short answer Saturday — 6 short answers to 6 short questions

It’s short answer Saturday — six short answers to six short questions. Here we go…

1. My offer letter has different hours than I’d thought we’d agreed to

I recently started a part-time job, and I’m just filling out the new hire paperwork now, which includes my letter of offer. When I interviewed for this job, we agreed to 3 days per week. All the full-time positions that are similar to mine are 35 hours/week, so I was under the impression that my 3 days would mean 21 hours/week, and I think that number came up in our discussions, but I couldn’t swear to it. We also agreed to a six-month contract.

I was reading my letter of offer today and it’s for 22.5 hours/week (7.5 hour days) and five months instead of six. The letter came from the Operations department rather than from my supervisor. I don’t know exactly how much detail my supervisor gave them, so I can’t say how much of those details came directly from him and how much was their own interpretation. I’d really like to write them back before I sign the offer and ask them about the discrepancies between what was discussed and what’s in the letter. I’m not too concerned about asking about the number of months, that seems like a big enough deal that they would take it seriously, but I worry that asking about the hours will seem petty. 22.5 hours won’t be a dealbreaker for me, but I would really rather work 21 if I can. I’m paid hourly, so they would only pay for the hours I worked either way. My impression of my supervisor is that he won’t really care whether I work 21 or 22.5 hours, but I worry that the fact that I care will make me seem petty if he hears about me asking the Operations people about it, which he certainly might. Can you help? Is there a way I can ask about this that won’t reflect badly on me?

“This is a small thing, but I want to make sure it’s right. We had discussed a six-month term, but here it it says five months.” I wouldn’t bring up the hours if you’d just assumed it would be 21 hours/week — but if 21 hours is what was explicitly agreed to, then add that in too: “It also says 22.5 hours, but I think we’d agreed to 21.”

Straightforward, direct, we said X but now it says Y, and that’s it.

2. Asking to work when I’m home on breaks

I am a college student who dorms away from home and I was wondering: if I got a job for the summer somewhere, what’s the best way to tell/ask them if I could continue working when I go home for breaks and such?

“I’d love to continue working for you when I’m home for two weeks in the fall and four weeks in the winter, if that’s a possibility.”

3. How should I approach a connection about a job where she works?

I just found a job posting that I’d like to apply for and have discovered through LinkedIn that someone I used to work with not only works for the company advertising the job posting but also belongs to the same department this position would report to. I believe the hiring manager for this position would probably report to her, but I’m not 100% sure.

I’d like to contact her to see if I could get some further information about the job opening. While she is a connection, I haven’t spoken to her in a while. It’s been a couple years since we worked together. So, it seems inconsiderate to even ask for help. How do I convey that I’m not expecting her to help me find a job, but just wanted to see I could get more information about the role, if she’s willing to provide it? At the very least I’d like to get the name of the hiring manager so I know who to address the cover letter to.

Just tell her that you’re applying and you’d love any advice or insight she can give you. This is normal to do.

Don’t worry about who you address the cover letter to though — no one cares about that.

4. How can I find work in my field without recent experience?

I left my nonprofit job in late 2008 with the hopes that I would find something else. The economy crashed, and after 4 months of job hunting, I decided to take a job as a nanny with the hope that it would be temporary. I have been applying and interviewing off and on since then, to no avail. I am glad to have income now, but after 4 years, I am ready to go back into the nonprofit world permanently. I have work experience and a master’s degree, but I feel like I am being discriminated against because I haven’t been behind a desk for the past few years and employers would rather hire someone who is currently in the field. I’ve also met a few mothers on the playground who want to go back to work after taking a few years off and are facing the same issue. What do you suggest?

You probably know this, but just to make sure — you’re not being discriminated against in the legal sense; it’s legal and even understandable when you think about it for employers to prefer candidates with more recent experience in their field. Of course, that doesn’t make it any easier on people who are in your situation.

