when my coworkers “work from home,” they’re not really working

A reader writes:

Many of my colleagues have an agreement with our boss that they can work from home on Fridays. All of them happen to be moms of young children. I am married but do not have children.

I am all for a flexible work environment, but I feel that they take advantage of the situation. They constantly post on Facebook that they are at karate tournaments, music class, etc. or tell team members they can’t participate in client calls because they have to pick up their kids at school. I realize I am not a parent so I don’t understand the balance or struggles of being a working mother, but I am expected to be in the office five days a week, while they essentially work four.

I don’t want to be the group tattle tale but it’s really starting to affect the morale of those who are childless when we see empty offices on Fridays. Thoughts on how to approach this, or do I just suck it up and deal with it?

Well, first, you want to make sure that you’re right that they’re not working much on their Fridays at home. It’s possible that they’re simply working flexible hours that day. For instance, if someone worked from 7-11, went to their kid’s karate tournament from 11-2, worked more from 2-4:30, and then put in another hour and half over the weekend, that would total eight hours of work.

And to some people, that’s the point of a flexible schedule and working from home: It allows you to fit life in, and schedule work around it.

Of course, it’s entirely possible that that’s not how your coworkers are using the flexibility. Maybe they’re working 9-5 from home but taking tons of time off in the middle of the day that they never make up. But do you know that, or are you just assuming it?

And if you do know that they’re abusing it, then what you have is a management problem, because no good manager is going to neglect to notice that hmmm, the people who work from home on Fridays seem to produce less work than everyone else. That doesn’t make it any less frustrating — in fact, it makes it more frustrating — but it’s worth being clear that that’s what’s going on.

Of course, the one thing that you do know for sure is that these coworkers are at least sometimes missing client calls on those days, and that’s potentially a legitimate issue. But even there, the question is how much that matters. Are they missing these calls more than someone else might miss them for occasional dentist appointments or other conflicts? And what’s the impact on their work?

If there is an impact and you’re concerned about it, then you should handle that just like you would any other concern with a coworker’s work that impacts you: First talk to the coworker, and then to your manager if the problem remains. In this case, that might mean saying to the coworker, “I’ve noticed you often can’t make client calls when we schedule them on Fridays, and I know that Client X really likes having you there. Is there a different time we can schedule them so you’re able to call in?” Or, depending on the situation, “I know there’s not much notice, but they’re usually in the afternoons. Is there a way for you to keep that time free?”

And if you remain concerned, then you’d talk to your manager, just as you would about anything else that was affecting your work. For instance: “I love that we have schedule flexibility, but I’m having trouble getting what I need on Fridays from people who are working at home and often can’t get people on client calls when I need them. I wonder if we could give people clearer guidelines on how accessible they should be when they’re working out of the office.”

But overall, you want to (a) keep the focus on the impact on your work, and (b) assume that if these are otherwise good coworkers with a strong work ethic, you have no reason to think they aren’t putting in a full day’s work even if it’s spread out in an untraditional way — unless you really know for sure that that isn’t true.

And last, I’m assuming that this benefit isn’t just offered to parents in your workplace, so there’s no reason you couldn’t responsibly take advantage of the flexibility too, if you want to.

what’s the best career advice you ever got?

We talk about bad advice a lot here — bad advice people get from their parents, from campus career centers, from friends and significant others, and even from the career advice industry.

I’d like to hear about good advice for a change. What’s the best career advice you ever got? Who gave it to you, and — importantly — why was it so good?

wee answer Wednesday — 7 short answers to 7 short questions

It’s wee answer Wednesday — seven short answers to seven short questions. Here we go…

1. Mentioning that I’d take a more junior position

I am in an interview process. Tomorrow morning, I have a second interview for a middle management position. I do not know how things will evolve. Meanwhile, the company advertised a position that involves less responsibilities — assistant manager. If I receive a NO for the manager position or feel that things are not going in the right direction, I am tempted to mention that I would be open for the less senior position. Any idea how I should approach them on this, and still look professional?

Don’t do this in the midst of an interview for the higher level position. If you don’t get that job, at that point you can mention that you’re interested in the more junior position — but if you mention while you’re being interviewed for the more senior role, you risk making yourself look like you’re not confident in your own skills. They’re giving you a second interview — they think you’re a viable candidate for this job, and so you should too.

