter here and here.

I’m being evaluated by a manager who just started last week, my interviewers ignored me, and more

It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go…

1. I’m being evaluated by a manager who just started last week

My new boss has been with our organization (a state agency) for one week. She has banking experience, which is hardly applicable, and a long history of management experience. Aside from the lack of experience, she has an awful work ethic and is an overall textbook bad manager. I have just recently learned that she will be doing our office’s employee evaluations this month. I can’t see how she’s qualified to be in that position, let alone to provide performance feedback for the past year. I take my career seriously and I value good constructive feedback. Am I being overly negative or is there a positive aspect that I’m not seeing?

Yeah, it’s pretty silly to have someone evaluate you who’s only worked with you a few weeks. However, managers sometimes get pushed into this position when they’re new, it’s evaluation time, and there’s no one else to do it. If I were in your shoes, I’d approach this as if she were competent, just new and try to make the process easy for both of you: Give her a self-evaluation ahead of time, laying out what your goals were for the year and how well you’ve met each of them, as well as information about any additional achievements you’ve had this year. The more information she has about your performance, the better, so take it upon yourself to supply her with that information.

2. My interviewers ignored me during a lull for technical difficulties

I had an interview this afternoon that didn’t go very well. To make a long story short, I was supposed to present, as part of the interview, a technology-based library program that I had created, and unfortunately, the internet was not cooperating. I was interviewed by a panel of five, and while the library director spent 20-30 minutes trying to work out the technology issues, the other interviewers talked amongst themselves, texted, played with the cell phones, etc. After about 10 minutes of this, I decided to engage them in conversation, but had I said nothing, I would have sat there the entire time twiddling my thumbs. Is this acceptable behavior? I have a sneaking suspicion that if I had pulled out my cell phone and started texting during the lull in the interview, this would not have been looked upon very favorably.

Depending on what type of library it was, there’s a chance that they’re operating under insane hiring rules that some government agencies and universities operate under, which are sometimes (mis)interpreted as not allowing your interviewers to engage with you outside of a specific list of questions that they’re asking everyone. (That makes for terrible hiring, but so be it.) Or, alternately, they were just being rude, possibly because they were thinking of you not as a professional colleague but as an “other” who they were there to assess.

3. I’m frustrated that my coworkers constantly miss work

I work at a small office that has less than 20 people. We get X number of paid off days a year (10 days until you reach 4 years, then it’s 15), which are used for vacation, personal and sick time. When you run out, you’re still allowed to take time off, but you just don’t get paid for it. There are no hard and fast rules about this anywhere, which is part of the problem. There are 2 particular employees who call off ALL THE TIME. One is a younger woman; this is her first professional job and she’s our receptionist. So when she calls off, the entire rest of the staff (meaning the assistants, not the attorneys) have to cover the phones all days. Typically I end up working 2 and a half hours up there when she calls off. We can remotely log onto our desk computers from hers to access our emails, files, etc., but only if the phones aren’t busy. We can’t take or make phone calls, because we have to be able to answer the phones. The other person who calls off is a long-time employee. He apparently has been doing this for years. I would estimate that they both call off every 6 weeks or so. The long-term employee has informed me, which defending himself about how much he calls off, that he has emotional issues (anxiety, depression from the loss of his father almost 2 years ago) and physical problems. He said that our boss knows about his situation. They both call off if there is snow on the ground; I live close to the long term employee and offered to give him a ride (he typically takes the bus) and he refused. They both talk crap about each other for calling off so much. Not to mention, the receptionist is late all the time, meaning more time spent up there covering for her. This makes the rest of the staff resentful of both of them.

Am I (and the others who complain) just a bunch of huge jerks? It’s hard to give someone the benefit of the doubt when they are off so much. Since the beginning of this year alone, the older employee has missed 5 and 1/2 days of work and the receptionist has been off probably 4 or 5 times. None of them are ever required to bring a doctor’s note. Some of these times, I really do know that they are sick and shouldn’t be at work but where is the line in the sand? I’ve suggested to the older employee that he go get his immune system screened because I’ve never seen a person who gets sick all the time that doesn’t have some type of deficiency. The office manager and the owner/boss of the office are both well aware of the situation and have even made comments about how much they call off, yet nothing is ever done. The older employee actually told me that I should just start calling off if I want to, that everyone else would be allowed to like he does, which I do not believe.