This post has advice for stay-at-home parents who are now returning to work, and it might be helpful for you. Essentially, project work, which lets you start to build contacts and reputation, and networking are going to be your friends. Good luck!

5. Explaining my TPS work authorization

I have been granted Temporary Protected Status (TPS) under section 244 of the Immigration and Nationality Act. The benefits of TPS are temporary protection from removal (or deportation) and employment authorization in United States. The length of this program is 18 months and is extendable.

When an employer ask me “do you need sponsorship now or in the near future,” what should I say?

“I currently have work authorization and don’t need sponsorship.” You can also add, “I expect my authorization to be renewed in the future” if that’s true.

6. I can’t stop thinking about my dream job

I interviewed for a dream job in November. I made it to a third set of interviews and met the team of 7 and had lunch with the VIPs. I never heard back from them. I sent an email to the hiring manager in January and called in February, and first they said they needed to interview someone from out of town, and then they said the job was on hold. It is June, and they reposted the job, with essentially the same job description.

I am going to be starting a new job soon, but I keep on going back to this dream job. I have read that I should just move on, but it is really getting to me what happened with my candidacy … I cannot stop thinking about it, I want that job more than the new one that i will be starting next week. I feel jilted, and really sad when i see this job reposted…and I think why would I want to work there when they treated me that way to begin with?

Should I forget about them or should I contact them again? If I still do not hear back from them, I suppose I would finally give up. If they are still interested, even after I start my new job, should I consider working for them? I am probably holding out hope for nothing, but does it mean by how they acted, that they would not be good to work for anyhow? I do not understand why they never hired me, I really thought they were going to offer me the position, do I ask them why they decided not to? Am I taking this too seriously?

Move on. People don’t get offered jobs for all sorts of reasons, some of which could be about you, some of which could be about them, but all of which mean that the job wasn’t the right fit and you should move on.

You have another job now. Put your energy into excelling at that one, not into one that didn’t materialize. (Moreover, stop thinking of it as your dream job! You have absolutely no idea whether you would have been happy in that job or not; there’s no way to tell for sure from the outside.) Move on, move on, move on.

my recovery from an accident is impacting my work performance

A reader writes:

I was in an accident over a month ago. I didn’t realize how badly I was hurt until the next day. I only missed a day and a half of work because I had a weekend to recover, but I honestly wish I had taken better care of myself and missed more.

I’m still going to physical therapy and other accident-related appointments almost every day to help myself recover. But for the last month, I kind of feel like I’ve been dropping the ball at work. I’m in low to severe pain every day at work but I have a pretty good attitude about it and I don’t know if my coworkers or boss realize how much pain I’m working through. I’ve let them see me taking pain pills so they at least have some understanding, and I’ve let my boss know that I’m still going to appointments daily.

I’m getting back to normal, but I still have trouble performing a few of my responsibilities at 100%. I’m also just plain distracted and making a poor employee. Every day, it feels like something related to the accident is bothering me: insurance issues, personal issues resulting from the accident, pain, doctor’s appointments.

I’m really trying my hardest but I’m afraid because I “look” so much better to everyone that my boss and coworkers might think I’m slacking. I know I’m getting up to take small breaks too often — but I get to be in so much pain from sitting still.

I don’t know how much longer recovery is going to take — another month?

In the meantime, can I do anything to help my boss understand that I’m not a poor employee — that this isn’t permanent? I’m fairly new to my job — less than a year — and don’t want to make such a terrible impression.

Should I get a doctor’s note and give it to HR — something to let them know I’m still experiencing pain and having trouble lifting and moving things?

Talk to your boss right away! Most managers would be sympathetic to this, but they can’t accommodate you if they don’t know there’s a need.

Also, acknowledging to your boss that you know the situation is affecting your performance will mitigate any worries that she might have that something else is going on, and giving her a rough timeline for how long it’s likely to last will mitigate any worries that this is just your new performance level forever.