2. Do different companies compare notes on their candidates?

During my latest job search, I came across a situation that made me uncomfortable. I had interviews with three different companies: Company A, then B, and lastly C. Company B gave me an offer the day before my interview with Company C. Talking to HR in Company A and C afterwards, they both knew I had an offer from Company B.

I would like to look for a job in a different state and use a recruiting agency to help, but I am concerned with my current company finding out in the same way the other companies did last time. Is this kind of “comparing notes” between HRs of different companies normal?

It’s not especially common, but it can happen in particularly close-knit industries where all the players know each other. Generally, though, I’d assume it’s not happening.

3. Being paid as a contractor when I’m treated as an employee

I recently came across the following information in one of your blog posts: “Your employer can’t pay you as a contractor while treating you like an employee. If your employer controls when, where, and how you work, the government says you’re an employee—and your company needs to pay your payroll taxes and offer you the same benefits it offers to regular employees.”

Is this a federal law? Or does it vary by state? Where can I find this information outlined so I can show it to my employer? My employer takes advantage of me and my pay requirements, and although I work as an employee he gave me a 1099 for my salary this year. I think he should pay whatever I owe.

It’s a federal law, although it’s commonly broken, and you can read about it here.

For whatever it’s worth, you don’t need to wait to be issued a tax form to find out how your employer is paying you; if taxes aren’t being taken out of your checks each pay period, you’re being paid as an independent contractor (legally or illegally).

4. I’ve been promoted but don’t know what to do

I’m 23 and have been working since I left school at 16. I’ve never had a sick day off work, I’m always 30 minutes early and the last one to leave. Finally after many years of hard work, a new project has come up at work and my manager and his business manager think I’m the perfect guy to help run the show. My promotion is leading me to run a team of six people, letting agreements, and marketing. Only problem is I know little about these subjects, but they really do think I’m the perfect person for the job. This has lead me to quite a few sleepless nights! It got worse today when the business manager asked me to help her write the job descriptions for the new positions, and it seemed like she was getting annoyed that I wasn’t putting much input in. I’ve been working so hard since I left school to reach a promotion like this and it’s my ticket to a successful career. But I really don’t know what to do, and don’t want to show them my weakness.

They promoted you for a reason, and since you’ve worked with them before, they have a pretty good idea of your skills. But it’s fine to admit when you don’t know something — in fact, the most confident people are usually the ones most willing to admit that, because it doesn’t threaten them. Why not go to your manager and ask for guidance in what you can do to get up to speed? If there are specific things you’re wondering about, ask about those too. Ask for help, and ask for feedback. That’s how you’ll learn the new role — don’t feel you need to walk in already having it mastered.

5. Should I ask for a raise now that I have new responsibilities?

I’ve been at my current positon for a year and recieved the standard 3% pay increase this week. Since I’ve been at this company, I’ve taken on new responsibilities. It’s been a great learning curve and I feel that I’ve grown a lot in this role. I’m also working at stepping up my skills in areas where my manager and I mutually agree I can improve. Recently, I was asked to be the main coordinator in an area where I’ve only had a supporting role before — that is, I’m responsible for tasks that I was only assisting with before. Right now I feel a bit shaky in this area as I’m learning the ropes, but I know I’m capable of doing an excellent job once I get the hang of it. I’m writing to ask, would you advise on asking for a higher raise at this point, or do you believe I would be in a better position to do so once I’ve demonstrated more value to the company through handling my new tasks?

You just got a raise. You need to demonstrate that you can excel at your new responsibilities — and that you’ve addressed the areas where you and your manager agreed you’d improve — before you ask for another one.

6. Can I reopen salary negotiations after starting work?

I’ve been doing some consulting work for a company a few hours a week from home. A couple months ago, they let me know about an opening for a different, but related position in their office. As we went through the hiring process there was talk about rolling my consulting duties into this new job, but nothing concrete was decided on. The new job doesn’t require an extra credential that I have, and that is reflected in the salary. I was still interested because of the potential to get full time employment and benefits with this company.

I figured that if I was offered the job, we would go over the details of how to handle my consulting work and I would negotiate a rate increase if they wanted to roll those duties into the new job. However, when I got the packet to look over, it was an acceptance packet with a start date and nothing to sign or negotiate. I missed my offer negotiation and went straight from interview to acceptance!