No, you’re not huge jerks. Your reaction is pretty natural. However, your resentment should be directed less at your coworkers and more at their managers, who are the ones who are allowing this to continue (and complaining about it to other employees, no less, which is incredibly lame when they have the power to do something about it and apparently aren’t).

(Also, for whatever it’s worth, 10 days off a year, including sick leave, is very stingy. That doesn’t excuse your coworkers’ absenteeism, which sounds excessive, but it’s another reason to be annoyed with your employer.)

4. Can my employer require me to attend a political rally?

I currently work on an Indian reservation doing some back-end IT work. I was recently informed that in the next few weeks I will be required to attend a political rally for an upcoming state initiative that will negatively affect the casino if passed. While I work on an Indian reservation, the rally will be at the state capitol, maybe 30 minutes away which bus transportation will be provided. In addition, time spent at the rally will be paid at my normal rate, so it would essentially be an 8-hour day at a political rally. I would not be required to make up the time. I asked what happens if I refuse to attend, and was told that at a minimum I would be written up and not paid that day and possibly fired. It was also implied that by not attending, I was singling myself out if they required layoffs in the near future since I wouldn’t be a “team player.”

Can an employer require an employee to attend a political rally regardless of their stance on the actual issue?

Well, some states (like California, Louisiana, and Washington) prohibit employers from directing the political activities of employees and others (like Massachusetts, Mississippi, Oregon, and Wisconsin) prohibits employers from requiring employees to provide any political service as a condition of employment. (These laws generally make exceptions for jobs that are political in nature.) However, if you’re being paid to perform specific activities (as sounds like would be the case here), the law isn’t clear. My hunch is that it’s probably allowed, but you’d need to talk to a lawyer in your state to be sure.

5. Can I be fired for not clocking in early?

I’m employed at a security company and my schedule is 11-7. But I’m constantly being written up and threatened with termination because I’m not clocking in 15 minutes before my shift. I’m told that my shift starts at 10:45, but I’m not getting paid for the 8 hrs and 15 minutes; I’m only getting paid 8 hours a shift. Does me clocking in on time before 11 and not at 10:45 warrant termination?

Wait, they’re requiring you to clock in at 15 minutes early and threatening to fire you for not doing that, but they don’t want to pay you for the time? That’s illegal. If you’re required to be there (clocked in or not), they must pay you for that time.

interviewing for a job with pieces that I won’t be good at

A reader writes:

How can I stop myself from focusing on the aspects of a job I know I won’t be good at?

The organization has contacted me for an interview, which means they think I’m qualified. But I’m scared they’re going to smell my fear – fear that they’re interviewing someone for an administrative assistant position who really would prefer hiding in a back room and being behind the scenes.

There are many detail-oriented parts of the job that I know I’d be good at, like proofreading documents, doing social media, data entry, typing, filing, and putting together promotional materials like flyers and newsletters. It’s just the reception and customer service part that I’m scared of. I wouldn’t really say I’m a people person. I’m pretty introverted, and though no one would say I’m unfriendly or sour, I’m afraid I’m just not a front desk personality. I also become short-circuited if too many things are going on at once – I prefer to work at my own pace.

I keep trying to tell myself that I would probably be OK with these aspects of the job once I’m trained and I’ve gotten used to those duties, but then I tell myself, “No! You’d suck at it!”

Does it sound like I really shouldn’t be trying to do this type of work considering my temperament? But there is no perfect job – and this has a good salary range and is in a library, and I have a library background. I feel like I can’t afford to sabotage myself.

I can’t give you a definitive answer from here, but here are some thoughts on how to figure it out for yourself.