Say something like this: “I want to talk to you about some medical issues that I’m still having stemming from the accident. I’m still in a great deal of pain, and I’m still having trouble performing all of my responsibilities at 100%, particularly moving and lifting things. I’ve talked to my doctor about how long the recovery should take, and we think it will be about another month before I’m operating the way I was before. I’m bringing this up because I don’t want you wondering what’s going on or how long it might last; I want you in the loop on the situation. I’d also be glad to get a doctor’s note if that’s something that would be helpful.”

If there are specific accommodations you’d like (such as not having to move or lift things for the time being), say that too.

Most managers are going to be pretty understanding about this. But you have to speak up.

I hope you feel better soon!

bringing snacks for your coworkers when you’re new on the job

A reader writes:

People like to nibble at work, especially if it’s free food. What do you think of newbies bringing in nibbles in order to curry good feelings? Yes, it’s sucking up, but is it okay?

I once brought in coffee candies that the boss couldn’t keep their fingers away from when I was working in a small store. But for a more professional office environment, is it okay to curry favor in the fashion?

There’s nothing wrong with bringing in food for the office when you’re new. But I wouldn’t do it in order to “curry favor.” The way you make a good impression on your new coworkers is by being warm and pleasant, interested in the work and what they do, not being rude/annoying/arrogant, and doing a good job yourself. If you don’t do those things, no amount of brownies or candy will change that. And if you do, no brownies or candy will be necessary.

That said, if you’re having trouble meeting people in your new office, I could see bringing something in after a month or so and letting people know to stop by your office if they’d like some. But I’d do that to meet people, not to ingratiate yourself with them — and not right off the bat.

who was your weirdest coworker?

vincent_kartheiserWe’ve heard lots of stories of odd coworkers here — like the one leaving fingernail clippings in a reader’s desk, or the one who had problems keeping his eyes off women’s chests, or the one moonlighting as a prostitute on her lunch breaks. But I feel certain that we’ve just scratched the surface.

Since it’s Friday, why not tell us all about your weirdest coworker ever?  Leave no detail out, particularly any that are bizarre, salacious, or otherwise likely to entertain.

I’d also love to hear if you think you’ve ever been the weird coworker, and why.

my boss is being pushed out, a snorting coworker, and more

It’s fast answer Friday — seven short answers to seven short questions. Here we go…

1. My boss is being pushed out, and I know about documents she may not turn over

My boss has led our charity for three years since the original founder died. I have been a full-time employee for 8 months, and prior to that a temp — the only full-time employee, as she is a consultant. I really like the organization’s mission, but a difficult situation has arisen that will come to a head in two weeks. I have become increasingly aware that the board of directors is unhappy with my boss and a week ago they informed me privately that they were going to let her go. They want me to run the organization on a day-to-day basis, and bring in a fundraiser as the head. All good, and necessary in my opinion.

My question: how do I let them know of information about my boss’s possession of emails, documents, reports, etc. that are stored in her personal online storage box, and not on the organization’s server? I am concerned that she will refuse to turn them over when they let her go. If I tell them about this and other information known to me that are important to the transition, my boss will know it came from me. She is influential in my city, and I do not want to make an enemy. At the same time, not having these things will make it very difficult in the next few months — just at the time I want to demonstrate my competence to the board. Thus my quandary.

Tell the board and explain your concerns. If you ask them to, they can almost certainly tell her that they asked you about where items were stored (as opposed to you volunteering it), which may mitigate her anger. Beyond that, that’s not much you can do — someone determined to go out in a blaze of hostility will do so no matter what precautions you take. (But you also might be underestimating her professionalism; refusing to turn over documents is pretty extreme and unusual, and so is the type of retribution you’re afraid of.)

2. Suggesting a non-native speaker work on his English skills

I supervise someone who is very smart. He is a great technical resource and prior to being an employee was also an outside consultant. My boss, rightfully, realized he should be hired, and he started a few months ago.