I started the job two weeks ago and while I haven’t been doing the duties from when I was consulting, last week my manager mentioned that I would be able to start doing those tasks again and that it’s no big deal because they could fall into “other duties as assigned.” I want to do the work that I had been doing as a consultant, but I want to be paid for that specialized skill. I don’t think it’s fair to say it’s part of “other duties” because if they had hired someone who didn’t have my background that person wouldn’t be able to do it. Do I have any leverage to say that I won’t do it until we’ve agreed on a rate for adding those duties? Please help me fix this, I’ve neglected my growth opportunities for so long and just started reading your blog and want to get my career on track!

First, you guys need to stop accepting job offers without negotiating just because the employer doesn’t proactively offer you a chance to negotiate. You can still bring up salary yourself.

However, at this point, you’ve missed your window of opportunity; you’ve already accepted the job at the rate they offered. I also wouldn’t try to ask for more now based on the fact that the new job includes your consulting work. First, they’d already mentioned previously that they might roll that into the position so they’re not springing this on you out of nowhere … and second, the fact that you could do this stuff is probably part of the reason they hired you and not someone else. You don’t really have standing to go back and negotiate now. The time to do that was when the offer was made, and you can’t do it weeks later.

7. Employer said a letter is in the mail

I had an interview for a secretary position 12 days ago. I called yesterday to see if the position had been filled and was asked if I received a letter in the mail. When I said no, the interviewer said she couldn’t tell me anything until I get the letter in the mail. I’m assuming this means I didn’t get the job, but wanted to know what your thoughts were on this. Is there any chance it could be a good thing? The position was with the State of TN Dept of Human Services office. They interviewed several people and said we would be notified when the position was filled. I assumed it would be by email because that’s my preferred method of contact.

It probably means that you didn’t get the job, but with government hiring, who knows. It’s entirely possible that they deliver job offers by putting them in bottles and throwing them into the ocean.

how to resign when you’re about to go to a 3-day conference

A reader writes:

I just had a terrific second interview interview and was verbally offered a job yesterday, and I am over the moon about it. It’s a huge jump in title and salary. The CEO said, pending my reference checks, I will have the offer in writing on Friday. They are small and scrappy, and they need me to start as soon as I can, so I said I would give notice two weeks after I have the offer in writing.

However, the organization I work with now (another lovely nonprofit, but very large and resource-rich) is sending me to a three day conference on Sunday — flight, hotel, the whole nine yards. My boss will be at the conference too — and she’s not a very positive person to be around as it is. She has a mean vindictive streak, which is part of why I am so excited about moving on.

How should I handle this? I don’t want to ruin both of our conference experiences by giving notice on Friday and then enduring awkwardness, and I don’t want to look like a jerk who purposefully planned a free conference out of this and then gave notice on my first day back. (It was a total coincidence — this organization even recruited me, I wasn’t job hunting!) Should I back out of the conference altogether? The fees/hotel/airfare are all paid and non-refundable, nor are they transferable, so it’s not like I could send someone else in my stead.

I have great relationships with the whole team at my current organization, except my boss. I want to do the right thing here. What do you recommend?

Talk to her your manager and give your notice on Friday, after you have the written offer (and have accepted it). Tell her that you will do whatever she prefers regarding the conference — go or not go, whatever she thinks makes the most sense.

From there, it’s up to her. You’ll have been open and transparent and willing to do what the organization prefers. And some job offers just aren’t perfectly timed; reasonable people understand that.

That said, if you’d really rather not attend the conference now and you don’t think there’s any benefit to the organization for you attending since you’re leaving, it’s fine to push the scales a little in that direction, by saying something like, “I realize that it won’t be very useful to the organization to send me to the conference now, so I could stay home but see if I can negotiate refunds for us from the hotel and the conference.” (You have better chances of succeeding at refunds with those two, even if they’re allegedly non-refundable, than with the airline tickets.) And even if you can’t get any refunds, not going will still save the organization some money — your meals, cabs, etc. So it’s worth offering.

But don’t wait until you’re back. Be transparent, give the organization as much notice as you can, and let them decide how they want to handle this.

manager is forcing coworker to wear a wedding ring even though she’s not married

A reader writes:

I have a question regarding a coworker of mine. I realize it is technically none of my business, I am in a different department and it doesn’t affect me directly, but it really bothers me and wanted to get your opinion of how slimy this is. My coworker is fairly young, 23, very pretty, and has an outgoing personality. She is in the sales/member services department of our company and has only been here about 3 months. It is part of her job to attend conferences with the manager of that department (she is older) and they are supposed to talk to other companies about joining our company. At the last conference, several men had hit on her, and I guess her manager was annoyed by it and felt this was distracting from her “doing her job.”