First, much of this comes down to being brutally honest with yourself about what it would be like to be in that job. Plenty of people who aren’t “people persons” (“people people”?) do perfectly well in front-desk positions, while  other people would find it torture. If it’s something that wouldn’t be your first choice but that you could handle just fine, that’s one thing; if you’re going to be miserable and frazzled, that’s another. You’ve got to be brutally, brutally honest with yourself about where you’re likely to fall on that spectrum.

Second, receptionists do get interrupted all the time, throughout the day, and they don’t always get to work at their own pace (calls need to be answered now, Apollo from Accounting needs that invoice immediately, and a vendor just walked in and needs to be dealt with). If you know that you don’t do well in those situations, this might not be the right fit for you.

Third, and most important: It’s okay to conclude a job isn’t right for you. It’s far better to figure that out now than to end up in a job you hate or struggle in. Don’t pressure yourself into wanting a job that you’d ultimately be ill-suited for just because it meets some of the items on your list (like being in your field or having a good salary). I’m not saying that this job isn’t right for you — just that you shouldn’t talk yourself out of that possibility if there are core pieces that don’t feel right to you. (Obviously that advice changes if you’re in a situation where you don’t have the luxury of turning down work or waiting longer to find a job — but even in those cases, you’d want to go into it with your eyes open about possible outcomes.)

All this said, though, since you’re not yet sure where you stand on this, realize that you don’t have to make a decision right now. Do the phone interview and learn more about the job and what they’re looking for. If they invite you to an in-person interview after that, go to that too and use it partly as a fact-finding mission about whether this job is likely to be right for you. That’s how you should be treating all interviews anyway, even ones that you’re sure are the right fit (because often when you pay attention, you’ll discover that what looked like the right fit in the job ad isn’t actually the right fit in reality).

In other words, explore whether this job is right for you just like the employer is exploring whether you’re right for the job. They’re not making up their mind about you yet, and you don’t need to make up your mind about them yet either.

how to know it’s time to leave your job

The job market has been tough for so long that it’s easy to think that if you have a job, you should stay in it for as long as possible – but that mindset isn’t always right! Too many people stay in their jobs well beyond when they should, and that ends up holding them back in their careers and breeding unhappiness.

Here are eight signs that it’s time to think about moving on from your job.

1. You’ve been unhappy for months. Everyone goes through periods of discontent at work now and then, but if you’ve dreaded going to work for months and get anxious just thinking about your office, that’s a sign that you should be looking at alternatives.

2. You haven’t had a raise in three years. Not every company does annual raises anymore, and the economy has meant that some companies have frozen pay across the board. But after years of no pay increase, it’s worth looking around at what other companies might offer you. (Make sure you’ve asked for a raise first though; if you haven’t made the case for increased pay, leaving over the lack of it would be premature.)

3. Your boss hates you. Even if you like your work, having a boss who dislikes you usually means that you’d be better off moving on. Managers have an enormous amount of control over your career – from what projects you get to what growth opportunities and recognition you’re given. A boss who dislikes you can hold you back and have a long-term impact on your career. You’re far better off working for someone who will champion you than thwart you.

4. When you tell your family and friends about your workplace, they’re horrified. When you’ve been in a toxic and dysfunctional workplace for a long time, you can lose sight of how bad it is and it can even start to feel normal. If this has happened to you, it’s a sign to get out! If you don’t, you risk internalizing that dysfunction and taking bad habits with you to future jobs.

5. You can’t remember the last time you felt challenged in your work. Sure, some people are happy to stay at a job that simply pays the bills. But if you’re someone who wants to grow professionally and personally, then staying in a job that hasn’t challenged you in a long time doesn’t align with those plans. (This doesn’t mean that you should leave at the first sign of boredom. Rather, this is about prolonged periods where you feel like you’re stagnating and where you see no change in sight.)

6. You’re receiving a lot more critical feedback in writing. If you’re suddenly getting a slew of critical feedback in emails or memos, it’s a sign your job could be in jeopardy. Many companies require written documentation of problems and warnings before an employee is let go, so a sudden increase of written feedback (when you didn’t used to receive any) can be a sign that your boss is creating a paper trail to build a case for firing you.