The problem is that English is his second language and he has a lot of trouble with writing written communication (emails). Often, instead of responding to an email, he’ll swing by my desk to answer a question because verbal is simply easier communication. My boss suggests I encourage him to look into some formal classes on communication — spoken (pronunciation) and written. How do I have that conversation (tactfully!)? I know it’s fairly easy and I think it would be received just fine, but is it as simple as “We really enjoy working with you and think you do a great job on x, but it would really help your development at [company] if you strengthened these skills?”* Would it be beneficial to look up some classes and provide them as resources during the discussion? I wish they would, but I’m 99% sure that our business wouldn’t pay for it.

*OK, it probably is, maybe I am just looking for some affirmation?

Yes, it really is that simple. Consider it like any other type of feedback you might need to give an employee, and be direct and kind about it. Your wording is good. And you might check with your boss ahead of time to see if the company would cover it, as he’s the one making the suggestion, after all.

3. No written offer, with start date fast approaching

I was lucky enough to be offered a job that I’m very excited for on Friday before the long weekend. During the verbal offer, it was reiterated multiple times that I would receive a written offer on Tuesday because they really wanted to get me moving quickly. (They really pursued and wooed me throughout the process.) They even tried to set me up with a start date of this upcoming Monday, but I told them I would like the written offer before we set a specific date. I emailed HR asking about a timeline after their self imposed deadline passed, but never received a response. How long do I wait before I try to contact them again? I feel like a week is much too short of a time for this to move, but the “start date” is just a few business days away and it’s making me nervous.

You didn’t agree to an actual start date, right? And they know that? Assuming so, email the hiring manager — not HR — and say that you’re excited to get started but that you wanted to check in since HR told you that they’d have the written offer to you by Tuesday, it’s now Friday and you haven’t heard anything despite trying to contact them, and you want to see if there’s an updated timeline. Keep the tone warm; you don’t want to sound like you’re complaining, just that you’re hoping to move forward.

4. My coworker makes awful noises all day long, but it’s not her fault

I have a colleague who sits near me and makes bar-none the loudest and most disgusting sounds I’ve ever had the misfortune of hearing. Hacking, coughing, nose-blowing, slurping, belching, and snorting. These noises happen every 10-15 minutes, like clockwork, and they’re too loud to muffle with my headphones (unless I’m willing to blow out my eardrums). It’s not just me who notices it either–people who have the misfortune of passing our desks while these noises are happening visible cringe and shudder. At this point, it’s getting unbearable, to the point that this problem seriously weighs on my decision to stay or go. I know your usual advice is: “Talk to them. Maybe it just takes making them aware to fix the problem.” But…there’s a but.

It’s relatively well known that this colleague has Tourette’s and/or some form of OCD, and they do mutter expletives and the like in addition to the phlegm sounds. The muttering doesn’t bother me because it’s controlled in volume (it just blends into office background noise). It’s the very loud “biological” sounds I can’t take anymore, but I have no idea if these may be related to their condition. As a person with a disability myself, I certainly don’t want to make anybody feel targeted, and the last thing I would want to do is get the company embroiled in a protected-class-tangle for complaining about behavior that may be related to a disability, but I don’t know if I can take this anymore! What do I do? Is this just a suck-it-up-and-deal situation, or should I risk talking about it with this individual, my manager, or HR?

Talk with your manager, and if that produces nothing, talk with HR. This sounds incredibly distracting, and they might be able to move your coworker into a more private space where the noises — if uncontrollable — won’t be as disruptive. You can say up front that you want to be sensitive to the fact that she has a disability, but that it’s interfering with your ability to focus, take calls, talk to others, and so forth.

5. My employer refuses to confirm my employment so that I can’t get another job

I have worked as a cosmetologist at the same salon for 7 years. I have a chance to work part-time as a teacher in a private cosmetology school. she problem is that for me to get the job, my current employer has to sign a paper saying I have worked in his salon for 2 years. He doesn’t want me to work for anyone but him, so he refuses to sign the paper for me so now I can’t get the job.