This manager “requested” (more like insisted) she buy a fake wedding ring and wear it during this conference, and future conferences. She basically told her, “Either wear that or I am going to have to reconsider bringing you to these conferences.” I am not going to ask the “is that even legal” question — but on a scale of 1-10, how inappropriate is this? I would imagine if it was my coworker’s idea, I might feel differently about it, but she didn’t feel she was doing anything wrong at the conference. And as far as I am concerned, it is not likely that a wedding ring (fake OR real) is going to ward off men who are attracted to her and hitting on her in the first place.

I feel for her because of the fact that she is so young, and new, and feels she can’t say no, but is uncomfortable with the situation. I just feel it is wrong and violates her to some degree. This young coworker does have a boyfriend, and says she talks to everyone at the conferences (not just the men) and has no interest in seeing them, dating them, etc…she is just doing her job by talking to them and explaining our company to these people. She asked me for advice, and I am not sure what to tell her. I don’t want her to go against what her boss is telling her, but still don’t think it is right.

What the ….?!

This is totally inappropriate and not okay. If the manager has a problem with how your coworker is conducting herself, she should address that — but it sounds like that’s not the issue at all; she just doesn’t like the fact that men flirt with her.

It would be one thing to give her advice about how to quickly shut that down — and even to tell her that she needs to do so, although it’s pretty hard to insist on that when it’s in the context of talking to someone about your company’s products. Hell, it wouldn’t even be all that egregious for her to say, “You know, if you want to ward some of this off, one way is to wear a ring.” (I happen to think that’s a ridiculous solution, and I agree with you that it won’t stop the flirting, but simply mentioning it isn’t egregious.)

But telling her that she’ll reconsider taking her to conferences if she doesn’t do it is so far, far over the line of what’s okay that I cannot imagine how her manager thinks this is acceptable to do.

Moreover, there probably are legal issues in play here. The manager is telling your coworker that she will change her assignments at work (the conferences) and stop giving her this particular professional opportunity if your coworker doesn’t take steps to make herself less appealing to men, which gets into some pretty sticky discrimination issues. I’m not saying it’s a slam-dunk case, because it’s not, but it’s certainly something no responsible company would want to spend the legal fees to find out for sure.

In any case … ideally, your coworker would say to her manager, “I am not comfortable wearing a wedding ring when I’m not married. I am conducting myself professionally and not doing anything to invite inappropriate behavior. If there’s something specific you’d like me to do differently in the way I handle myself at these conferences, I’m very open to the feedback, but I’m not comfortable wearing a fake ring, and I certainly hope that won’t impact the opportunities you give me here.”

If you have an HR department, she should also get them in the loop on this, because they will probably shut her boss down pretty quickly — and she can also ask them to ensure there’s no retaliation against her for this.

However, there’s open retaliation and there’s more subtle retaliation, and the latter is a lot harder to police. The fact is, your coworker is working for a manager who has issues with the way men respond to her, so she’s going to need to be prepared to assert herself against future weirdness as well.

I stepped down from a promotion and now my boss hates me

A reader writes:

I’ve been at my current job for two years and really enjoyed working here until the last six months. In a nutshell, I was given an account management position when the old acct manager quit, and was left doing a two-person job by myself until I finally announced I was not prepared for this and wanted to step down. It was decided I would still be doing most of the account manager duties, but that my supervisor would be the “face” of the company when dealing with clients. It’s still a lot more work than I was used to, but I find it manageable and even enjoyable most of the time. 

At the time I stepped down, my boss was very sympathetic and supportive. Now, however, she seems to be going out of her way to make me feel like an idiot. Whenever I ask a question in a meeting or make some sort of comment, her reply is always impatient and often sarcastic. This is something I have much difficulty dealing with; I can take it once in a while, but not multiple times every single day, and I’m at the point where I just can’t keep my mouth shut. Whenever she makes some rude or sarcastic remark, I find myself firing right back at her, even in front of others (including my direct supervisor). I’m just not sure what I did to inspire her attitude toward me, or what I can do to make it better. I’m not sure what she expects of me. Any insight would be much appreciated.

You can read my answer to this question over at the Fast Track blog by Intuit QuickBase today. Three other career experts weigh in on the answer as well.

want me to review your resume?