7. You’re on a formal performance improvement plan (PIP). PIPsare often the last thing that happens before you’re fired. In theory, if you meet the terms of the plan, you’ll preserve your job and be able to move forward, but in practice, by the time you’re on one, it’s often because things aren’t working out and aren’t likely to. That doesn’t mean that PIPs never end in success; sometimes they do. But since they so often don’t, it’s smart to be job-searching meanwhile.

8. Your boss tells you. If your boss says things like, “I need to see significant improvement” or “this could get you fired,” she’s not kidding. Too often, people hear feedback like this but don’t believe they would really be let go – and then are shocked when they’re suddenly out of a job. If your boss is telling you directly that things are serious, believe it – and start job searching.

I originally published this at U.S. News & World Report.

my coworker was arrested for domestic violence in front of us, and our employer won’t do anything about it

A reader writes:

Several months ago, our organization and several other partner organizations attended a conference. On the final night, my coworker “Joe” physically assaulted his girlfriend (who he’d brought along for some reason) and was arrested. The incident took place in his hotel room, and several of my coworkers, a few managers (but not his manager) and several employees of partner organizations witnessed it because they were staying on the same floor. The incident was so loud and disturbing that the hotel actually comped everyone on the floor’s night’s stay at our organization’s expense.

We all assumed that Joe would be fired, but he wasn’t even suspended (no rehab, no anger management, nothing) and returned to work like nothing had happened. This is especially concerning because he is an outreach worker and 80% of his job is dealing with a vulnerable population, some of whom likely have experience with domestic violence. (He would have had to pass a criminal record check to be employed.) His manager is taking the stance that “he’s a good guy who had too much to drink” and our executive director says that Joe can’t be fired because it’s a personal matter, not a job matter, and we could be sued for wrongful dismissal (though he hasn’t consulted a lawyer).

Many of our coworkers (myself included) are disturbed that Joe is allowed to remain in his outreach position and believe that his behavior directly impacts his ability to do his job. Some partner organizations are even deciding to not refer clients to us because of it.

Is it true that Joe cannot be fired for what he’s done? Is there any way for us to frame this to our executive director in a way that’s likely to make him take action (or is it even worth the potential blowback)?

No, it’s not true that he can’t be fired.

I checked with employment lawyer Bryan Cavanaugh to make sure there wasn’t something I was overlooking here, and he agreed. He says: “The notion that someone cannot be fired for personal conduct off the clock and away from work is false.”

It’s true that in some states the organization would need to be careful not to fire Joe for committing a crime that he hasn’t been convicted of, because some state laws prohibit an employer from discriminating against an employee based on arrests or criminal charges that did not result in convictions. However, the organization could leave the crime issue out of it and simply fire Joe for hitting someone on a business trip, or causing a commotion during a business trip, or behavior on a business trip that soured relations with partner organizations. Bryan explains, “If the employer does decide to fire, it should be clear that Joe would be fired for his conduct, not whether he was arrested for it or whether that conduct would constitute a crime. Often this come down to an issue of wording.”

Bryan also pointed out: “In Joe’s case, there are two sides to every story, and it sounds like the author did not witness the altercation, so it is possible Joe is not being let go because his actions were justified. This sounds unlikely, but it is possible the violence was a true accident or self-defense.”

In any case, your organization is wrong about the law. As for how to talk to your executive director about this, you can certainly point out that the law does allow taking action here, that some partner organizations aren’t willing to send clients to you anymore, and that many of you are concerned that a coworker assaulted someone on a work trip and it’s being brushed aside as “a good guy who had too much to drink.” If you don’t feel comfortable or safe working around Joe, you can state that too. Those are all reasonable things to say, and you shouldn’t face blowback for it.

Ultimately, this is your executive director’s call (one that will be complicated by the fact that several months have already passed, unfortunately). … but it’s absolutely reasonable for you and your coworkers to speak up about this.