Wow, he sounds horrible. Explain the situation to the school, and offer to prove your tenure there through other means, such as supplying past years’ W2s, which should confirm your employment. If they’re at all reasonable, they’ll be sympathetic and willing to work with you on some kind of alternate means like this.

6. My company stopped contributing matching funds to our retirement accounts, but hasn’t said anything about it

I’ve recently learned that my employer has decided not to deposit the company’s matching funds into our retirement accounts. They are also not telling us that they’re doing this or why, instead leaving it to spread via the company grapevine. Everyone is justifiably upset and wondering the same thing (sing it with me if you know the words): Is this legal? I am guessing the answer is, per usual, but thought I’d ask anyway. This feels like fraud or something…they’re reneging on an agreement. Is there no recourse for employees?

Your employer can change your retirement plan benefit at any time — including stopping their matching funds, which quite a few do when times are tighter — as long as you don’t have an employment agreement that guarantees the payments (which most people don’t). It’s odd that they haven’t informed you though — odd, but not illegal. (What they cannot do, however, is withhold your own contribution from your paycheck but not deposit it in a timely manner.)

7. Was my LinkedIn request to a recruiter inappropriate?

A couple years ago, I interviewed for a job out-of-state. I thought the interview went well, but a week later I received a rejection email from the recruiter I interviewed with. Bummer. I stayed in touch with the recruiter, and she would respond to my emails encouraging me to check the company’s website for new openings. She also viewed my profile on Linkedin periodically.

Recently I sent her an application for another job at her company, and she responded by asking me to come in to interview and I accepted. She greeted me like an old friend when I got there, and then I met with the supervisor and manager. A week later I got another rejection email from her. Double bummer. I replied by saying I appreciated the opportunity and I was still interested in a position with that company where I’d be a better fit. I then sent her an invitation to connect on LinkedIn.

Some time has passed and she hasn’t accepted it, and I wonder if asking her to connect on LinkedIn was inappropriate. What are your thoughts?

Not inappropriate at all; it’s a very common thing to do in that a context like that. But some people only connect with people who they know at least a certain amount — and she may feel that she doesn’t know you sufficiently. That doesn’t make the request inappropriate, just one she’s not taking you up on. (That said, recruiters tend to connect more broadly, so who knows.)

Or she may simply have overlooked the request, which happens plenty too.

should I let a fellow alum and rejected job applicant know what she’s doing wrong?

A reader writes:

I’ve been managing my office’s recruiting and hiring process. During our last round of hiring, a young woman who had about a year of experience and a bachelor’s degree was under consideration for an account executive position. At most firms in my industry, this is slightly above entry-level. I did a phone interview and liked her, so I offered to put her on the schedule for an in-person interview with our team the next week. After asking for a few times that might work, I received the following emailed response:

“Before I head out there I wanted a little clarification on the position. How long is the training role become becoming [sic] full time? As you can see from my experience I am no longer entry level so I want to make sure all is productive before making any trips.”

I think it should be obvious that I politely withdrew my offer for an interview, if for no other reason than the typo in such a short email. For context, the “training period” she’s referencing is the three-month probationary period my company has, which I think is standard practice for many companies, and I happened to mention in our phone conversation that we would provide training during that period if needed. Also, I think she lived about an hour away. We have people who drive further than that every day to the office.

Because she’s an alum of my school, I really wanted to follow up with her and explain that even though her experience is great, she is still entry-level. Moreover, I wanted to point out that no one in our office is “entry-level” if resumes are the litmus test, but we all do entry-level work every day, and we certainly don’t accept the attitude that because a person has done x and y for clients in a past position, they don’t have to do z for our clients.

Is it okay to follow up with this sort of advice? I’m certain it could result in an unpleasant response, but I’m not bothered by that if it helps her down the road.

Do it. Since you’re willing to tolerate the possibility of an unpleasant response, you’d be doing her a favor by letting her know how her email came across.

The key, though, will be to give feedback in a constructive way. Make sure that your email reads as polite and friendly, not just “let me tell you all the things you did wrong” (even though she’s certainly given you plenty of fodder for that). For an example of what not to do, see yesterday’s post about rudely worded feedback to a candidate.