I get a lot of requests to give people feedback on their resumes, but because it’s time-consuming to do it well, I usually turn them down unless they’re friends or family. But for a short time, I’m re-opening the resume review offer that I’ve run a couple of times before

When I’ve offered this in the past, the response has been so overwhelming that I’ve had to close the offer after just a few days, so reserve this now if you’re interested!

The cost: $99

What you’ll get: As you can probably tell by the price, I’m not going to entirely rewrite your resume for you. People who do that charge a lot more. What you’ll get for 99 bucks: I’ll read your resume, I’ll give you suggestions for improving it, I’ll tell you where I think it’s weak and where I think it’s strong. I’ll tell you if your design sucks. I’ll tell you if you’re coming across as generic and/or unimpressive and how to fix it if you are. I’ll tell you what you need to change to have a resume that will make a hiring manager excited to interview you.

(And because I obsessively edit things, I might not be able to stop myself from editing it too. Fair warning.)

To be clear, this isn’t multiple rounds of revisions, or a rewrite service, or anything like that. It’s really just a bunch of notes on what I’d like to see you doing differently — what a hiring manager might think when looking at your resume.

Limited time: I don’t want to be a full-time resume reviewer, so this offer is only good for this week, not something I’ll be offering regularly. So if you want it, lock it in now.
closed(And because I know not everyone can afford that, I’m also offering a discount on my my ebook, How to Get a Job: Secrets of a Hiring Manager, where you’ll find lots of resume advice — just not customized to your particular resume. You can get a 20% discount this week by using this code: april2013 )

Update:  This offer is now closed. But it might come around again later this year! 

terse answer Tuesday — 7 short answers to 7 short questions

It’s terse answer Tuesday — seven short answers to seven short questions. Here we go…

1. Should freelancers bill as time is incurred or at the end of a project?

I have a question about freelance etiquette. Is it customary to bill for my time as it’s incurred — i.e., the hours I worked in the previous two weeks — or to bill when the final product is “delivered?” I have an new, ongoing freelance assignment to work 15 hours a week or so for a company, but my work is editorial, so there’s often some back-and-forth before projects are completed. So if I worked 12 hours on something one week that won’t be finalized for two more weeks, when’s the best time to send my invoice for that work? Maybe I’m overthinking this.

Different freelancers do it differently, but lots of people — including me — will tell you to bill as your time is incurred. Billing monthly is perfectly reasonable, and can minimize the trouble you might sometimes have collecting on a bill once a project is over. Good clients will always pay you without hassle, but not every client is a good one, and they have much more incentive to pay you when they still need you to do more work for them. Plus, if you’re going to have problems collecting, it’s better to find that out sooner rather than after you’ve put in hundreds of hours.

Generally, it’s a good idea to lay out your payment terms with a new client at the start of working with them, but if you didn’t, there’s no reason you can’t send over an invoice now with a note that simply says, “Here’s my invoice for my work in March.”

2. Candidate cried when we asked whether her current employer would make a counteroffer

We just interviewed a candidate for a managerial job at our company. The interview went rather well, particularly during the skill test exercises and the case studies problem resolution process. But when we asked her what would happen once we offer her the job — will her current employer try to retain her? — she reacted emotionally, started crying, and went to the washroom to wipe off her tears.

She said that she got emotional because she and her current employer had a discussion where her manager did not want to raise her salary. According to her, her current employer under-values her worth and had his opportunity to respond to her requests for more recognition (salary-wise), so she suggested that once we offer her a job, her current employer will not up the offer or revisit her request — he simply had his opportunity, according to her.

Nevertheless, why did she become so emotional regarding the question? How do you deal with this as a prospective employer? Do you not continue forward with an offer for employment?

Oooh, this is troubling. First of all, she’s basically telling you that if her current employer did counter-offer, she might take it (but that she believes they won’t). Second, while this reaction might be something you’d overlook for a junior or a non-managerial position, I’d be concerned about hiring her for a managerial job, where she’s going to need to have much tougher conversations with people and remain calm and unemotional. Yes, everyone has emotional moments, including great managers, but this would make me wary.

3. Leaving a temp job earlier than planned

I’ve been consulting part-time on the side for another organization, with the hopes that it would turn into something full-time eventually. It’s a new organization, and they’re still figuring out budgets, etc., and I was told several weeks ago that it would likely be a little while before they could hire anyone full-time. However, about 2 weeks later, their financial situation changed, and they are now more flexible with their hiring timeline. I had just agreed to a temp position running for several months, and reiterated my willingness to continue part-time for the new organization, with the hope that we could work out something full-time after the temp position was over.