You could also include that it’s absolutely fine to ask questions like how long the training period is — the point isn’t that she can’t ask; it’s that wording and tone really matter, and she got them all wrong. That’s an important distinction, because you don’t want her to misinterpret and think you’re objecting to her asking at all.

She may disregard you, or lash out (see the lashing out hall of fame here, here, and here), but as long as you don’t care, it would be a favor to her to tip her off. (And she may listen to you and get something out it.)

how soon can you tell if a job isn’t right for you?

A reader writes:

I started a new job yesterday and something is off.

I had two interviews with the company before accepting and was really excited about working with everyone I’d met. But about halfway through my first day, I felt like I was going to cry at any moment (I was able to hold off until I got home. Everyone has been friendly and helpful, and the work is what I expected, but I just don’t enjoy it as much as I thought.

I’m an interior designer and I have a few years of experience in hotel design, and this job is hospital design. Initially I was excited to try something new, but now I feel overwhelmed, out of my element, and squeamish at the thought of staring at hospital rooms day in and out.

I feel like two days is not enough time to decide to stay or go just yet, but how much time should I give this? If I knew 100% that it wasn’t for me (and I’m at about 60% right now), I’d want to leave ASAP so there’s not a gap on my resume and also so it’s not (too much) of an annoyance to the company. Since I’m not sure, I’m thinking I should give it a month or so before doing anything rash.

How long is long enough to make an informed decision? How do you decide to leave a job if there’s nothing concrete, just a gut feeling?

Do yourself a favor and don’t let yourself think seriously about that possibility right now. What you’re experiencing is so similar to normal new job jitters and doubts that it’s too early to know if it’s something more. But if you start down that road in your head and think seriously about leaving when everything is so new, it’s very easy for it to become a self-fulfilling prophecy because mentally you won’t be giving it a real chance.

It’s not uncommon to not enjoy a new job at first, particularly when the work is out of your element. And that’s especially true if you’re used to being in your element; when you’re used to feeling competent and like you know what you’re doing and you’re suddenly somewhere where that’s not quite true, it’s can be disconcerting and unpleasant at first.

The thing to keep in mind is that new jobs are often overwhelming. They generally become less so — but it often takes a few months until you stop feeling like you’re a bundle of confusion and in the wrong place and just plain uncomfortable. (And even a few months isn’t generally enough time to feel truly comfortable — that’s just enough time to feel like you’re starting to get the hang of things.)

That said, there are times when it does make sense to make an “I’m out of here” decision faster, times when it’s more clear-cut and there’s not as much uncertainty to your assessment (in which case, I agree with you that it’s in everyone’s interest to cut it short). The sorts of things that should lead to a faster decision:
* if there’s been a bait and switch — if you’d signed up for one job but it turned out to be something completely different (and if you’d talked to your manager and confirmed it was going to stay that way — because sometimes jobs are different in the beginning while you’re being trained)
* if your manager makes it clear that she’s going to be a nightmare — hostile, incompetent, tyrannical, crazy, etc.
* if the culture turns out to be a terrible mismatch — for instance, if you discovered the workplace includes prayer in its meetings and you know you won’t ever be comfortable in that environment

In your case, though, what you’re feeling has a decent chance of going away when you’re more acclimated. So because of that, I’d give it at least a month before you even start thinking about leaving, or even two months. (And I really mean don’t even start thinking about it before then. If you have it in the back of your mind as a possibility, you risk it biasing the way you approach your next few weeks.)

I want to be clear: None of this is to discount the possibility that this really is the wrong job for you. It might be. But based on what you’ve described from the first two days, it doesn’t sound time to start down that path yet.

Read an update to this letter here.

open thread

LucyIt’s our May open thread!

The comment section on this post is open for discussion with other readers on anything you want to talk about.