I’ve since started the temp position (last week), and it is just not a good fit — not enough work, definitely more basic than I had been led to believe — and I’d really like to approach the first organization and let them know that the temp position isn’t a good fit, and I’d like to give my two weeks notice, if they are still interested in hiring me full-time. (Wording it more eloquently than that, of course.)

Does initially telling the first organization that I had agreed to a temp position, and now backing out of it look really, really bad? And how bad is it/how many bridges does it burn for me to be leaving a temp position much sooner than expected? To be fair, I didn’t sign a contract or anything, and the position with the other organization is one I had been pursuing long before this temp position opened up. But I worry that it looks flaky/will ruin my reputation with the temp agency (although I would be giving the standard 2 weeks notice that the agency requests).

This stuff happens with temp jobs — few people will turn down full-time employment in favor of a short-term temp job. You agency may not be willing to send you out for other long-term jobs if you go back to them in the future, but it’s not a heinous crime.

That said, I’d word your message to the first organization a little differently — don’t talk about why it’s not a good fit. Just say something like, “Things have changed a bit on my side, and I could be available for full-time work within two weeks if you’d like me to.”

4. When a hiring contact changes

I am in the process of sending out last-minute applications for summer internships. I applied to my dream organization about a month ago, and the directions on the website originally told me to send my resume, cover letter, and writing sample to Contact A. I checked the company’s website again today, and noticed that the directions on the website now stipulate that I send my resume, cover letter, etc. to Contact B.

I’m trying to resist my panicked temptation to re-send my materials, but at the same time I don’t want to be disqualified from the applicant pool for not sending my materials to the new coordinator. Advice?

Just be straightforward. Email Contact B with a note that says, “I earlier submitted these materials to Contact A but just that the instructions now state they should go to you. I’d love to talk with you about the opening if you think I might be a strong fit.”

5. Recovering after you bomb a skills test during a job interview

I’m currently going through the hiring process for a communications and marketing position. As part of the process, the hiring company has asked me to complete a standardized test. This test was basically the SATs for business and, like the SATs, I completely bombed the math portion leaving quite a few questions blank and ultimately running out of time. In reality, I’m quite good at crunching numbers, running reports and overall sticking to budgets, but have never been great at taking timed tests. I feel as though my initial interview went really well and I had a great rapport, but now I’m a bit nervous that these results have potentially knocked me out of the running completely. What do employers hope to gain from the results of tests like this?

I’ve toyed with the idea of following up with the hiring manager, via email, to provide a bit more insight into my experience and also how I make adjustments in the real world. My experience to date has always been interpreting data related to charts/graphs that I’ve set up and I can provide insight on the fly, so this really has never been an issue professionally. Is there value in doing this, or would it just serve to annoy the hiring manager? If there is value, any suggestions on how to phrase it? This is definitely one of the better opportunities available in my area so I’d hate to be passed over because of a standardized test that I don’t feel accurately reflects my experience or capabilities.

Sure, you can do that. Say that you had the sense that you didn’t do well on the test, but that while timed tests have never been your strength, you’ve been very successful at using the skills being tested in real-world work situations. Then give concrete examples of how you’ve excelled using those skills. Be specific, and make sure that whatever you offer up speaks as directly as possible to what the hiring manager’s concern is likely to be: that you don’t possess the skills the test was assessing.

6. Negotiating higher severance

I was laid off two days ago. I worked for a major corporation that had financial issues and needed to downsize the workforce. The severance package offered is 2 months paid with full benefits, then a lump sum of cash. I get my tuition reimbursement issued and all of my PTO will be paid out. Two people have advised me to negotiate my severance. In addition to higher payout (or more months of employment), I’d like to ask for copies of my most recent performance reviews (is that weird?).

Also, as an aside, I’m not angry over the whole situation. The company is going through hard times and the decision was based solely off of business needs and nothing personal. I know I had great rapport with coworkers and management and my monthly and yearly reviews were stellar.

To get more severance, there usually needs to be some incentive for the employer to give you more — such as that they want you to agree to stay longer and train a replacement or transition operations, or that they’re concerned you might otherwise sue over a real or perceived legal issue like harassment or discrimination (because you sign a release relinquishing any legal claims in exchange for severance). If you don’t have anything like that to use as incentive, they’re not likely to give you more just because you ask … although you can certainly still ask, because you never know.

You can also certainly ask for copies of your performance evaluations; you may or may not get them, but there’s nothing wrong with asking (and you should explain that you want them to document your performance for future prospective employers, since otherwise they may think you want to use them as ammunition to challenge the layoff decision in some way).

7. Online applications that ask for “additional information to support your application”

When filling out an application form and they ask for “additional information to support your application,” what are they expecting in that box? I’ve already filled in education and employment details, as well as a section on why I want/would be good for the job, and I’m drawing a blank. Am I missing something obvious?

If there’s anything you would include in a cover letter that you didn’t already include in the section on why you want and would be good at the job, include it here. Otherwise, it’s fine to ignore it.

when you keep uncovering errors made by your well-loved predecessor

A reader writes:

I just started a new job at a nonprofit organization, taking over for a beloved employee who was here for 20 years and is still a big part of our organization’s community.

He was very successful, but I am coming across a lot of pretty substantial errors he made. A good example is a grant proposal in which he basically ignored the guidelines, although we got the grant anyway. Now I am working on this year’s proposal for that grant; I have to follow the guidelines and I think I really ought to tell my boss about the discrepancies and about what I am doing differently this year. But I am hesitant to do so, because this would be about my 10th time alerting her to something I came across that he kind of messed up. I don’t want to seem as though we have a pattern of “now look at THIS thing Joe screwed up,” and really I don’t want to speak ill of him at all, especially when there never have been negative consequences (such as missing out on a grant). But she is the executive director and she should be aware of everything, especially when I am doing things very differently than he did. Any advice on how to navigate this?

Well, when you say he was “very successful,” what exactly does that mean? If it means that he achieved unusually good results, then it’s important to keep that mind when you’re assessing the mistakes you’re coming across. The grant application might be a good example of this — he didn’t follow the guidelines, but the organization got the grant anyway, so it seems like he did something right. Sure, it’s possible that that was a fluke, but if the outcome was successful, you’re probably going to have a hard time convincing people that it was a problem that he didn’t follow the guidelines. (And yes, of course it’s possible that if he had a habit of not following grant guidelines, there were other grants he applied for that the organization didn’t get … but it’s also possible that he was good enough at the job that he knew what could be ignored and what really mattered.)

Is it possible that the other mistakes you’re finding fit this profile? If something is technically a mistake or not a best practice but he got fantastic results anyway, it might be worth considering that he knew other, different ways of being effective.

Of course, maybe that’s not the case at all and the grant application example is just misleading me. If in fact you’re uncovering things that were genuinely messed up — things where the long-term results were not as good as they could have been because of his mistakes — then that’s different. But start by making sure that you’re really being objective about whether that’s the situation or not.

Either way, it’s not uncommon that you’d do things a bit different from your predecessor. So when you feel that you need to bring something to your manager’s attention — whether it’s because there’s a problem he caused that she needs to know about or because you want her to understand why you’re handling something differently — approach it as simply keeping your manager in the loop. For example: “I wanted to let you know that I’m doing the grant proposal a little differently than it was done in the past, because I’ve found that they’ll sometimes reject you if you don’t follow their guidelines to a T.” You could even ask, “I noticed that Joe didn’t strictly follow them, and I wonder if that’s because we had a more informal relationship with this foundation or whether there’s any other context like that that I should know about?”

As long as you’re not presenting this stuff in a tone of “here’s another thing I’ve uncovered,” your manager isn’t likely to think you’re being unnecessarily hard on Joe.

But what you don’t want is to find yourself in a situation where your predecessor was successful precisely because he knew when he could and couldn’t break the rules and then end up coming across yourself as someone who doesn’t have that nuanced level of understanding. So be sure that you’re assessing what you’re finding not just as “is this done correctly?” but rather as “did this get good long-term results for the organization?”

ask the readers: what do people do at conferences?

A reader writes:

I am now two months into my new job and I am really enjoying it. I am really excited about a huge conference that is coming up soon and my boss has registered both of us to go. Since this is my first professional job after college, I have never been to a conference, and really have no idea what to do at conferences. I know that there will be different sessions, discussions and networking events, but I am a little nervous because I will be mostly on my own and I am so new to the industry. What should I wear? (My industry is in philanthropy, if that helps.) What do people do at conferences? How do I use this opportunity to network?

Readers, want to lend your wisdom to help this conference novice? Weigh in with your advice in the comments section.