If you want an answer from me, emailing me is still your best bet, but this is a chance to talk to other readers.

mug shots, buying knives for work, and more

It’s terse answer Thursday — six short answers to six short questions. Here we go…

1. My arrest mug shot is the first thing people see when they Google me

I was arrested a few years back for a mix-up (I went to the wrong courthouse to pay my ticket and was arrested for being a no-show at the right courthouse). The judge dismissed the charges, but my mug shot is the first thing that comes up when you Google my name. I used to go by my married name to avoid being googled, but now I am divorced and my license and social security card are back in my maiden name, which is the name I was arrested under. Must I go by the maiden name when sending out resumes, and how/when do I address what happened?

On your resume, use the name that you use professionally, since, well, that’s your name. And that’s also the name that they’ll ask your references about. But your best bet might be to use the “reputation management” techniques that are recommended for anyone trying to bury a negative search result: Fill up the search results with other things that you WANT them to see. Start a blog that uses your full name, comment on popular sites using your full name (make smart and sensible comments, obviously), have a searchable LinkedIn profile, and so forth. If you do enough of it, this stuff can push the mug shot far back in the search results — and a lot of people stop searching after the first or second page of results.

2. Can I know if an employer already has an internal candidate picked out?

I recently found a job that I think I would be perfect for! However, I’m starting to get the sneaking suspicion that it’s just being posted because the organization (a city government) has to post publicly and/or interview X amount of people for due diligence, but that they might already have someone internal in mind. I know this happens a lot because I’ve seen it happen many times at my current company.

The application has several supplementary questions, some of which are quite specific, such as “How familiar are you with the City organization and it’s approach to managing Department?”

Is there any way I can know if I’m putting in all this work on the many supplementary questions for naught? Or do I just buck up and make my application as competitive as possible so even if they were “saving” the job, I might still have a shot?

You can’t know. You have to decide if you’re willing to take the risk that they might just be going through the motions and planning to hire an internal candidate. Are you willing to invest the time in applying, knowing that might be the case? Keep in mind that this can be the case for any job you apply for; you’re just getting more signals about it than usual here. For that matter, you could go through the work of applying for any position only to have your application trashed immediately because they just froze their hiring or hired someone else. It’s always something of a crapshoot.

For the record, outside candidates can get the job even when there’s a favored internal candidate, if they’re significantly better. Not always, but sometimes (and that’s another thing that you can’t really tell from the outside).

3. I was laid off, but now my job has been advertised again

When a boss chooses to “restructure” your position and eliminate your job (assuring you it was not performance related), can they turn around and repost the same job six months later with a different title?

Sure. The only way this would be illegal is if they did it in order to get rid of you because of your race, religion, sex, national origin, or other protected category. If they just did it because they didn’t want to work with you anymore and found this easier than firing you, that’s perfectly legal. It’s also possible, of course, that the decision to cut the position was a genuine one, but they changed their mind later on or circumstances changed.

You could potentially get a better idea of which of these it is by emailing your old manager, saying you saw the role posted, and ask if it would make sense to throw your hat in the ring (if you’re actually interested in returning; you may not be).

4. Online application system didn’t let me upload a cover letter

I saw a position listed on a hospital website. I am very interested in this job, and, I think, very qualified for it. I spent a long time crafting a good cover letter, tweaking my resume to highlight the most relevant points, and then applied for the job right from the listing.

The website noted that the application process would take about 15 minutes and had to be completed in one session. Fine. I was ready! I filled in the form with my name and contact information and uploaded my resume. After that, there were a couple of short, optional affirmative action type questions, and one that spelled out their flu shot policy and asked for acknowledgement that I read and understood it. Fine! This all took maybe 3-4 minutes, tops.

And then it was over. Nothing else to fill in; no opportunity to upload a cover letter. A “thank you” screen popped up saying something like “Thank you for submitting your resume; we will contact you if it looks like you are qualified for any of our open positions.” So I’m a little puzzled. I had to create an account to apply, and when I check my account, it says I did apply for that particular position and that my status is “active”. I’m sorry I couldn’t submit the cover letter; in some ways I am a non-traditional candidate and I thought the cover letter did a great job of explaining why I am actually very well qualified for this.

My question for you (finally!) is: Is there anything else I can do? I know, probably not. But something just feels strange about this. I’m positive I didn’t miss a chance to submit the cover letter. This is a large hospital system in a fairly big city, and the application process seemed very outdated and lacking in .. something. Honestly, it felt like I applied for an entry level unskilled job. Should I just sit tight and trust that if this is meant to be, it will happen? I just wish I could get my cover letter into the right hands somehow.

Yeah, some online systems don’t ask for or even accept cover letters. They suck.

If you can figure out who the hiring manager is, you could email your cover letter and resume directly to them, with a note saying that you applied online but wanted to send a cover letter as well. You could do the same thing with HR. It might not help, but it it might — and it definitely shouldn’t hurt.

5. Should I apply for a job I’m not qualified for if I think I have a lot to offer them?

I am in the midst of a career change, from film/video to marketing, and have been working in marketing for the past couple of years, after over a decade in film/video. A position has just opened up for a senior marketing manager at a local film/video office (and there are not many of those companies around here).

I know that I am not senior marketing manager material, but feel that my background would give me a unique insight and knowledge base for marketing purposes. Should I apply anyway or would I come across as naive if I am applying for something that I am not qualified for? I would not like to burn any bridges with this company as it sounds as if it could be a great fit for me.

If you’re wildly unqualified, I wouldn’t apply for that particular job — but why not reach out to that company in some other way and explain what you think you have to offer? This will go best if you can target a particular person there (someone with decision-making authority) rather than a general HR address.

6. My husband’s restaurant is telling him to buy an expensive knife for work use

My husband works at a very popular and high priced restaurant as a dish washer. He only makes $8/hour. He was “promoted” lately to kitchen prep but without a raise. He was told a raise might come soon.

The restaurant asked him to purchase an expensive knife for his kitchen prep duties. We reviewed our budget and all we could reasonably afford was a $20 knife that gets the job done. My husband tells me that management continues to pressure him to get a knife that costs at least $75 and that they will be willing to do paycheck deductions to help him out.

I told my husband I feel it’s unreasonable for them to ask him to purchase an expensive knife at $8/hr and that he should politely decline and ask that they provide a knife for his use or give him a raise to $10/hour. What do you think of this advice? Do you have any advice on how my husband can handle this in the best way?

Are you sure this isn’t standard for the industry? I don’t know for sure, but the chefs I know all have their own knives that they take from job to job with them (and often even take home at night in a case). At least at that level, it seems to be standard to have your own — any chance that’s the case for kitchen prep too? If so, it might be the price of admission to this particular job. Anyone with restaurant experience want to weigh in?

can you use sick leave to care for pets?

A reader writes:

I adopted a dog a few years ago, and this is the first time I’ve had a pet since I’ve been a working professional. Recently my dog had major surgery, which is going to require extra care at home. One of my coworkers who has dogs and has worked for our company for over 30 years told me to use sick time if I needed to take time off to care for my dog, because that’s what she usually does.

I emailed my supervisor and asked if I could adjust my schedule to take a few hours off for the next few days and list it as one day of sick leave (we are exempt), which she approved. I was then talking to a different coworker, who seemed astonished that I was using sick leave and told me that sick leave was only for human family members and could not be used to care for pets. I checked our company’s written policy and it does say that sick leave can be used “to attend to or care for ill family members or other persons residing in your household who are ill.” I then emailed my supervisor again, referencing the policy and asking if my request was still ok. She responded that the schedule was fine but she should have clarified that I would have to use vacation time.

I plan to just use the vacation time and really have no interest in following up with either my boss or coworker again, but I’m wondering what is normal? Do employers normally let employees use sick time to care for pets?

Some employers do. Most don’t. All should.

If sick leave usage is causing a problem, an employer should address that. But I’d like them to stay out of who you consider a member of your family.